RiotGirl
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i appreciate it. bit strange though. support. You all have always been good at that. i suppose its why i came here. never really had any support other then him before. you know? In my family, you're just supposed to suck it up. Wimps are bad, cry babies are bad. Used to hate crying cos it made me weak. He's told me it doesnt. Plus alot say that it shows something else or other. Dont have any family around but my mother. My sister is in OK, my brother in TX, my father in London, extended family members are in Tx, CO, Va, CA. My friends; england, va, La. Mostly in Va. Bit far. i know i can call em, i just dont want to. i always tend to withdraw from my friends when things go bad, they're used to it and know i'll pop up when i'm ready. They're good friends. i've like a million negative scenarios running through my head. He says to be positive, i told him its so hard cos all i can see right now is him not being around. Not living here. Not coming home at night. He isnt moving that far away. Only an hour and i can hitchike it easy if i had too. Dont have to, but its not a long hike. But it seems like a million miles away. i dont feel as bad as i did last night = ) i just feel really really sad. Like my world is shattering in two and it is. Half will be with him and half here with me. yeah i'm sort of bound here. With a little one, well established, 5 animals.. you know the drill. He says he doesnt know how long it'll be.. which of course just made me cry more. Cos of course i'm thinking negatively and see 2 years stretching out infront of me. Absence does alot of things. One of my ways of finding out how well my r/s is was to go away for awhile. None of them survived it. Course Himself and i have survived a few seperations. So thats good. i'm sooooooooooooo soooooo afraid i'm going to lose him. Dunno how often i'll see him. Maybe every weekend? Thats not too bad, but me and my mind can see some weekends i wont see him.. stretching into more back to back weekends of not seeing him. you're right Misfire. Things worthwhile are never easy, the things that are arent usually worthwhile. Nothing good comes easy. you're right too LA. Track record, i believe in you know. My dad once told me its a good way to find out about some one. Look at their track record. Course i was asking hiim if my mother was nuts or not. The track record is good here. i should hold on to that. No matter whats happened, its been okay. things worked out. music is good. Usually helps with alot of things, but seeing as i cant do much with out welling up in tears - it'll just make me cry more and harder. heh i've been trying not to cry. it isnt really working well. Sometimes i manage to escape with just teary eyes or a some falling out. i feel abit better today. So maybe in 2 weeks i'll feel alot better. Maybe i'll be able to handle it then. i should count my self lucky that it isnt tomorrow or the next day. That he'll be here to help me deal with it. But i feel bad, i worry, i dont want to do this to him. dont want him to feel bad. and i know he hates seeing me hurt. Most dont know it, but i'm really really senstive. He's constantly trying to block out hurt for me, from others mostly. He trys to like counter it. i feel bad for crying. like i'm putting added weight on him. i just cant stop it. i AM weak. i always get upset when something happens. i always have a hard time. i always come through, but i still have a hard time. Not much choice when it comes to coming through tho. Arent many alternatives. hard to think positively with millions of negative scenarios/outcomes running through my head. and i'm not emailing anyone, but hanks. i dun like sympathy or pity or others feeling sorry for me. And well to talk to some one, even online.. i dunno. i've only told one person in this online world i have. i never though that anything could be said, but you all have showed me that it is possible to say comforting things. Whys that thought make me wanna cry? So silly eh? thanks for hearing me. i'm sure it'll get easier with time. Course everything gets easier with time. Bit fraid of that too. thanks for hearing me i had to edit cos i always forget words
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