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Are there words or terms within the bdsm community that you feel are annoying or used incorrectly?


No, words make things easier to understand.
  18% (5)
Yes, and let me tell you which ones.
  33% (9)
Stop being picky.We can work it all out at a nice munch.
  7% (2)
I like my title.
  3% (1)
Labels are for idiots.
  7% (2)
I make up my own words and terms.
  3% (1)
I'm clicking this one,because it will get me in the least trouble.
  25% (7)


Total Votes : 27
(last vote on : 5/15/2011 10:17:17 AM)
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Are there words or terms within the bdsm community that... - 4/6/2011 10:31:20 AM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't actually call this random stupidity but there are some words/terms that have always bothered me and I want to know if I'm alone in my feelings. Yes I understand it may just be a matter of opinion. That is why I am asking yours.
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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 10:51:47 AM   
MaxsBoy


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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 10:55:58 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		First entry for yes.  The word "fetish".  People like to use it for anything that turns them on and technically, that isn't the definition of the word.

Another quick mention for the word "boi".  Anybody who is biologically male using the term just makes Me shake My head.


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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 11:14:25 AM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry fox, why is it confusing. And Pact I agree with you about the word fetish.

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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 11:15:49 AM   
PetiteOralSub


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Status: offline 		I am a word slut. I am sapiosexual and the D types who get my attention are always the well spoken, intelligent ones.
I value langage and communication.
Words and lables are to some people, so I don't step on toes about it.
Words and self-titles reveal a whole lot to me about the writer.
I find labels self-fulfilling, and this can have desired and\or unanticipated consequences.
The only label I really have any emotion about is the one Master uses to refer to me.

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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 11:20:55 AM   
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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 11:22:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		The bois will be along about boi.

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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 11:25:48 AM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		Petite ,you sound like a horny linguist and that is a lovely thing.

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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 11:27:41 AM   
TheRaptorJesus


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Status: offline 		A ton of them.

FORCED-anything is ridiculous.

Slave is pretty dumb.

Gender-fluid (though not BDSM related, seen on these networks more than anywhere else).

Forced is the one that annoys me more than anything. Or when people ask for "rape". You people disgust me.


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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 11:28:18 AM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		Id rather see her as a cunning linguist.



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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 11:31:22 AM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		I had a feeling you were going to say that.

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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 1:39:31 PM   
Hillwilliam


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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 3:03:12 PM   
MissImmortalPain


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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 4:58:14 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		The work "switch".

It means:

1. A person who changes orientation (noun).
2. A changing of orientation (verb).
3. A whippy implement.
4. When a multiple changes personalities.


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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 6:14:31 PM   
girlygurl


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Status: offline 		The only thing that comes to mind at the moment is "subbie" I don't like it.


I agree with LP, a biological male using the term boi confuses me.

I suppose everyone is going to have a label or a term they don't like and/or don't get. I just go with the flow. Some may not like the labels I have and I know I don't like or get some that others have.


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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/6/2011 8:50:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: girlygurl

I suppose everyone is going to have a label or a term they don't like and/or don't get. I just go with the flow. Some may not like the labels I have and I know I don't like or get some that others have.


This.


Quick question for DS... What word do you prefer for someone who does not identify as one side of the slash 24/7, if not switch?

I used to identify as submissive/slave to DB, but that excluded my dominant side. I'm not always in a dominant mode, because there are one or two people who I would bottom to if I had the chance. There are also times, when I had my sub gal with me at the club, and I was there with DB. It was like a totem pole... DB on top, me below him/above my girl, and my girl under me (in a hierarchial sense).

So... what term do you think describes the person who traditionally identifies as the word "switch?"

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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/7/2011 2:52:21 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Just for conversation's sake, I happen to agree with DRH on the term 'switch'.  If anything, I think that term isn't used enough where it's appropriate.  

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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/7/2011 3:28:29 AM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		Some of the most prominent dominants here don’t know what the fuck a submissive is.

Many people confuse the physiological traits of a submissive personality with the qualities or parameters of a submissive’s role in a D/s relationship.  Then they prolifically post foolish and incorrect replies based on those misconceptions which mislead newcomers. 

Imagine “Dominants” with thousands of posts to their credit and they don’t even know what a submissive is in the BDSM lifestyle.  It cracks me up.

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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/7/2011 4:31:40 AM   
RASIS


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Many people confuse the physiological traits of a submissive personality with the qualities or parameters of a submissive’s role in a D/s relationship. 


Physiological or psychological?

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RE: Are there words or terms within the bdsm community ... - 4/7/2011 4:53:03 AM   
ResidentSadist


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psychological
quote:

ORIGINAL: RASIS


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Many people confuse the physiological traits of a submissive personality with the qualities or parameters of a submissive’s role in a D/s relationship. 


Physiological or psychological?

psychological - my bad, type-o and auto correct


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