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ORIGINAL: toofriendly

As far as sex is concerned, a lot of guys that i speak to claim to be really good at it. They brag and brag and in the beginning, I'd be a little intrigued and call them on it. But when it actually came to sex, I'd be highly disappointed. They'd slide inside and start gyrating, asking "Do you like that?" Like what? You didn't do anything. So obviously I can't say yes, but I feel it's rude to just say no. So I simply say "Lets see how things go." Usually they pump harder, thinking harder means better. After getting little to no positive response from me, they kinda give up. Most peoples' first response to this is usually to tell me to guide him so that he can make me feel good but I honestly don't know how. What I like it exterior pleasures. Sex rarely turns me on, if ever. So when a guy claims he can really do a good job, I'd like to take his word for it because there is nothing more I'd than to enjoy sex as much as a man does.

I honestly would be VERY bored in the company of a man that *brags and brags* about how good he is in bed........let alone get as far bothering to find out. In fact I've never been to bed with a man that's so much as mentioned his prowess between the sheets. I seriously would find it juvenile.

I tend have a similar opinion to Jeff........If you don't know how to get *in it* with a chap and show what makes you feel good, how on earth is HE going to, especially if he's enquiring and gets, what amounts to, a thumbs down or a *ho-hum*. You come across as a pretty boring sex partner who's not exactly willing to be part of making it decent experience. It's not a man's *job* to turn you on......you're between the sheets with him and you're as responsible as he is for the outcome.

 As far as spanking goes, I'm just quiet. Regardless of how much it hurts, I don't scream or shout ever. The most a guy could get from me is a moan. I also don't cry. My lack of response really ticks guys who spank off. But I'm not going to shout just to appease them. It wouldn't be genuine.

If being quiet is your response to being spanked, then fair enough............but they'll be less likely to be fed up if they know that beforehand. Tell them!?

From almost everything you've said thus far it seems like most of the relevent conversation needed to take place to create anything mutually satisfying is missing, or perhaps your criteria for sex and spanking partners isn't working.

You have these experiences now, so you can use them to make adjustments and possibly get better results but you have to get your hands dirty and say what needs to be said. It doesn't happen by osmosis.