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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 1:34:19 PM

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Podunk City is rather an unfortunate name for a place.

Let me clue ya, unfortunate dosen't even begin to cover it.

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 3:30:20 PM

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Would you rather live in Dildo? *g*

It's a city in Newfoundland.

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 3:33:25 PM

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Is that for real?

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 3:38:04 PM

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Would you rather live in Dildo? *g*

It's a city in Newfoundland.

Now that you've brought it up, no, I guess I wouldn't be too excited about that either.

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 4:16:08 PM

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My sub and I started out 3000 miles away from each other. She lived in Washington and I in Florida. We have been together for 8 years now. We see each other about 9 days a month. I am now in Ohio and because of her work she is still in Washington.

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 7:45:21 PM

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Is that for real?

Yes it is very real. It's a harbour town. Yes we have some very ummm interesting named cities here in Canada lol

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 9:19:44 PM

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Had to go back and re-read your query as so many were responding to online relationships I thought I had misread it. Distance is a challenge for any relaitonship, whether long established or just new. I have seen relationships of 15 years crumble and dissolve when one of the partners has been relocated in their job and the other was not able to follow for 3 months. Flip side of the coin I have seen new relationships that weathered the distance and are strong and fulfilling for the individuals involved in them now.

Distance is a property created by the space between two objects or points, nothing more and nothing less. How the individuals in the relationship perceive this space and work around it will decide on the vitality of their relationship. So in the end it is how you work to make the relationship grow and/or survive. No amount of tales of ("woe was me"..."I do not agree with"..."never have, never will") or any other such ego fed shite offered as advice makes a lick of difference in the end.

Recognise distance for what it is, examine and discuss the challenge with your partner, if new challenges arise discuss them, decide on an action plan, utilise your communication skills...Gee sounds like the advice for any other type of relationship in the end. Work with what you have, be happy, if you are no longer happy move on.
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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 10:48:15 PM

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LDR can work, in fact they can be highly enjoyable, but in order to have a positive experience, you need to meet a few conditions. It helps if you are a solitary person to begin with. You need to have met them intially in person and have a memorable "getting together" circumstance - some kind of unique mutually pleasurable inchoate romance. You need to see eachother in person fairly regularly. You need to speak with them more regularly.

THe down side of any ldr is that you miss them and pass some lonely times without them - on the upside, getting to see them again is always fun and intense. And since you have had a number of separate experiences, there is always lots to talk about.

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 11:23:00 PM

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Physical distance can be overcome... distance between two people emotionally or mentally cannot... either way, if it becomes more trouble than reward, cut your losses and move on... just my advice...

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/9/2006 11:27:52 PM

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I never had a desire for a LDR but I wont knock it because your soulmate may not live up the street from you. I call a LDR when I date a lady that lives a half hour away and I just worked several 12 hour nights in a row. That is a tiresome half hour ride.

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/10/2006 12:10:57 AM

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Met my girl nearly 4 years ago online through a mutual friend. After 3 years we met for the first time. She's the first girl I have really called mine, and only the second girl I've ever loved. Her and I share things I've never had with anyone else and I would give my life for her.

Currently, "the online thing" is coming to a head. It's just not realistically going to work forever. We're not sure what we're going to do, but it would be nearly impossible for me to leave here, and very disruptive for her to leave school with one year to go. But something has to happen.

I do know for sure that we'll be spending a few days together in June and I can't wait.

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/10/2006 12:47:21 AM

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these type of relationships cannot possible work. for one thing, there's no way someone can possibly rule someone else from a distance. how does a Dominant truly know their submissive has complied with their orders? there isn't that much trust in this crazy world. no matter how many people may pop up here and try to convince others that there is. unless it's a 24/7 live-in relationship, there's no possible way to be sure.

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RE: Long Distance Relationships - 5/10/2006 3:51:32 AM

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they can work and they do work =) the same way so many seem to be thinking "how can they possibly work"-- i am reading the thread from my perspective thinking "how can people not grasp how wonderful it can be?" and then i realize yes, i understand their perspective because at one point i did think the same thing.

what i am thinking is getting confused here is "permanant online" relationships and "temporary long distance relationships with the intent to be together at some point". i couldn't handle it if being together was never an option. i can't fathom putting yourself into a serious relationship in which the end results stayed the same... online. that to me isn't a relationship. its a deep frienship, game or a fantasy at best. if it was more the limits just wouldn't be acceptable. jmo.

if two people meet and REALLY want to be together in the end, the key is truth and honesty. if you never misrepresent yourselves there is no risk of being dissapointed. yes i know i am one of the lucky ones in which neither of us lied, but it just proves that it CAN happen.

also, why do people assume these relationships are restricted to email and a bit of text. peer to peer is a wonderful thing, webcam and voice chat for hours a day can add an extra element to it all--and yes meeting face to face at some point early on is necessary to ensure that the chemistry really is there.

in the end its about utililizing every resource you can find to be as close as you possibly can, regardless of distance, and lets face it, if its real-- you will do that automatically.

i am from Canada and met my soul mate -- He is from the UK. i know of many many situations where relationships have began online and turned into a long lasting fulfilling permanant marriage and future together. i am blessed to be one of them :)

never say never, life will always throw you a curve ball.

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