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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 5:21:44 AM   
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i appreciate it.  bit strange though.  support.  You all have always been good at that.  i suppose its why i came here.  never really had any support other then him before.  you know?  In my family, you're just supposed to suck it up. Wimps are bad, cry babies are bad.  Used to hate crying cos it made me weak.  He's told me it doesnt.  Plus alot say that it shows something else or other.  Dont have any family around but my mother.  My sister is in OK, my brother in TX, my father in London, extended family members are in Tx, CO, Va, CA.  My friends; england, va, La.  Mostly in Va.  Bit far.  i know i can call em, i just dont want to.  i always tend to withdraw from my friends when things go bad, they're used to it and know i'll pop up when i'm ready.  They're good friends. 

i've like a million negative scenarios running through my head.  He says to be positive, i told him its so hard cos all i can see right now is him not being around.  Not living here.  Not coming home at night.  He isnt moving that far away.  Only an hour and i can hitchike it easy if i had too.  Dont have to, but its not a long hike.  But it seems like a million miles away.

i dont feel as bad as i did last night = )  i just feel really really sad.  Like my world is shattering in two and it is.  Half will be with him and half here with me. 

yeah i'm sort of bound here.  With a little one, well established, 5 animals.. you know the drill.  He says he doesnt know how long it'll be.. which of course just made me cry more.  Cos of course i'm thinking negatively and see 2 years stretching out infront of me. 

Absence does alot of things.  One of my ways of finding out how well my r/s is was to go away for awhile.  None of them survived it.  Course Himself and i have survived a few seperations.  So thats good.  i'm sooooooooooooo soooooo afraid i'm going to lose him.  Dunno how often i'll see him.  Maybe every weekend?  Thats not too bad, but me and my mind can see some weekends i wont see him.. stretching into more back to back weekends of not seeing him.

you're right Misfire.  Things worthwhile are never easy, the things that are arent usually worthwhile.  Nothing good comes easy. 

you're right too LA.  Track record, i believe in you know.  My dad once told me its a good way to find out about some one.  Look at their track record.  Course i was asking hiim if my mother was nuts or not.  The track record is good here.  i should hold on to that.  No matter whats happened, its been okay.  things worked out. 

music is good.  Usually helps with alot of things, but seeing as i cant do much with out welling up in tears - it'll just make me cry more and harder.  heh i've been trying not to cry.  it isnt really working well.  Sometimes i manage to escape with just teary eyes or a some falling out. 

i feel abit better today.  So maybe in 2 weeks i'll feel alot better.  Maybe i'll be able to handle it then.  i should count my self lucky that it isnt tomorrow or the next day.  That he'll be here to help me deal with it.  But i feel bad, i worry, i dont want to do this to him.  dont want him to feel bad.  and i know he hates seeing me hurt.  Most dont know it, but i'm really really senstive.  He's constantly trying to block out hurt for me, from others mostly.  He trys to like counter it.  i feel bad for crying.  like i'm putting added weight on him.  i just cant stop it. 

i AM weak.  i always get upset when something happens.  i always have a hard time.  i always come through, but i still have a hard time.  Not much choice when it comes to coming through tho.  Arent many alternatives.

hard to think positively with millions of negative scenarios/outcomes running through my head.  and i'm not emailing anyone, but hanks.  i dun like sympathy or pity or others feeling sorry for me.  And well to talk to some one, even online.. i dunno.  i've only told one person in this online world i have. 

i never though that anything could be said, but you all have showed me that it is possible to say comforting things.  Whys that thought make me wanna cry?  So silly eh? 

thanks for hearing me.  i'm sure it'll get easier with time.  Course everything gets easier with time.  Bit fraid of that too.

thanks for hearing me

i had to edit cos i always forget words


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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 5:24:50 AM   
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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 5:32:14 AM   
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Hmmm... riot, i dont think I have enough info.


enough info for what?  to make a judgement?  come to a conclusion?  enough info for what?  no info is really needed, but i tried answering others questions as they're being really nice and taking the time to care.  plus it'd suck if i just came to write out all the negative crap running in my head.  you dont NEED info.  there is nothing to decide figure out.  life is dealing another blow right now.  all thats to it.  Thankfully course, he's here to soften it

if i came to talk about the last time i saw my west coast family and my uncle came on to me, you gonna say not enough info?


