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FukinTroll -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 10:39:32 AM)
This thread is very difficult for me to comment on cuz I am not a Top, so couldn't really comment or even wrap muh head around the responsibility of a Top. I do not play, scene or any other label that is attached to it. I do what I do. There is kinky stuff involved in my dynamic... wanna see a troll drool? Show up with rope in hand and say; Um... Mr Troll sir, I cannot seem to get this rope around me and these damn high heels just get in the way. If my head does not explode right then and there, yer in fer tha bondage fukin ov a life time!* For me it is Total Power Exchange. It isn't partial power, tentative power with these addendum's, it is TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE! You're mind, heart, body and soul is mine and becomes my personal playground. Total Power over you, with a glance, a whisper even a text; I have you where I want you. I need my girls to have their happy on and I will use my power, the power they hand to me as caretaker of, to facilitate that happy to the best of my ability. To address the thread, I can only do so as a D from my personal dynamic: The power they give to me comes with great responsibility. Submission is not a gift, it is fukin plunder. The power of deference is my friend. Their well being is my responsibility, just as mine is theirs. This is not a democracy, it is a fascist dictatorship. However your opinion is valuable, but not necessary to the operation of TrollTopia. If I am not good/the best person for them, they will be sent on. Vice-versa, I will not abide anyone not good for me. Finally (I use this tentatively), my greatest responsibility is to ensure she/they know that they are the center of my universe and love, a powerful deep committed love, is my ultimate goal. YMMV SLURP~ P.S. Gonna wag the icky finger of doom at Aileen... good job girl. *Troll Enterprises acknowledges the fact the FukinTroll is a sick and twisted sumbitch that gets his freak on at home. Troll Enterprises does not recommend nor encourage anyone to show up with rope with the expectation of not getting fucked. Void where prohibited, coming to a bridge near you.

TotalDiscipline -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 11:05:08 AM)
Responsibility: caring for her.

NihilusZero -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 11:38:37 AM)
Honesty. Competence. Communication. About the same traits you expect from your mechanic when you go in to have your car worked on.

Prinsexx -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 12:01:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 0ldhen During some recent threads this question has come up a lot, so after much thinking about how to present this without this topic becoming a "this role is better than that role" war, with the help of some friends I figured out how to pose these questions. Yes, I know, all of that thinking for those couple of lines ? Let's just say I was not wearing my "I am so smart" pjs this week, lol. I'd like to hear from all types here please and thank you. What are a Top’s responsibilities? Before, during and after play? Does any of this carry over into the day to day relationship? How does this differ from what one would expect from a dominant? Both in a relationship and during casual play? To 'top' is a process, as in 'topping' although, (as in the linguistic slide towards making processes into things) the process is mostly accrued to the 'top'. But anypne can do the topping, even (ironically) from the bottom. The master/dominant/domme insturcts who does the topping. When topping occurs outside of instruction I feel really uneasy indeed it sickens me at a certain point although I have the sort of disposition and personality that makes others/invites others to 'top' me. Topping can be psychological or physical. As I remain a masochist I often like someone to take charge of needling me or being my pain in the arse.

LillyoftheVally -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 12:29:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 0ldhen What are a Top’s responsibilities? Before, during and after play? Does any of this carry over into the day to day relationship? How does this differ from what one would expect from a dominant? Both in a relationship and during casual play? Play the responsibility is always safety and awareness, before during and after, to offer decent after care etc this doesnt differ if they are a top a dominanant my partner or casual

