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xxmstrchasxx -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/21/2006 11:22:25 PM)

Here's what I have a hard time believing, I sat here and read all 7 pages of this thread.

Here is all I have to say about any of this....My sub and I met online, we talked and chatted for about 3 months then we met.  I knew I loved her before I met her and she knew she loved me before she met me.  We have been together 8 years now.

I like to see anyone happy and I wish him the best and her too.  I just hope they make provisions incase it doesn't work out. Being states away from where you left without anything can make it pretty rough.

As far as affecting the Doms having sex with her, hell who knows?  If she was naked and lying on a bed it probably wouldn't affect me by him being there if I was going to be one of those Doms.

Personally, if it was me, I would take some of the advice that was posted to try and help me, but again, that's my opinion.




crouchingtigress -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/22/2006 12:10:16 AM)

I too have had a relationship that lasted for years that started out very quickly, we did all the wrong things, we made huge mistakes, and nothing was safe or sane about it....so I know that love can be a totally strange and wonderous thing.


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ORIGINAL: xxmstrchasxx

Here's what I have a hard time believing, I sat here and read all 7 pages of this thread.

Here is all I have to say about any of this....My sub and I met online, we talked and chatted for about 3 months then we met.  I knew I loved her before I met her and she knew she loved me before she met me.  We have been together 8 years now.

I like to see anyone happy and I wish him the best and her too.  I just hope they make provisions incase it doesn't work out. Being states away from where you left without anything can make it pretty rough.

As far as affecting the Doms having sex with her, hell who knows?  If she was naked and lying on a bed it probably wouldn't affect me by him being there if I was going to be one of those Doms.

Personally, if it was me, I would take some of the advice that was posted to try and help me, but again, that's my opinion.





LdyS -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/22/2006 12:34:09 AM)

Seems like there might be more immediate concerns before would a dom still want my domme... Things like will the chemistry once we are in the same room together be the same as it is on line and in emails? Lots of more basic things to work out before this one... in my opinion. LdyS



HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/22/2006 1:00:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LdyS

Seems like there might be more immediate concerns before would a dom still want my domme... Things like will the chemistry once we are in the same room together be the same as it is on line and in emails? Lots of more basic things to work out before this one... in my opinion. LdyS


Bingo!!!!  This is one of the things that I and quite a few of the other posters have tried to tell the OP from the beginning.  Online chemistry and telephone chemistry does NOT necessarily equal face to face chemistry.



becca333 -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/22/2006 1:17:23 AM)

This is the thread that will not die.



UtopianRanger -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/22/2006 1:53:17 AM)

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 Are you suggesting he assume the dominant role?
 

Nah…. I’m suggesting that if he likes her, he needs to take on the role of a man instead of a bitch. If you haven't noticed, she likes to be fucked ; }  

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I personally couldn't switch with a woman I submitted to and watching her used by a Dom would be an erotic cuckolding scene.
 

Good for you……  Now tell me what part of the above post you’ve quoted, mentions cuckoldery? When I originally responded to the post, there was never a mention of cuckoldery, so what does that have to do with anything? Cuckolding isn’t even mentioned in either of their profiles.  So are you just advertising?  

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"Growing a sac" has nothing to do with it.  Being a submissive in a D/s relationship is what it's all about.  


Actually, in this case, if you read her profile, It has everything to do with it. I responded to the post from my perspective, which defines submission as more of keen take on deep devotion, rather than how you define it or how its thought of traditionally.



 - R



Oumae -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/22/2006 6:02:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger



Actually, in this case, if you read her profile, It has everything to do with it. I responded to the post from my perspective, which defines submission as more of keen take on deep devotion, rather than how you define it or how its thought of traditionally.



- R


Thats quite interesting R... would you think of starting a new post on it where it wouldn't get lost in this drivel?

Oumae



urantiam -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/23/2006 9:36:02 AM)

My Mistress enjoys sex with many men. That is why she was excited when she heard that some females do own Harems of male slaves. She did not even know that this exsisted before she came on this site. Now that she knows it does, the idea of living this is very exciting to her. The reason I posted this thread in the first place was to know if  a harem of slaves would drive dominant men away from her bedroom. The fact of having her own Harem will not change the fact that she stills loves to be dominated in bed. Having sex with a sub is not as exciting as having sex with a bull. But I really hope she can have the best of both worlds.

Urantiam



thetammyjo -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/23/2006 11:49:00 AM)

Its a matter of mutual work regardless of how much time you take to get to know each other.

Fox tells me that he fell in love with me very quickly but we met in meatlife at BDSM workshop and others knew a bit about him before I ever talked to him and told me about him.