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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 5:50:05 AM   
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Riotgirl....i wish you the best in handling the changes in your life, it does seem that you do not give yourself ..enough credit.  Do you trust your Master?  If so...then believe in him...and believe in your ability to handle this.  If you do not trust him and believe what He says regarding this change, then move on...work on making  yourself. happy...strong...etc....and start anew.
Do you work?....have outside interests?...if so...those things can be a big plus in taking your focus off of negative feelings.
Please consider your safety....and NEVER hitchhike  to go and see your Master...i find it hard to believe that any Master would allow his sub/slave to do such a thing, so i'm sure He would frown upon that.

best wishes...

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 6:30:39 AM   
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If he's moving to save money and drive closer to work, why not pack up your bags and move with him?

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 6:33:00 AM   
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he doesnt allow me to hitch hike.  Yes i do believe he is telling the truth, i do in his words.  i dont believe in life.  Life has a way of getting in the way, of changing things.  Even those with the best of intentions, those that promise from here to the moon.. life gets in the way.  i once had a really really good friend that helped me work through some major depression when i was 17 - he told me he'd always be there.. he'd Never let life get in the way.  He swore up and down, cos well, life has gotten in the way of much for me.  Yet, no matter what he said, life got in the way. 

if its ment to be it'll come back to me.  yeah i know right. 

everythings making me cry.  it sucks.  heh i started bawling when i passed our 7/11 on the corner up the street.  even sitting here writing this stuff makes me cry.  Right now its not!  woo hoo.  even my damn kitten makes me cry.  my bed makes me cry.  suppose i shouldnt get into it as i'll start to cry.  But it might be good to write it out and then laugh at myself and have others join in.  teach me not to be so retarded. 

know i should stop thinking about it, focus on other things, but its so hard.  almost everything involves him you know? plus my mind just doesnt want to wander. 

i think i'm going to go add all those i speak to here on my favorites list.. so i can focus on all of you instead.  heh

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 6:38:02 AM   
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He knows that you have a hard time dealing with things like this but somewhere deep in his loving heart for you he feels that you can and will handle this. You have to know that too. Not saying that right now it will be easy. You say you have a little one and 5 animals, put yourself and your newfound time into them. If you work put yourself into your work a little more(if that's possible). If you don't work, now that it's getting warmer and staying light outside later go out and do things with your little one. Not to forget Him but to focus your  energy and love towards something else positive. Give Him a reason to be proud of His little girl. He believes in you--We all believe in you. You need to find a way to believe in yourself. Even if that means coming back [here] as often as needed. I don't think anyone [here] who has offered you support/words of comfort would mind at all. Just know that Daddys dont' abandon their little girls, and somehow someway it's going to be okay. That brings to mind a song by Nickelback/"Someday". Don't know if you even listen to Nickelback but I haven't listened to it in a while and I had to play it just for you. It brings back memories  (and tears) of a time with my (now ex-fiance). I'll try to keep this short(don't mean to digress):


But when me and my fiance first hooked up 'officially' we had some issues to overcome. Seemed like everything was keeping us apart. One of them was that even thou we lived in the same state we lived 2.5 hrs away from each other. We really wanted to do away with the distance but other circumstances in our lives wouldn't allow for that at the time. It was break my heart to deal with him, talk to him, then get to see him but it be for a limited amount of time. I didn't realize how difficult it was on him either until one day he asked me to listen to this song that this was a fav or his at the time. It broke my heart but helped me as well because here I was crying all the time, endlessly thinking of only how much I was hurting. On the outside he appeared to be handling it so well. I too thought I was being a baby about things because when my heart hurts I cry. That's all to it, when I love someone and my heart  hurts it feels like I am going to die and I cry alot. But getting back to him, after I heard this song he was liking we talked more about his feelings about our situation. I was still hurting but it helped me to understand him and to find a way for me to deal.

