lizi
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ORIGINAL: wrenchdoc
I fully understand the just because you are a sub that doesn't make me your Master. and i applaud you women for some of the bad one liners used and those who pretend to be what there not, and how you deal with it.
But what i do not understand is the lack of respect when some doms try to approach with an interest in finding out if what you are both seeking might be one another,And take the time to ask the questions to try to start a info exchange . Many lady subs don't even show the respect enough to at least replay even with a " Sorry I'm not interested."
I read from a lot of female subs here want to be treated with respect and for a Master to be able to listen and be understanding. But it also seams a lot of the SUBs/SLAVES also are pretending to be what they are not. I seams that there are a lot a fakes here on both sides. I don't clam to be a Master but only a Dom male with a love of giving spankings and a few other kinks. Maybe I am not getting the CM site but so far its been a letdown .
We don't know what you're putting out there to these women, the content of your emails or what you're asking for. Different things are offensive to different people.
You got comments already about mail volume, don't discount that. It's absolutely true that writing every person back with a no thanks could be just too much time for some.
Maybe you are selecting people who aren't interested in what you are interested in - you got good feedback on that. I heartily agree that sometimes no answer is the most polite thing I can manage and the recipient would probably prefer that to the scathing comment I would otherwise give.
Some of the things that women say in their profiles are completely ignored by the men who write so the women don't feel compelled to even reply because it's just so far off their grid. Things they put in the profile that are ignored continually like friends only, no long distance, no poly, no men, etc.
Finally, you don't understand the degree of flak you get as a woman turning down offers. You get nasty things in the email box. It's easy to avoid that, you just ignore the offers you are not interested in. As it's been said to you...no reply is a reply.
I'll finish with something I've said before. When you go out to your mailbox to get the mail do you sit down and send a reply to every catalog, donation request, local advertisement, etc that is in there? Even if these pieces of unsolicited mail are written by nuns and English teachers and are impeccably worded and exceedingly kind....do you send back a no thanks, I'm not interested in mobilized scooters today letter....? No? Then why should every woman that you write spend her time replying to something she is not interested in?
You took it up on yourself to write her, why is she automatically beholden to write back? If she's not buying what you have to sell why is she committing the sin of bad manners by not putting forth the effort it takes to reply to every one trying to sell her something when she's not even in the market for it? And if she were, maybe she doesn't like the color, make, model, of what you've got to offer. She is perfectly entitled not to want to hear your sales pitch. This does not mean she is a fake, it means she isn't interested for reasons of her own in what you've got.
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