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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/14/2011 9:51:32 AM

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Master knows my hard limits he shares most of them. He also knows my soft limits and pushes my soft limits. I totally trust him to respect my hard limits. If he ever broke them ot would totally destroy my trust in him, and i would no longer and not want to be his anymore. I know he loves me and would never break my limits and we have been together 5 years this month i should know.

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/14/2011 10:02:56 AM

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/14/2011 10:28:02 AM

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What are your thoughts about a slaves limits being broken like that? I'm new to this so I'm not really sure if this is the norm, or not

My thoughts? (and mine alone)

For me, slave = TPE = no limits. The moment there's a limit in play, then it's not a slave we're talking about. That is exactly why Carol doesn't get to say "no" or "disobey" or rule anything out. I dislike talking about "theoretical limits" because down that path lies the land of limb-chopping. So for me, a limit is encountered the moment the mistress wants something that the slave declines.

So to me, I can understand the "forced to suck two cocks" part because I really do believe in dominance and submission. But I'd interpret this situation as:

Two people who obviously have mismatched ideas of what it means to be mistress and slave. They need to decide if the relationship is worth salvaging. If so, then they need to sit down and have a long talk about what, exactly, are the expectations of each party without using BDSM jargon to do it.

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/14/2011 10:31:39 AM

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Yeah, but Jeff, that involves having communication skills. And you know how many people don't want to bother getting them.

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/20/2011 9:34:24 AM

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My clue was the care the author took to mention the cum all over the face....just makes the wanking that much sweeter.

And how about that position where he's bent over a radiator giving a blow job? I can't say I've ever seen a radiator that's not flush up against a wall or right under a window! Maybe those guys were standing outside the house getting their dicks sucked through an open window?

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/20/2011 10:39:46 AM

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I see this has been said, but I'm going to say it again for emphasis: This is altogether removed from what is acceptable

I'm a huge fan of TPE but that should

1. Be something mutually agreed upon in solemn and informed circumstances
and more importantly
2. Be under the banner of an M-type who is capable of respecting and stretching (rather than disregarding and obliterating) hard limits. Giving up the right to say 'no' is the ultimate trust, and that is a huge betrayal of it. What one has the right to do and what one ought to do are different. The key is to push hard enough to progress and keep things exciting, but not so hard that you destroy the bond or the slave.

I suppose if this was a secret fantasy that the domme was 100% sure of, it might be reasonable to push it, but a constant challenge to be that certain of what is going on in someone else's head.

Anyway, I suspect this is nothing more than masturbation fodder. I mean, a radiator? Really? Who even has those anymore? BDSM porn, like vanilla porn, tends to take an extreme and somewhat odd view of sexuality.

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/20/2011 10:43:24 AM

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No one has mentioned that you cannot be forced to suck cock? You can have it shoved in your mouth, but sucking is an action that the do-er must... do.

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/20/2011 10:57:20 AM

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No one has mentioned that you cannot be forced to suck cock? You can have it shoved in your mouth, but sucking is an action that the do-er must... do.

Cali

I think maybe people are using it allegorically rather than literally - it's clearly not a real situation, so the question is more "what if something you couldn't stop from happening was forced on you despite it being a hard limit?" Besides, biting a cock is an act of violence many wouldn't feel comfortable with under the best of circumstances, and doing it would likely get you a pretty savage beating if the bitten didn't realize the situation.

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/20/2011 11:16:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: PurpleCoconut

I freely admit that I am new to the scene, and ignorant in some things, though I am so keen to learn.
I think perhaps the person simply said they DIDN'T WANT TO do these things, and I have added the term "limit" onto this

what you need to do in this sort of discussion is imagine youre absolute, no discussion, no leeway limit and apply it here.

so..., if id been chained to a radiator and told to eat someones poo you can be sure i would say NO!

so then you apply that definite response of youres to this guys story and make up youre own mind.

how hard was that limit for him. maybe he wanted to be forced, maybe his Mistress knew that he wanted to be forced to suck cock. no one will ever know.

there is a big difference between me not wanting to do something but i will anyway and a hard limit. a hard limit (apply youre own here) is a hard limit - right?

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/22/2011 10:45:13 PM

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That shirt is so sweet, but it is spelled Fukin.

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/23/2011 11:40:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: Palliata

Anyway, I suspect this is nothing more than masturbation fodder. I mean, a radiator? Really? Who even has those anymore?

Me and many, many others in the UK :)

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/23/2011 2:11:57 PM

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The OP does sound like wank fodder to me. Also, the OP doesn't say cock-sucking was a Hard Limit for the slave, it only said he didn't want to.

However, if cock-sucking was a Hard Limit of mine that had been agreed to by my Dominant and cock was forcibly stuffed in my mouth anyway, well, I have teeth and I do KNOW how to use them. I'd totally bypass sucking and BITE.

I have soft limits and hard limits. My hard limits are immovable for a reason and they will remain that way. At the first opportunity, I would be outta there never to return.

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RE: Having your limits broken - 2/23/2011 2:13:05 PM

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meh, you'd be picking your teeth out of your shit for the next month.....

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