I don't know if any of this will help you at all *shrugs* but I feel ya' pain as it pertains to loving someone so much that it hurts. Even thou he is your Master and mines wasn't  me and my love were both were into the lifestyle. We were both dominants but not with each other-kinda weird I know. (God I can't believe I just cried listening to that song)  Buy being away from each other didn't put an end to our relationship. Anyways....You are not weak...you are stronger than you think or give yourself credit for. Take it one day at a time, sweetie!
Peace and be blessed~


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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 6:40:50 AM   
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quote:

If he's moving to save money and drive closer to work, why not pack up your bags and move with him?


cos it the cost of it would prolly out weigh the saving.  know how expensive it is to move with pets?  a dog.. 2 cats... a kitten.  plus i've a little one in school. she's established.  she'd be heartbroken. her friends.. awwwwwwwww she's gonna be heartbroken anyways.  Looking at her makes me cry.. i sooooooo dont want to tell her.  She'll prolly be okay.  She takes things in strides but will ask tons of  questions and not shed a tear.  She'll prolly be like "okay"  and then of course i'll cry and cos she's a sweetie she'll tell me its okay mom.  every time i look at her i start to cry.  i'm worried how she'll take it.  Himself gave me a good explanation to give.  which is pretty much the truth LOL  so i suppose it'll work. 

yeah i'll be fine.  i'll play the patience game.  i've waited for others, 2 of them, for over 5 years and i knew they wouldnt come back.  Atleast i know he's coming back right?  course thinking that makes me cry!  so stupid.  But even if the long run doesnt look good in my eyes. here now he's coming back. 

thanks for letting me work this out here.  i just cant do it really person to person. 

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 6:42:26 AM   
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you seem to have forgotten something. there was a reason that he chose you, there is something inside you that made him do that.  i know your sad/mad/weepy/confused and all around fucked up about this right now and thats ok, your supposed to be. but in a couple of day when the tears have dried up and your head stops spinning, take a really really deep breath and give him a reason to make this work out for the two of you, but that also means that you have to do your part. i'm sure that he doesnt want to do this as much as you dont want him to, and giving him a bunch of grief for not being able to come over one night is just going to make it so much harder, you can still be disapointed and understanding at the same time.and spend the night writting him a 30 page letter.

i guess what i'm trying to say is trust in yourself to be a partner in making this work, hold your head up high (at least at high as your allowed) and make both of you poud. faith Riot, its all about faith.

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 6:55:12 AM   
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Thanks Queen.  It did help.  Everyone here is helping.  Just hearing me helps and strangely what they're saying helps.  sooo strange.  why are you all so good at it?

he does seem to be handling it very well.  though i know he worries about me and i worry about having him worry about me.  i worry about him worrying anymore about me.  Or not doing whats "right" cos of how i feel.  But in the moving away, he seems fine.  thanks for the song, but i cant listen to it.  all i do is cry, i neednt do so anymore ya know? 

my fathers all walked out when i was a kid, one way or anothe. hell even my mother walked out for awhile.  But i suppose they werent "daddy's" they were fathers.  Daddys, real Daddy's dont abandon their little girls, right?  Funny every time he says that it like quiets me.  it wraps around me and helps me feel okay. 

ldr's are hard.  i've heard about it and have had limited experience.  they suck and my best wishes to you on dealing with it.  if you ever need a friend just mail me.  it doesnt hurt cos he's my Master you know.  With that, i'm just freaked out about losing his control.  heh.  its a multiple sided thing.  ah well.

heh, yall need to stop responding so i can go focus on adding ppl to my favorites list so my nose can stop running.  lovely picture isnt that?

