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tazzygirl -> "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 5:45:12 AM)
After browsing around on the other side, this is something that keeps popping up on profiles... willing to relocate. That little phrase makes me pause. I know many people who have relocated, me being one. And while im struggling not to make a judgement call, it seems to me that, at least for a dominant, the willingness to relocate speaks a bit about that person. Am i the only one who gets that niggling feeling?

lally2 -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 5:50:06 AM)
hey [:D], in a way i kindof envy them. that theyre open and free to do so. it means in this geographically challenged media where people are flung north south east and west of a fairly sizeable planet that they have broader options than someone like me, who cant relocate because of my sons education and because i wouldnt fling him into an Ms run household either, but thats another topic. so, from where i sit, its just you.... lol [:D]

DomImus -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 6:01:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl And while im struggling not to make a judgment call, it seems to me that, at least for a dominant, the willingness to relocate speaks a bit about that person. What exactly does it speak about them other than the obvious?

Twoshoes -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 6:32:09 AM)
Are you implying a Dominant willing to relocate would be unappealing, because he'd be catering to you? Personally, I'm not willing to go anywhere right now, because I'm in school, but the thing is some people have professions that essentially cause them to have to work alone (writers, mathematicians, etc), so it really, really doesn't matter quite that much where they are.

GreedyTop -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 6:34:28 AM)
some folks are more free to relocate than others, regardless of any orientation. This may be due to family stuff (divorced parent, or not), employment possibilities (especially in the current job market), other familial respnsibilities. If that stuff doesnt apply, then why shouldnt they be willing to relocate other than personal choice? I have nothing keeping me here beyond a job. I'd relocate happily (to ATL at this point..wanna be closer to Mom). Since I have that choice, why wouldnt a self identified dominant?

pyroaquatic -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 6:48:23 AM)
As others have said it could mean that they do not have any set obligations that keep them in one area. Possibly they have employment that allows them to be anywhere they wish. Or they are creepy basement dwellers who have no job. The only why to know is to satiate that curiosity and speak to them. Each circumstance is different.

subsfaith -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 6:50:15 AM)
Fast reply: If a dominant states he is willing to relocate it tells me just one thing - he is willing to relocate. I don't try and imagine anything further than that. I would much rather reserve any judgements until I have further facts. Any thing else would be plainly foolish.

tazzygirl -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 7:14:33 AM)
quote: Possibly they have employment that allows them to be anywhere they wish. Or they are creepy basement dwellers who have no job. LOL.. thanks for putting it into a quiet, succinct perspective for me, pyro! And i mean that honestly. I was looking at it from the bottom side of the coin you offered. I didnt think about the top part ~ not to be confused with Top or bottom~.

OsideGirl -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 7:30:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Twoshoes Are you implying a Dominant willing to relocate would be unappealing, because he'd be catering to you? I think the assumption that it's the submissive who must relocate is stupid. It should be a practical decision not a protocol decision.

tazzygirl -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 7:33:04 AM)
quote: Are you implying a Dominant willing to relocate would be unappealing, because he'd be catering to you? Ya know, that particular thought never crossed my mind. But thank you for knowing my mind better than I do myself. [:D]

DesFIP -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 7:38:45 AM)
The Man relocated because at the time he was working for a nationwide firm so he put in his application and after a few months an opening occurred up here. It really is entirely dependent on individual factors; ease of job transfer or job opportunities, presence of close family where you are, and so on. If you had moved from NY to CA for a job, then wouldn't you jump at the chance to move to VA, which would be much closer to visit family?

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 7:42:44 AM)
I think there are plenty of reasons a person might be willing to relocate. Retired or disabled, with no job holding them to a location. Family that has moved away, severing familial ties to a city or state. Freelancers who can work anywhere. Bottom feeding basement dwellers needing a surrogate mommy or daddy... Lotsa reasons.

tazzygirl -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 7:45:02 AM)
quote: If you had moved from NY to CA for a job, then wouldn't you jump at the chance to move to VA, which would be much closer to visit family? You obviously do not know my family... lol. sorry, i couldnt resist. But i do agree with you. I was looking at it from the basement issue and not the ability to move within an organization... or within a profession... easily.

mummyman321 -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 7:56:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl After browsing around on the other side, this is something that keeps popping up on profiles... willing to relocate. That little phrase makes me pause. I know many people who have relocated, me being one. And while im struggling not to make a judgement call, it seems to me that, at least for a dominant, the willingness to relocate speaks a bit about that person. Am i the only one who gets that niggling feeling? I tend to be cautious about the Dominant profile that say they are willing to relocate. Some truely do not have local ties and are free to move. For that I am totally fine. The other side I have experienced is: You will provide me a house and pay my expenses and the list goes on from there and they have not even met me in person yet. Any one see a problem with this??? I have not problem being a provider for someone I care about but I do know when someone is looking for a free ride. But the free loaders are usually easily flushed out in a few emails or phone calls. So to me its not really a big thing. It just means I need to do my homework on that person :)

preytolife -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 8:18:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mummyman321 I tend to be cautious about the Dominant profile that say they are willing to relocate. Some truely do not have local ties and are free to move. For that I am totally fine. The other side I have experienced is: You will provide me a house and pay my expenses and the list goes on from there and they have not even met me in person yet. Any one see a problem with this??? This. It's not my first thought, but it's something I watch out for.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 8:31:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: preytolife quote: ORIGINAL: mummyman321 I tend to be cautious about the Dominant profile that say they are willing to relocate. Some truely do not have local ties and are free to move. For that I am totally fine. The other side I have experienced is: You will provide me a house and pay my expenses and the list goes on from there and they have not even met me in person yet. Any one see a problem with this??? This. It's not my first thought, but it's something I watch out for. I once had in my profile "old fat and ugly homebody seeking same - must be willing to relocate to me." I received lots of mail along the lines of, "before I move in, how ugly are you?" People were actually jumping on the chance to relocate... That's creepy.

windchymes -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 8:39:18 AM)
Could be the dom lives in a crappy northern climate and wants to move someplace warm to get out of the snow?

Twoshoes -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 8:50:58 AM)
Oh, it's cold, it's dry, it's not even funny anymore.

allthatjaz -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 9:23:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lally2 hey [:D], in a way i kindof envy them. that theyre open and free to do so. it means in this geographically challenged media where people are flung north south east and west of a fairly sizeable planet that they have broader options than someone like me, who cant relocate because of my sons education and because i wouldnt fling him into an Ms run household either, but thats another topic. so, from where i sit, its just you.... lol [:D] I feel the same way as lally about this. Many people are ready to move on and start anew if they find the right person. Why should dominant people be any different than submissives? At the end of the day they are just people like the rest of us. How many people must look at their lives, their broken relationships, a town full of memories, the tedium of every day living and a job or career that allows them to be virtually anywhere on the globe and think, 'if the right opportunity comes along I'm off'? I always left my options open and so did Steve. Part of what brought us two together was that neither of us were clingy about our location. The worlds a very small place and we are both adventurers. Personally I would be a lot more wary of someone (who didn't have the commitment of children) who had lived in the same town all his life and never had any intentions of relocating.

preytolife -> RE: "Willing to relocate" (1/28/2011 9:40:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I once had in my profile "old fat and ugly homebody seeking same - must be willing to relocate to me." I received lots of mail along the lines of, "before I move in, how ugly are you?" People were actually jumping on the chance to relocate... That's creepy. I KNEW I was doing it wrong! goes to edit her profile again

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