stellauk
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I'm writing this as someone who (a) has identified as a submissive (b) has been street homeless and a rough sleeper and (c) someone who has been working with the homeless in various capacities in a night shelter, a temporary night shelter, a day centre and as an outreach worker.
This has included quite a fair few hours spent in ER departments in London hospitals with street homeless Polish migrant workers who also thought the grass was greener on the other side, bought a coach ticket from their home in the sticks somewhere in the back and beyond in Poland and headed for London.
Why Polish migrant workers? I'm one of the few Brits who speak fluent Polish - one of a handful of Brits in a major world city - I've lived in Poland.
Many have come to London without even bothering to learn English.
Please bear in mind you're following a similar logic here.
There's about a thousand or so of them in Central London. Less than half have been the victim of some sort of crime, particularly the ones who drove here, and their cars, together with other items such as cellphones, documents, luggage, clothing and cash were quickly 'redistributed'.
Often not willingly. Fights ensued, bones were broken, and a couple of them are still missing.
Nobody wants to help them. Why? They came here of their own choice. There's further problems when they come into contact with the other homeless, particularly indigenous. There's hostility,. arguments, confrontations and fights.
Oh and another thing, having seen your profile, I am also transgendered. I am actually transitioning, and I was transitioning right the way through all of the above.
Thing is, I am transitioning independently, self-employed, and I was made street homeless not entirely through my own choice. That was in 2005, it's now Spring 2011 and I am still rebuilding my life after being homeless.
And yes, I'm no Barbie doll, I'm just shy of 6ft tall, just shy of 300lbs, I'm effective at splitting up fights between the homeless because the last thing these guys expect is to be manhandled and spoken to by a rather large transgendered woman. It freaks them out. Blows their minds.
I have a nickname in a couple of day centres. Woman with balls. I think its hilarious.
How do I rate your chances of being accepted as a submissive in a relationship in your scenario?
Zero.
How do I rate your chances of being accepted in any sort of relationship in your scenario?
Zero.
How do I rate your chances of getting a job? Practically zero.
Making friends? Possible.
Being discriminated against and ostracized? It's a given.
Being harrassed constantly? Virtually guaranteed. Misunderstood? It's a given.
Being physically attacked? Very likely? A victim of crime? Also very likely.
I would strongly advise you to face up to the situation you are currently in at the moment rather than seeking an escape and running away.
I'd also strongly advise you get professional medical help and support, including a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist to help you through the issues in your head, with your gender identity and also with the way you are living before even considering any changes to your current life.
I'm probably somewhere further down the process of gender transition. You're not going to get anywhere expecting other people to support you in this until you are prepared to own your gender issues completely and accept full and complete responsibility for your transition.
Most people have enough of their own problems and struggles to cope with in life. They don't need your issues and problems on top.
Also please bear in mind that the vast majority of homeless people can go an entire year without anyone having a simple conversation with them. Even longer.
Hardly anybody wants to help them. Bear in mind that this in London includes Veterans from Iraq, British soldiers who have been out on active service, developed issues, and been discharged directly onto the streets. People who have served their country.
And you think people are going to give you a meal ticket because you identify as trans?
Get a grip on reality my friend.
You can take this for what it's worth. But remember at the end of the day you're the one who's got to deal with the consequences.
And I've been there. I didn't have a car, I didn't have sod all, and it started out in Warsaw. I started out being street homeless in knee deep snow and temperatures of minus 20 degrees.
That was pretty much my first month of street homelessness, in Poland, openly trans.
So yes, been there, done it, lived it, and got the T-shirt.
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