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 6:58:31 AM   
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you seem to have forgotten something. there was a reason that he chose you, there is something inside you that made him do that. i know your sad/mad/weepy/confused and all around fucked up about this right now and thats ok, your supposed to be. but in a couple of day when the tears have dried up and your head stops spinning, take a really really deep breath and give him a reason to make this work out for the two of you, but that also means that you have to do your part. i'm sure that he doesnt want to do this as much as you dont want him to, and giving him a bunch of grief for not being able to come over one night is just going to make it so much harder, you can still be disapointed and understanding at the same time.and spend the night writting him a 30 page letter.

i guess what i'm trying to say is trust in yourself to be a partner in making this work, hold your head up high (at least at high as your allowed) and make both of you poud. faith Riot, its all about faith.

blue

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yeah i know and trust me - i'm not gonna do aaaaaaaanything that'll chance screwing up he'll come back.  nor say anything.  i'm gonna do my best while he's gone.  i'm gonna make him proud.  damn it.  my best is usually great when i put some effort into it.  i'm gonna do damn well and hopefully not screw things up. 

though i cant help but think i already have.  He says i havent and i know the reason,. cant help but think i've must of done something terribly wrong and not know it.

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 7:12:17 AM   
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Hello Riot,
Writing as youve been doing is great. Its getting it off your chest which is about all you can do at this point it appears.
Even better is journaling.
Get yourself a brand new notebook, or one of those pretty hardcover books, thats blank inside and write down your emotions on your lonely nights.
 
Everytime thoughts side track you, (good or bad) put it down in that book.
Its a place for all them swirling thoughts. Write your anger, your sadness, your love for him, your hatred for whats going on..ALL of it.
Let the tears drip on the pages. Tears cleanse the soul.
 
Once you place your thoughts somewhere they dont reoccur 'as much' .. thier now somewhere, not just in your mind wanting to come out.
 
You may have heard of this idea, but you wouldnt believe how truly helpful it is to have a book you can write in. And write it with this in mind: .. maybe you will let him see it, maybe you wont.
So dont hold back in it thinking "well he wont like what I say.. so I better not say such and such".. Just let her rip! Give it hell babe. He dont have to see the book at all, (at least not right now) if showing him would prevent you from adding all your thoughts.
 
This is an idea I got from a psycologist's book, her name is Barbera De Angelis PHD who matter of fact is a relationships psycologist, you might like to read some of her stuff as well.
 
Best wishes to you,
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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 7:13:42 AM   
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You are most welcome. These things just come from the heart of experience. Well, I really have to jet now as I am late for a meeting (oops). I will catch you later tonight, sweetie.
Peace and much luv~

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 7:17:48 AM   
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i have a book with my Daddy, because we cant be together all the time. i keep it with me all the time and everytime i think of something i want to tell him or even just whats going on in my day and once a week or so he takes it with him and when he can ( hes really busy) he makes notes in it for me. that really helped me keep myself close to him.

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 7:47:41 AM   
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i'm doing abit better, i havent cried in around an hour and 45 minutes.  thats something!  yay me.  crap.  eh, i'm focusing on all of you. rounding up the regulars on the forums, or even rather those that are regulars to me that i've formed some sort of an opionon about.  figured its smarter then having random ppl i dont know and prolly will never know on my favorite list.

and thinking about food.  which is strange, but healthier then chain smoking i suppose, but i'll be really mad if i put on weight


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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 7:52:47 AM   
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Sorry you have to go thru this.  But if history shows that it will be all right, then it will be.

