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porcelaine -> RE: Compatability is key... (2/8/2011 11:52:37 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Choosingtochoose
A lot of people seem to forget that for a D/s relationship to work it's just like any other relationship. You have to be compatible. You have to find someone with whom you have similar interests - someone in whom you can trust and for whom you can have respect.
Greetings,
There are quite a few people that hold different viewpoints and don't associate D/s with personal relationships. Their purpose for engaging is representative of their specific tastes and doesn't always include compatibility. Furthermore, that can be interpreted in a myriad of ways and how each chooses to define "how they do this" is really theirs to make. Public service announcements typically have a noble purpose. But if someone is hellbent on heading down a particular road and oblivious to suggestions they do otherwise the outcome is unlikely to change. I really wish that we could simply accept that this is merely a cornucopia that is hand selected and individualized according to preference and sincerely respect other people's right to do such.
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Your formative experiences in D/s are going to really shape how you pursue all this so
Our formative experiences are merely that. If we choose to allow negativity to infest our mentality and foist it upon unsuspecting prospects we're only harming ourselves. As such, whatever your experience (be it good or bad), is reflected in your response and is a matter of choice. To assume that the blame can be hurled upon a ghostly entity from yesterday a million years later without taking into account the behavior that contributed to the debacle offers little benefit for the injured party. She'll merely place herself on an endless cycle of rinse and repeat.
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you're going to become one of those meek little doormats and miss out on a lot of what is really exciting and fullfilling about your journey...
Some dominants desire a woman with those attributes and there are women eagerly seeking to fill that role. For both parties it's mutually fulfilling. You propose a one-sided viewpoint based upon your personal beliefs, but fail to take into account that your truths will never be replicated to the masses. For some the doormat is to be avoided and others an unexplored abyss worth experiencing.
Namaste,
~porcelaine
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