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mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 2:50:43 AM   
stockingdresser


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Status: offline 		Unfortunately i have come accross many on here. You start a conversation....follow their rules, then they simply ignore you!! i have spoken to a few other people on here who have had the same experiences. Slaves are told on here how to approach dominant woman, but it seems some mistresses are just unapproachable.....shame
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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 3:09:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm glad you spoke to other people with the same experience to help with your frustration.  I couldn't figure out what in the world you are talking about.

My best guess this is some version of the popular "they won't answer email" rant.  If that's the topic (since I didn't really see a question) you might want to make that a little more clear.  Also, if that's the issue, please be prepared for it to go the same way that every time the subject gets brought up.


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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 3:47:37 AM   
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Slaves are told on here how to approach dominant woman, but it seems some mistresses are just unapproachable.....shame


In the short amount of time I have been on “CollarMe “ I have written five ladies, two were simply to say I found your comments interesting and enlightening. Thank you for your input.
I was not hitting on these ladies, I just felt it would be nice to hear their wisdom and experience was benefiting others.

Perhaps I am wrong but I feel there is a lot more to be gained from this site then just a play mate.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 4:17:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: stockingdresser
Slaves are told on here how to approach dominant woman, but it seems some mistresses are just unapproachable.....shame


Well, the way I see it, not all "mistresses" are the same so it would only make sense that what works for approaching one may not work for another. It's a shame most men don't understand that just because a woman calls herself dominant doesn't mean she's lost her individuality. You may choose to use the umbrella term "mistress", but it doesn't mean all dominant women are the same.

Do you have this same problem when you approach women offline, OP?

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 4:29:25 AM   
stockingdresser


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Status: offline 		Actually i have had emails back, and exchanged nice conversation, but on many occasions they just stop the conversation without even a "thanks but no thanks"......the first response to my subject says it all doesn't it...

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 4:35:16 AM   
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I'm glad you spoke to other people with the same experience to help with your frustration.  I couldn't figure out what in the world you are talking about.

My best guess this is some version of the popular "they won't answer email" rant.  If that's the topic (since I didn't really see a question) you might want to make that a little more clear.  Also, if that's the issue, please be prepared for it to go the same way that every time the subject gets brought up.



Could be. I was thinking more along the lines of "mommy, those other kids won't play nice with me"

Personally I would hope by his age, he would already be aware that not everyone you talk to is going to be nice, but apparently not.


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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 4:42:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		HMMM....by the looks of it.....someone has just been fired from their cleaning job.....

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 4:44:25 AM   
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Actually i have had emails back, and exchanged nice conversation, but on many occasions they just stop the conversation without even a "thanks but no thanks".


There could be a number of reasons why someone stops emailing.....bad connection, roommate, partner or parent surprises them, they lose interest.

It could be you. Your profile is a whole lot of nothing...are your conversations similar? Do you come at a woman with nothing but your stocking fetish? Do you ignore their questions like you did mine regarding off-line interaction with women?

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.....the first response to my subject says it all doesn't it...


Actually, LadyPact was spot on. Your original post is basically a rant and has no question up for discussion.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 4:49:28 AM   
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Unfortunately i have come accross many on here. You start a conversation....follow their rules, then they simply ignore you!! i have spoken to a few other people on here who have had the same experiences. Slaves are told on here how to approach dominant woman, but it seems some mistresses are just unapproachable.....shame


I have a feeling that you're not talking to them as though they are ordinary people, SD.

I used to make a deliberate point of writing in an ordinary, friendly sort of way to the occasional femdom who *really* came on strong with the 'me Goddess, you vile worthless worm' stuff. I'd even crack jokes. They always replied.



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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 5:00:18 AM   
stockingdresser


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Status: offline 		Peonforher......the first good response i have had without any wise cracks!!
bonesfromash.....i dont ignore their questions at all.....read my opening post again....
its not a rant, but i take my share of the blame.......and we move on

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 5:02:52 AM   
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HMMM....by the looks of it.....someone has just been fired from their cleaning job.....


Well maybe if you hadn't been online, they would have kept you. But on the bright side, now you have more time to look for a domme.


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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 5:10:33 AM   
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bonesfromash.....i dont ignore their questions at all.....read my opening post again....
its not a rant, but i take my share of the blame.......and we move on


Well then, do you have this same problem off-line?

as for your opening post....

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ORIGINAL: stockingdresser
Unfortunately i have come accross many on here. You start a conversation....follow their rules, then they simply ignore you!! i have spoken to a few other people on here who have had the same experiences. Slaves are told on here how to approach dominant woman, but it seems some mistresses are just unapproachable.....shame


I don't see a single question mark indicating a....question.