rick1283 -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 1:57:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll This thread is very difficult for me to comment on cuz I am not a Top, so couldn't really comment or even wrap muh head around the responsibility of a Top. I do not play, scene or any other label that is attached to it. I do what I do. There is kinky stuff involved in my dynamic... wanna see a troll drool? Show up with rope in hand and say; Um... Mr Troll sir, I cannot seem to get this rope around me and these damn high heels just get in the way. If my head does not explode right then and there, yer in fer tha bondage fukin ov a life time!* For me it is Total Power Exchange. It isn't partial power, tentative power with these addendum's, it is TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE! You're mind, heart, body and soul is mine and becomes my personal playground. Total Power over you, with a glance, a whisper even a text; I have you where I want you. I need my girls to have their happy on and I will use my power, the power they hand to me as caretaker of, to facilitate that happy to the best of my ability. To address the thread, I can only do so as a D from my personal dynamic: The power they give to me comes with great responsibility. Submission is not a gift, it is fukin plunder. The power of deference is my friend. Their well being is my responsibility, just as mine is theirs. This is not a democracy, it is a fascist dictatorship. However your opinion is valuable, but not necessary to the operation of TrollTopia. If I am not good/the best person for them, they will be sent on. Vice-versa, I will not abide anyone not good for me. Finally (I use this tentatively), my greatest responsibility is to ensure she/they know that they are the center of my universe and love, a powerful deep committed love, is my ultimate goal. YMMV SLURP~ P.S. Gonna wag the icky finger of doom at Aileen... good job girl. *Troll Enterprises acknowledges the fact the FukinTroll is a sick and twisted sumbitch that gets his freak on at home. Troll Enterprises does not recommend nor encourage anyone to show up with rope with the expectation of not getting fucked. Void where prohibited, coming to a bridge near you. Careful with that, a cross dresser may try his luck [sm=banana.gif] But other than that, your post really surprised me. You aren't nearly as arrogant and detached as you normally act!

FukinTroll -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 1:59:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rick1283 Careful with that, a cross dresser may try his luck [sm=banana.gif] But other than that, your post really surprised me. You aren't nearly as arrogant and detached as you normally act! HEY! That's just fukin mean. DO NOT EVER BESMIRCH MY ARROGANT DETACHMENT! SLURP~ ETA: Maybe it should have been impugn? Where tha fuk is NZ when ya need him?

MrRodgers -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 2:20:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll quote: ORIGINAL: rick1283 Careful with that, a cross dresser may try his luck [sm=banana.gif] But other than that, your post really surprised me. You aren't nearly as arrogant and detached as you normally act! HEY! That's just fukin mean. DO NOT EVER BESMIRCH MY ARROGANT DETACHMENT! SLURP~ ETA: Maybe it should have been impugn? Where tha fuk is NZ when ya need him? Oh yes, our insouciance is supposed be one of our more attractive features.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 3:39:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rick1283 quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll This thread is very difficult for me to comment on cuz I am not a Top, so couldn't really comment or even wrap muh head around the responsibility of a Top. I do not play, scene or any other label that is attached to it. I do what I do. There is kinky stuff involved in my dynamic... wanna see a troll drool? Show up with rope in hand and say; Um... Mr Troll sir, I cannot seem to get this rope around me and these damn high heels just get in the way. If my head does not explode right then and there, yer in fer tha bondage fukin ov a life time!* For me it is Total Power Exchange. It isn't partial power, tentative power with these addendum's, it is TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE! You're mind, heart, body and soul is mine and becomes my personal playground. Total Power over you, with a glance, a whisper even a text; I have you where I want you. I need my girls to have their happy on and I will use my power, the power they hand to me as caretaker of, to facilitate that happy to the best of my ability. To address the thread, I can only do so as a D from my personal dynamic: The power they give to me comes with great responsibility. Submission is not a gift, it is fukin plunder. The power of deference is my friend. Their well being is my responsibility, just as mine is theirs. This is not a democracy, it is a fascist dictatorship. However your opinion is valuable, but not necessary to the operation of TrollTopia. If I am not good/the best person for them, they will be sent on. Vice-versa, I will not abide anyone not good for me. Finally (I use this tentatively), my greatest responsibility is to ensure she/they know that they are the center of my universe and love, a powerful deep committed love, is my ultimate goal. YMMV SLURP~ P.S. Gonna wag the icky finger of doom at Aileen... good job girl. *Troll Enterprises acknowledges the fact the FukinTroll is a sick and twisted sumbitch that gets his freak on at home. Troll Enterprises does not recommend nor encourage anyone to show up with rope with the expectation of not getting fucked. Void where prohibited, coming to a bridge near you. Careful with that, a cross dresser may try his luck [sm=banana.gif] But other than that, your post really surprised me. You aren't nearly as arrogant and detached as you normally act! I didn't type any post.

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 10:22:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rick1283 Careful with that, a cross dresser may try his luck [sm=banana.gif] But other than that, your post really surprised me. You aren't nearly as arrogant and detached as you normally act! Geezzz People, I am getting tired of posting this; Fukin Troll is all about the pussy, the whole pussy and nothing but the pussy! Have a clue by four, Troll has been here a longgg time, he even has prior incarnation as the Trickster God. Read more of him, you might learn something, like how to get free tweeter pics in your mailbox and other useful shit like that. The arrogance and detachment are an important part of a Trolls makeup, much like the slurps and extremely overly developed green donk, so do not disparage those else the Trollops will eat your brain whle you sleep!