I bond quickly myself but I've worked carefully on protecting myself through the way I meet and talk to potential partners and I never let my life be built around anyone by me -- course I can probably get away with that more cause I'm poly and a dom

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

I too have had a relationship that lasted for years that started out very quickly, we did all the wrong things, we made huge mistakes, and nothing was safe or sane about it....so I know that love can be a totally strange and wonderous thing.


quote:

ORIGINAL: xxmstrchasxx

Here's what I have a hard time believing, I sat here and read all 7 pages of this thread.

Here is all I have to say about any of this....My sub and I met online, we talked and chatted for about 3 months then we met. I knew I loved her before I met her and she knew she loved me before she met me. We have been together 8 years now.

I like to see anyone happy and I wish him the best and her too. I just hope they make provisions incase it doesn't work out. Being states away from where you left without anything can make it pretty rough.

As far as affecting the Doms having sex with her, hell who knows? If she was naked and lying on a bed it probably wouldn't affect me by him being there if I was going to be one of those Doms.

Personally, if it was me, I would take some of the advice that was posted to try and help me, but again, that's my opinion.






urantiam -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/23/2006 1:39:09 PM)

Thetammyjo.

Thank you. You are so kind and understanding.

Urantiam



Wolf1020 -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/23/2006 2:41:51 PM)


This thread has been like a car wreck.  Messy, crude, but damn it you can't help but stop to look at it and comment to all your friends about how metal can bend in that way.

So I have read all eight pages, most posts I read, others I skimmed over and I must say....

Are you both totally insane? 

We have a male sub that hasn't gotten laid but once in the past 20 years rushing into a relationship with a whore sub learning something new about herself everyday not a dominate bone in her body couldn't even punish a puppy dog for pissing on the carpet "domme".   Wonder what both their motivation is [sm=ofcourse.gif]

To the OP, you need to slow down, get out of the puppy love, and grow up.  I've seen disgusting school girl crushes that weren't as bad as this.  You "mistress" has flat out said she doesn't have a dominating bone in her body.  You've talked to her for a few weeks on the phone and are seeing what you want to see.  If you are really that desperate to get laid take the few grand worth of moving costs head to Vegas hop up to the bunny range and get in with somea them they will cure what ails ya.  A none dominate bone in her body crying whore slut that likes to be sexually dominated isn't going to and will leave you worse off in the long run.

To the "domme" you need to learn what you want before you start taking submissives.  Yes we all learn new things about ourselves from time to time but you must at least be stable before doing so.  Taking them is a HUGE responsibility.  They are there to serve you but in return you are responsible for their well being.  Just because you are a certain way in public doesn't make you a domme, if you are a crying submissive little whore in private....guess what that's likely what you are.  Having a bunch of subs isn't a novelty or something you should rush in because you recently learned about it and went "Wow cool!"  That is the reaction of a six year old child who just saw a puppy in the pet store window and starts nagging mommy and/or daddy to get it for them without understanding the fact it needs to be fed watered and if you don't get up to walk it constantly and train it properly is gonna shit all over the house and eat every pair of shoes you own.  Now subs aren't known for shitting all over the house and eating dominates shoes (and if you do that's taking puppy play a weeeee far dontcha thing?), but likewise it is a lot of responsibility and not something that you should rush into because it looked cool and seemed like a good idea at the time.

Both of you need to remove your heads from your rectums, slow down, and think about this and what you both really want for awhile.

As for loving over the internet it can happen, but genuine true love takes time and true face to face interaction.  Not a few phone calls and web cam sessions.



UtopianRanger -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/23/2006 4:53:36 PM)

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Thats quite interesting R... would you think of starting a new post on it where it wouldn't get lost in this drivel?



You really want to watch a "Maelstrom" , don't ya?!!?  I just insulted the US Navy in another thread, now you want me to get myself in more trouble. HAR!


 - R



SweetDommes -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/23/2006 4:57:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: urantiam

My Mistress enjoys sex with many men. That is why she was excited when she heard that some females do own Harems of male slaves. She did not even know that this exsisted before she came on this site. Now that she knows it does, the idea of living this is very exciting to her. The reason I posted this thread in the first place was to know if  a harem of slaves would drive dominant men away from her bedroom. The fact of having her own Harem will not change the fact that she stills loves to be dominated in bed. Having sex with a sub is not as exciting as having sex with a bull. But I really hope she can have the best of both worlds.

