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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/1/2011 3:34:12 PM

ElanSubdued

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stockingdresser,

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subs often get criticized for their attitudes... just asking if anyone else has come across dommes with bad attitudes... that's the question.

Irrespective of the rest of the thread, the answer to this question is "yes". That said, the measure of "bad attitude" is all in the eye of the beholder.

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RE: Mistresses with "bad" attitudes - 4/1/2011 3:47:30 PM

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dreamerdreaming,

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NiceGuyNihilist:
Women like men who are a challenge; whatever they may claim, their actions nearly always bear this out. An intrinsic problem with approaching women with a purely submissive attitude is that submissiveness by itself offers no back-and-forth, no dance. In your interactions with these women, have you presented yourself as totally malleable, totally obedient from the beginning? That could be exactly the problem.

dreamerdreaming:
MASSIVE FAIL.

I kinda' get what NGN means, but his wording is considerably off. I believe *people* are generally attracted to those that show a sense of balance and depth, and part of that depth is breadth. Round this out with honesty, communication skills, courtesy, and kindness... and I think things are a little more on track. True enough each person will have qualities they seek and find attractive, but, when approaching someone, a purely single-dimensional methodology isn't likely to be effective on the whole.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/1/2011 9:45:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: shallowdeep. I'd suggest reading this story: The Bitch in High Heels. Ask yourself who you want to be in it. All those things that work in your offline conversations without the BDSM? Try not to forget them here.

Ah, Akasha. everyone should read her. Her website was one of the first femdom sites i came across. Definitely a must read.

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RE: Mistresses with "bad" attitudes - 4/2/2011 8:15:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

True enough each person will have qualities they seek and find attractive, but, when approaching someone, a purely single-dimensional methodology isn't likely to be effective on the whole.

Elan.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/2/2011 7:08:35 PM

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The lady might have just lost interest, or too busy coming online.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/2/2011 8:57:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: stockingdresser

Unfortunately i have come accross many on here. You start a conversation....follow their rules, then they simply ignore you!! i have spoken to a few other people on here who have had the same experiences. Slaves are told on here how to approach dominant woman, but it seems some mistresses are just unapproachable.....shame

Not to nit pick, but such behavior does not constitute a "bad attitude." This is more "all is fair in love and war," and others don't have to follow any rules when it comes to dating -- they can do as they want. All you can do is learn from your experiences. Its never a bad thing to put your best foot forward, but you just can't control or determine the outcomes.

As for a bad attitude, just remember -- its its own punishment.

P.S. First responders to an OP often times like to blame or mock him for his problems. Sadly, this is just often SOP.

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RE: Mistresses with "bad" attitudes - 4/2/2011 9:07:52 PM

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Women like men who are a challenge;

A more palatable word choice might be engaging. I agree with your central point, brainy people prefer stimulation, contrast, independence, and character over slavishness.

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RE: Mistresses with "bad" attitudes - 4/3/2011 4:46:06 PM

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I'm most satisfied with male slaves who are brainy and stimulating.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/3/2011 8:47:25 PM

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Stockingdresser,
You've had a lot of good feedback thus far. Hopefully, you are taking note.

I'd like to add a few points.

Like yourself, I am a male sub. I have experienced the behavior that you described. I've sent very respectful (and often witty) messages to Dommes, and gotten absolutely no response. No "Thanks, but no thanks", no "Get lost, Loser", no nothin'. But rather than post a message griping about it, I simply move forward. If you spend enough time on the internet, you're going to get ignored. It happens. Deal with it.

I do believe that your odds of being ignored are much higher than most. That's because you are one of the few people that I've come across on this site who lists his location as China. That is going to cause a lot of Dommes to ignore you. The location simply isn't particularly convenient for a Domme who doesn't also live in China.

Secondly, your profile is essentially blank. You simply list one fetish. You love stockings and pantyhose. That's it. Even your name is focused on your fetish. So you've essentially narrowed the market down to Dommes who live in China who are looking for male subs whose only BDSM interest is pantyhose and stockings. Yeah, good luck with that.

But of course you can continue to blame it on the bad attitudes of the Mistresses. That's much easier than actually looking in the mirror and placing the blame where it belongs.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/3/2011 10:49:40 PM

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could a Mistress force her whole beautiful foot in her lucky slaves mouth and toes deep down his throat?

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/3/2011 11:53:07 PM

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*blink*

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/4/2011 12:09:16 AM

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could a Mistress force her whole beautiful foot in her lucky slaves mouth and toes deep down his throat?

I don't see why not. Just make sure she's not a size 11-12.

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/4/2011 12:15:04 AM

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or that you can dislocate your jaw, like a snake...

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/4/2011 7:57:11 AM

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could a Mistress force her whole beautiful foot in her lucky slaves mouth and toes deep down his throat?

Exactly what did this have to do with the original of the thread, or were you just trying to give a demonstration of what might prompt a "bad attitude" from the Dominant women here?

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RE: mistresses with bad attitudes! - 4/4/2011 8:02:16 AM

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could a Mistress force her whole beautiful foot in her lucky slaves mouth and toes deep down his throat?

I want to thank you for demonstrating to everyone on this site, lurkers and all, exactly how NOT to present yourself to a potential partner. Here we have the classic example of fetish first - it never works. Thanks though for making that point again by coming into a non-related thread to pull your pants down. We all couldn't have lived another day without some stranger pushing his fetish into everyone's faces yet once more time.
Gosh let me guess...you're into feet?

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