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 8:49:43 AM   
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whew some of you are hard to find!  i know i'm missing some but i cant think of em right at the top of my head.  Good to think about others, gets you out of your head.  so far i've thought of all of you for abit now and havent gotten upset.  i was even able to think about how his shampoo bottles wont be there anymore and not cry = ) 

maybe i will be okay.. which i was so thinking.. just now i tried thinking about being okay and not being so bad him not hear and well geez i had to shut myself up and not cry.  Sense of coming doom is ok right?  yeah i'm leaving this thread.

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 11:07:49 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

of saddness.  pain. i think i'd like to throw a fit, break things, throw things through the sliding glass door.  break things on walls.  shatter.  i think i cant stop crying either.  drown in tears.  i wouldnt mind.  i think not caring would be good, close off.  i think i want to fight, scream throw a fit.  no cant change the emotion.  anger is better. no think i'm dying inside.  dont care anymore.  no. i want to scream.

he's movin out.  save money.  assures me it'll be ok.  his word. i dun care if i'm not being strong.  i'm not.  i'm a weak little crybaby.  says he's not leaving me.  cant look him in the eye makes me cry.  he says not to think negative but positive.  been through worse - should be no sweat. i can do it - i'll be okay

i believe in time.  time tells you everything.  the truth can not out run time. he says its not for long.. 6months maybe, didnt hear that part.  wait patiently for time to pass.  you let go, enjoy the moment and every time your gaurd goes down its taken away.  no matter waht. it is.  you learn its okay, you trust its yours and then is taken.  when the walls are down. 

he says he says its okay.  his word.  it'll be okay.  Daddys dont abandon their little girls.  why do i feel like my world caved in and i'm dying inside



For a girl who is built to serve and love, this is terrifying—especially when she has come to a place of comfort and protection in living with her Master. As for saving money, this can be done in other ways without discarding one's female; the only time I discard is when I am unhappy with a slave, never over something like money. If money is tight, is it not easier to find ways to reduce the costs of keeping her, rather than removing her? Surely, there must be something that can be done.


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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 11:20:47 AM   
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The motivation is financial, Celeste. Moving halfway would cost as much as not moving at all as the distance to be crossed has not changed.


Not necessarily. In my first marriage, my husband had a gas guzzler and I had a bike, so we moved closer to his work. The two hour trip on my bike didn't eat the same amount of gas that a two hour trip in his car ate, so for us, it made sense. You have to also consider there are going to be two mortgages (or rents) to pay now. Moving half-way could solve the problem, but I don't know enough about it to offer anything more.

It just sucks all the way around because, as Riot said, there is also a child who is established.

I can't imagine being in such a situation where Himself would move out and leave me here. I think I'd react like Riot. I would probably cry a lot and want to throw things. I think I'd also feel abandoned.. I don't know. I don't want to have to go through it, that's for sure.

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RE: think i'm going to die - 5/5/2006 12:49:30 PM   
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yeah me either celeste..... me fucking either.   But i suppose i'm lucky.  Whats worse them him moving out?  Him breaking up/releasing me.  Sounds like one of those "whats grosser then gross" jokes.  One live baby eating its way out of a 100 dead babies.  aaaaaaaaaaaaah yummy

Amayos - i'm wondering if thats why i cant swing my mind around to the positive of the situation.  Yeah, surely something else could be done.  He doesnt have to pay rent where he's moving to.  His dad and him work together, and its right close to the job.  Loads cheaper you see.

i find myself getting like momentarily angry.  Angry at him.  Just flashes of it.  Though i'm barely crying now and i manage to shut myself up when i start.  Angry and like i want to say screw you.  Not obey, not listen, turn my back and say screw you.  But only flashes of it.. only two actually.. once earlier and then when i read your post amayos. 

But i've got to hold on to his words.  i have his word.  He wouldnt give if it was just some devious sinister plan of getting rid of me.  As thats how it feels.   i have his words, struggle through, till the sun comes out again.  i'll have to hold on to them to struggle through.  Otherwise its gonna be lost.  Specially if anger or resentment takes over.

think positive he says

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