ETA....could you please show me where I responded with a "wisecrack"?

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 5:23:05 AM   
stockingdresser


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Status: offline 		Nope i dont have this problem offline.....but the conversation is never about the bdsm lifestyle!!
subs often get criticised for their attitudes......just asking if anyone else has come accross dommes with bad attitudes........thats the question....

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 5:40:44 AM   
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Nope i dont have this problem offline.....but the conversation is never about the bdsm lifestyle!!


If that's the case, why not approach the women you email online the same way you do those offline?

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subs often get criticised for their attitudes......just asking if anyone else has come accross dommes with bad attitudes........thats the question....


You already stated in your original post that you've spoken with others who've had similar experiences online so I think your question was answered before you even came to this forum.

Everyone is different...some women feel they need to post a list of rules and expectations for the people who choose to contact them, others are a bit more relaxed and laid back about things. That doesn't negate the use of manners and respect on both sides, it just means you need to be more selective in regards to who you choose to approach.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 5:42:26 AM   
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..just asking if anyone else has come accross dommes with bad attitudes........thats the question....



Okay. If you go through the profiles of dommes you might notice that they all bear an uncanny resemblance to human beings.

That's because they are, in fact, human beings. So let's now replace the word 'dommes' in your question with 'human beings'.

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ORIGINAL: stockingdresser

..just asking if anyone else has come accross human beings with bad attitudes.



And?

Anything come to mind?

Edited to add: Be patient. It might not seem obvious at first.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 5:56:24 AM   
stockingdresser


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Status: offline 		he he cheers for that blinding piece of humour stellauk......why do i get the feeling you have been around a long time...

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LaTQueenoftheFuckinUniverse - 3/31/2011 7:27:02 AM   
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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 8:58:17 AM   
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Unfortunately i have come accross many on here. You start a conversation....follow their rules, then they simply ignore you!! i have spoken to a few other people on here who have had the same experiences. Slaves are told on here how to approach dominant woman, but it seems some mistresses are just unapproachable.....shame


You know, it's always pretty true that if you keep running into the same situation the common denominator is you. What are you doing in the conversations you are having? Following someone's rules isn't a golden ticket. In fact following the rules pretty much gets you in the door but once you are inside what happens is up to you.

If everyone followed the rules she'd still have a line a mile long right? So be good company. Be interesting, engaging, empathetic, polite, be the things that attract you when you meet someone yourself. Perhaps these women don't want any more conversation with you because it isn't meaningful to them in any way. It isn't enough to say you want something, that something isn't going to jump into your lap. If you want it then go get it, show yourself to be worthy of attention. For me, anyone with an air of expectation isn't going to get far at all. As in oh Mistress, I have followed all your rules, I am waiting now for you to do what I want....forget that. If I had rules and if someone followed them I'd still have to discern whether or not we were a good match and whether I enjoyed talking to him or not and a bazillion other things.

On another note, if you are talking to women who want money, and you show yourself as not coming across with that money, then you have your answer as to why they aren't interested anymore.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 9:00:41 AM   
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he he cheers for that blinding piece of humour stellauk......why do i get the feeling you have been around a long time...


Oh dear.. Try again.

If it helps pick up the keyboard, turn it so it's vertical with the keys pointing towards the screen, grip the bottom corners in either hands and whack the upper half against your forehead sharply.

See if it comes to you.

If it doesn't, try saying 'der' and try again. Repeat as many times as you like.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 3/31/2011 9:10:10 AM   
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Actually i have had emails back, and exchanged nice conversation, but on many occasions they just stop the conversation without even a "thanks but no thanks"......the first response to my subject says it all doesn't it...

Meaning that after an exchange of some kind, they stop writing back?  Is it possible that what was transpiring wasn't interesting to the people that you were dealing with?

No, your original didn't say it all.  There wasn't a question included.  You didn't ask why some people might do this.  You just threw your complaint up there and expected everyone to know what you meant.

This is one of the reasons that folks won't answer emails when people they aren't interested in writing to someone.  Even when they try to be polite, folks get upset at any time when the correspondence stops.  Did any of the people that you wrote say that they were interested in you or was it just something that you assumed because they messaged back?  If they were just trying to be pleasant, how many times do you think they should be required to continue just to make you happy?

Nobody is beholding to anyone just because there are emails sent or traded.  Accept that there was something that transpired that was a reason on their end to no longer want to write back and go on with your day.


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