agirl
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It doesn't really matter who's to blame. The whole thing is bigger than *less than attentive parents, that don't respond to notes and letters*, or *teacher's that attach notes to clothing*. (has snail-mail gone by the board altogether, by the way, if the aim was to ensure Mum and Dad were fully informed, especially if the problem warrented a note home)
The communication between the lad's educators and his parents was lax. It would have been far better, for the child himself, if the focus had been on sorting that out, rather than making a 3-ring-circus out of it.
My children OFTEN did not bring letters to my attention, of ANY kind, even ones regarding exceptional behaviour..........Because once they were home, they switched off, wanted to run in the garden, let off steam and were back in *homey herb garden* with supper smelling so nice as it simmered away and brothers and sisters to play with who they hadn't seen all day. It was a world away from school.
AFTER supper, it was folders out, letters read, chats about school, homework looked at and discussed and reading books read. If a letter had some niggle or problem, rather like Arpig, we'd have a chat about it and pop in to have a chat with their teacher the very next day. These people had my children all day from the age of 4 yrs old....we NEEDED to be in close touch. We had to know and understand each other to get the best outcome for MY children. They weren't there to babysit them, they were doing their job and it was up to ME to ensure my children did THEIR job.
I may be a parent, and a *teacher* of my OWN children but I am not a teacher in a classroom with the responsibility of ensuring that 24 children (sometimes more) all get the attention they need with their varying abilities and achieve their best. There were children that were a constant disruption and frankly, even if it's dealt with in a sensible, patient manner, it's STILL time taken out of the other children's lesson and education.
Sometimes it's a problem that parents ought address and sometimes it's an issue that may be classroom based.....either way, no-one is doing the child any favours by blowing up one incident.
By 3yrs old, children actually DO know what's expected of them, IF they are told and supported..by 7yrs, there's NO doubt they do.
By the same token, teachers aren't infallable either, and some are pretty jaded, some are even awkward..and half of the time, I can understand why....other times, less so.
The best outcome would probably have been that the lad saw his Mummy/Daddy and teacher working together to help HIM.
You CAN actually disapprove of a teacher's actions and deal with it, without having TV coverage. I suspect her son will have lost an opportunity to learn some very important lessons in life from either teacher/school or his own mother.
The whole thing has poo all over it.
agirl
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