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LadyPact -> RE: Should I be here? And what can I do here? (2/3/2011 11:25:08 AM)
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ORIGINAL: ziroic
Ugh, it doesn't half seem difficult to meet genuine people, even here.
The only people I've managed to have a decent conversation with are ones that insist I either join up with a dodgey-looking websites by giving away my credit card details, or to send them money to a specific address in order to cover delivery costs because they insist on sending pictures via conventional royal mail. As if an obviously purpose-made “domme4slave” email address and their actual home address is all the proof I want. It just seems, so, so, so ridiculous. There's no element of trust at all. All there seems to be is frustration, from both dominants and submissive almost entirely caused by lack of trust (rightly so due to all the scams and poor effort people put in) and the rude way a lot of people seem to go about things.
Not sure where this came from but there are a few points worth mentioning.
Let's be fair here. Do you trust everybody who just happens to send you an email on the internet? It's really not a good idea. You want proof of a home address? In My opinion, you're not going to get folks to give you that. Don't give people yours, either.
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And I know a lot of dominant ladies have said how they get frustrated reading tonnes of one or two sentence mail, but it’s surely 10x worse for males as well. You know, I actually take a lot of time reading somebody’s profile to give what I think is a very thoughtful message, which either doesn’t get a reply, or does, but only demanding money from somebody who could easily be some male scammer or whatever. It’s just incredibly time-wasting and annoying. And therefore the effort people put in sending messages is surely going to decrease more and more :\
There are a lot of threads on advice on how to send a good first contact email. You can look at it as a waste of time or the investment of time that you are going to have to make. Yes, you'll probably have a higher number of profiles that are set to make money because of the age group that you are most likely targeting. Since it is the age group that you are, you probably won't be able to avoid that.
For crap mail that you're receiving, that has a lot to do with being a "new member" and that covers the first sixty days. Most new folks aren't familiar with the reporting procedures and such, so that makes you an easy target.
They've made some really good improvements around here regarding spam and scam mail. I get so much less junk email since they were put in place. If anything, that's actually made the percentage of "good" mail go up.
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