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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 3/24/2011 8:36:23 PM   
CarpeComa


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I prefer a man that has a definitive method to his madness rather than one that uses my ass as a dartboard.



Probably for the best. If he made a bullseye, they would be asking some mighty strange questions down at the ER.

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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 3/25/2011 6:00:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CarpeComa

Probably for the best. If he made a bullseye, they would be asking some mighty strange questions down at the ER.


There's no reason to make that trip unless I have something jammed in the wrong orifice.

Namaste,

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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 4/17/2011 2:58:29 PM   
PetiteOralSub


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Status: offline 		Sometimes it's simple.
Chldren learn what they live.
"Love", "acceptance", "approval" are things we are taught at early ages, by our parents.
Children who are emotionally abused by their parents, associate this with love, it is how thier parents "loved" them.


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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 4/17/2011 9:57:18 PM   
coookie


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Status: offline 		Are you claiming that in order to like humiliation the person must have been raised poorly?

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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 4/18/2011 5:36:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: coookie
Are you claiming that in order to like humiliation the person must have been raised poorly?


I was going to ask the same question, because that's how I interpreted her statement.

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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 4/18/2011 10:21:44 AM   
kdsub


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Status: offline 		We don’t like to talk about it…and its not true for a lot of well adjusted couples…but there is a good bit of mental illness in the lifestyle.

Many people feel they have a lot to atone for…they deserve humiliation in their minds… It is away to cope with their illness.

That is in my unprofessional opinion.

Butch

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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 4/18/2011 4:32:34 PM   
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We don’t like to talk about it…and its not true for a lot of well adjusted couples…but there is a good bit of mental illness in the lifestyle.


I could say that about any group / any community.

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Many people feel they have a lot to atone for…


EVERYONE has something to atone for. That is why confession is good for the soul, why it is a main tenet of 12 step programs, religions, group therapy.

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they deserve humiliation in their minds… It is away to cope with their illness.

That is in my unprofessional opinion.

Butch


What an arrogant, biased, uneducated opinion. Wow.

I have seen people use wiitwd not for atonement but for power. People who have been abused reliving their experience as an adult, with an adult mindset, and HEAL from their hurts. I've seen people who had connected leather / humiliation / cerebral palsy (ffs) with sexuality ... it's no different from people connecting champagne, flowers, chocolates with sexuality. Just different details. I've seen people use this type of forum to express their creativity, their ability to work with their hands to make things, experss things like an actor would.

Life is complex. So are people.

best,
sunshine

edited - grammar

< Message edited by sunshinemiss -- 4/18/2011 4:39:39 PM >

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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 4/18/2011 5:43:26 PM   
coookie


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Status: offline 		i can understand your opinion on this matter though i also understand it is just that. Mental illness is rampant in western civilization. Mood and anxiety disorders are very common for the general population therefore it makes sense that they would be represented here as well. Correlation does not equate causation. There are many people who have been emotionally abused who would never come near humiliation.

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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 4/18/2011 8:46:36 PM   
sweetdarkdesire


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Status: offline 		I agree with Prinsexx when he said "Also for those who hold postions of authority during their mundane lives (as corporate directors, bankers, justices of the peace etc.) experiencing a take down, experiencing any kind of humiliation, is a release from their everyday stress of being on top." It was expressed by various subs in these position when asked this question during interviewing, it is as simple as this that it brought balance to their lives and helped them to excel in their careers

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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 4/26/2011 6:36:48 AM   
anythingoes222


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Status: offline 		As a submissive male who does like to be humiliated, I find it a very sexual experience. when a dominant woman humiliates me, it make me feel totally under her control, her property. This is very sexual to me

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RE: Humiliation - I really don't understand it. - 4/26/2011 10:40:58 AM   
diablarosa


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ORIGINAL: anythingoes222

As a submissive male who does like to be humiliated, I find it a very sexual experience. when a dominant woman humiliates me, it make me feel totally under her control, her property. This is very sexual to me


Yep, thats usually what guys mean when they say "i wanna be humiliated!" Then the menus are faxed or emailed over to them.

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