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 10:28:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll Finally (I use this tentatively), my greatest responsibility is to ensure she/they know that they are the center of my universe and love, a powerful deep committed love, is my ultimate goal. Me Darlin Troll, while there is sooo much of your post I fulley intend to dissect and comment on, this line cannot wait until morning, whew....you know how to make a girl's heart go pitter patt, her belly fill with flutterbyes, and her eyes get teary. Simply beautul!

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 10:30:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker I didn't type any post. Well a day! Since I am the OP, I guess it falls upon me to inquire; Why not?

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/5/2011 10:33:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Prinsexx The master/dominant/domme insturcts who does the topping. Thank you for your answer hon, though it leaves me a bit confused as your meaning.

rick1283 -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/6/2011 4:49:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 0ldhen quote: ORIGINAL: rick1283 Careful with that, a cross dresser may try his luck [sm=banana.gif] But other than that, your post really surprised me. You aren't nearly as arrogant and detached as you normally act! Geezzz People, I am getting tired of posting this; Fukin Troll is all about the pussy, the whole pussy and nothing but the pussy! Have a clue by four, Troll has been here a longgg time, he even has prior incarnation as the Trickster God. Read more of him, you might learn something, like how to get free tweeter pics in your mailbox and other useful shit like that. The arrogance and detachment are an important part of a Trolls makeup, much like the slurps and extremely overly developed green donk, so do not disparage those else the Trollops will eat your brain whle you sleep! Trust me, it didn't take long for me to figure any of that out. I was just pointing out that it could have looked like an open invitation.

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/6/2011 5:20:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NihilusZero Honesty. Competence. Communication. Thank you NZ, if you are the real NZ. The brevity of your answer leads me to believe you are an imposter or worse a pod person. Who are you and what have you done with our most loquacious poster?

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/6/2011 5:21:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rick1283 Trust me, it didn't take long for me to figure any of that out. I was just pointing out that it could have looked like an open invitation. Good fellow, have a Trollhouse cookie.

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/6/2011 5:23:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker I didn't type any post. Then explain that! ^!

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/6/2011 5:43:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll I do what I do. For me it is Total Power Exchange. It isn't partial power, tentative power with these addendum's, it is TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE! You're mind, heart, body and soul is mine and becomes my personal playground. Total Power over you, with a glance, a whisper even a text; I have you where I want you. I need my girls to have their happy on and I will use my power, the power they hand to me as caretaker of, to facilitate that happy to the best of my ability. The power they give to me comes with great responsibility. Their well being is my responsibility, just as mine is theirs. This is not a democracy, it is a fascist dictatorship. However your opinion is valuable, but not necessary If I am not good/the best person for them, they will be sent on. Vice-versa, I will not abide anyone not good for me. Wow, this a good bit to address. First thank you Troll for this post. I love the first line, Spoken like a true D. Total Power Exchange, you know I often wonder what those three seemingly innocent words mean to those who use them. Often I see members on the other side with those words in their profile, read said profile and am left shaking my head. Cool, I think, YOU are in charge. In charge of WHAT exactly. Woohoo so you are in charge of the rope and the floggers, great. What about the all important "happy"? Apologies Troll dear, that term fit better than any I could think of. If I am going to place my entire being in your hands, you damn sure better be in charge of everything. Now that does not mean I expect micro management. But it does mean I expect you to be there facing whatever comes down the path, my guard and my shield in life. It also goes without saying, to my mind at least, that while you are standing in front of me, I will have your back. Now to digress a bit. I think (yes, heavens help us all) too often folks have their masochism and submission way to tangled together. Same goes for their dominance and their sadism. The power they give to me comes with great responsibility. Their well being is my responsibility, just as mine is theirs. No long creed, no huge explanation, just two simple lines, yet to me they perfectly a describe a dominant.

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/6/2011 5:44:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TotalDiscipline Responsibility: caring for her. Thank you TD, which role are you describing here?

0ldhen -> RE: Responsibilities of a Top? (3/6/2011 5:46:24 AM)
I'd also like to extend a Thank you to LOV AND Mr.Rodgers.

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