Urantiam


So ... she wants to have sex with many men, so she wants a harem of slaves ... but she doesn't get excited by submissive males ... seriously, can you not see the problem with this situation???



urantiam -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/24/2006 4:02:59 AM)

Well the problem is solved. Since nobody answered my original question and since I do not know if I will interfere with my Mistress sex life. My Mistress has decided that when she invites a dom over, I will simply be tied up in the basement for the weekend. That is fine with me and the man will not even know I am there. So! Everything will work out fine this way.


Urantiam



needingtolearn -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/24/2006 6:05:03 AM)

I too have been reading this thread, and have finally decided to add my two worthless cents to the fray.

Urantiam you seem like a very nice person and I do wish you the very best, but as a submissive myself, just remember to always think safety.

I spent a year online looking for a Master and learned there are MANY liars out there.  When I finally meet my owners online, I did not trust them the instant I meet them.  We meet in person a few times, they came to me and I packed up my kids and I traveled to meet them.  When I did go to meet them did I go there unprotected.  NO!!!!!!  I had several people with their address and phone number and if they did not see me online or get a phone call from me by a certain date, they were instructed to call the police.  (My Master and Mistress will read this and probably be shocked to know this because I never told them.)  I feel so comfortable with them I am moving there as soon as I can get the arrangements set up to make a smooth transitions for my children to a new enviroment.

Now that said, did I trust them then, NO, do I trust them now, YES.  I know they are who they said they are and are not crazy, insane, people (at least most of the time)[:)]

Was I in love with them then just talking to them online and by phone, NO.  Do I love them now that I have meet them several times in person, NO.  I do care about them deeply.  Next to my children, they are the most important people in my life and they know I would do anything for them, (that is legal).   I proudly wear their collar and miss it tremendously when I have to remove it.

I agree with you that my word is my bond as well, but if I would have meet them and ever felt unsafe, I don't care if I gave my word or not, I would have left or ended the relationship, but then again I have children that must be protected above anything else.  So don't feel trapped by that, keeping your word is very important, it is honest and there isn't enough of that in the world now adays.

Also to your last post, unsupervised bondage can be dangerous to your own safety, make sure you are checked on regularly or don't go through with it.  You do deserve to be protected from harm even if you are a submissive.

Best of luck to you and hope for the best to you and yours



SweetDommes -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/24/2006 7:35:20 AM)

So now we're adding in lies of omission to the pot ... might as well add gun powder.

She's flat out telling you that she's planning to keep any and all knowledge of you from others as it suits her - doesn't that make you even a tiny bit worried that maybe she's been hiding things from you?  Possibly very important things?? 

This also removes the ability to consent from any Tops that she may bottom to, because she's not giving them the knowledge that they need to be able to consent ... but I'm guessing that doesn't phase you any more than being a slave to a woman who doesn't have a Domme bone in her body ...



AAkasha -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/24/2006 7:41:14 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: urantiam

Well the problem is solved. Since nobody answered my original question and since I do not know if I will interfere with my Mistress sex life. My Mistress has decided that when she invites a dom over, I will simply be tied up in the basement for the weekend. That is fine with me and the man will not even know I am there. So! Everything will work out fine this way.


Urantiam


Just promise us one thing.

You will come back and post the update about how this relationship is progressing no matter WHAT happens.

Akasha



urantiam -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/24/2006 5:10:07 PM)

Sweetdommes.

I have told you that my Mistress can do whatever she wants with me. I am her property. But still you do not understand how this thread got started. What will go on between my Mistress and I, is nobodies business. I ask a question that was supposed to be answered by dominant males. They are the ones who will be having sex with my Mistress, so it only concerns them.

Urantiam



catize -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/24/2006 5:31:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: urantiam

Sweetdommes.

I have told you that my Mistress can do whatever she wants with me. I am her property. But still you do not understand how this thread got started. What will go on between my Mistress and I, is nobodies business. I ask a question that was supposed to be answered by dominant males. They are the ones who will be having sex with my Mistress, so it only concerns them.

Urantiam

If you want specific information from those particular dominant males who will engage in sex acts with your mistress, then you need to ask them directly. 



MissyRane -> RE: Mistress is worried (5/24/2006 5:40:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: catize

quote:

ORIGINAL: urantiam

Sweetdommes.

I have told you that my Mistress can do whatever she wants with me. I am her property. But still you do not understand how this thread got started. What will go on between my Mistress and I, is nobodies business. I ask a question that was supposed to be answered by dominant males. They are the ones who will be having sex with my Mistress, so it only concerns them.

Urantiam

If you want specific information from those particular dominant males who will engage in sex acts with your mistress, then you need to ask them directly. 

Exactly..no need to be rude about it[&:], just ask in the ask a Master forum if you prefer someone special to pay attention to the post



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