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RE: Ma'am...not? - 5/7/2006 7:40:29 PM

LadyLupine

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I don't take offence at a first introduction that addresses Me as Mistress, but I will correct you if email/contact continues. What I prefer is M'Lady or Ma'am. And, really, it is the tone of your introduction that makes or breaks you. Respect and humility show through whether you can spell, articulate a complete sentance or not. Be who you are with integrity and honesty and manners.

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RE: Ma'am...not? - 5/14/2006 6:26:34 AM

Samwhiplash

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HATE being called Ma'am. I understand the origintion of it from subs from the USA.... but when an Irish sub approaches me and addresses me as Ma'am.... I want to rip his head off ;-)

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RE: Ma'am...not? - 5/14/2006 7:14:48 AM

Reflectivesoul

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I whole heartedly agree with asking someone what they would like to be called. I also agree with Lady Hugs about a first contact. Atleast the boy ( or girl) made the effort to contact you and let you know they were interested! That in itsself for a TRUE submissive is a hard thing because most are taught that they are to speak when spoken to and to not impose themselves on anyone else. I think too often people forget that respect is a two way street. Just because someone may be Dominant in nature doesnt give them a right to be down right disrespectful to a submissive that has only made the effort to say hello and ask questions of someone else. I also believe that if you dont want contacted by someone then you really ought to delete your profile here and push the off button on your computer tower.

With that said its also hard for a submissive with FemDoms because there are so many titles that are worn. How are they supposed to know what you like, especially if it isnt apparent in your id? Also I have found some contradictions in this thread as well, by some with the titles attached to their names while at the same time saying they hate being called by such, talk about sending the wrong signals out to people, if you hate something why is it attached to your name? I know that this is more than likely going to raise some feather but its all good. I just happen to hate the fact that honest submissives and slaves get attacked or degraded because they use a term. Its just a term.... and atleast the submissive didnt start with hey bitch I need layed let me stroke your pussy for a while.....

( another one of my soap boxes I guess) If a submissive comes to you with respect in his/her heart you know it by the way they present themselves to you, why attack over a title? It just completely tears down what so many FemDoms bitch they cant ever find.... the true hearted submissive. IMHO submissives have enough to worry about as to if they are going to be accepted or not or if they will ever find the Dominant that suits them without having to worry about an initial contact title. Now I do agree that if after initially being told that you prefer Milady,Miss,Ma'am,Lady etc, they continue to call you something else then they need either a foot in the ass or to just be ignored because they obviously have missed the lesson being given and the extension of familiarity being given. ( because in all honesty if we give you a title or a "pet" name to call us besides whats on the screen for all to see, you're damn fortunate because that means you're being allowed to give us a smile by calling us by a term WE like)

*puts up dukes in case any are really THAT offended by anything I've said *winks*

~RS~