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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/12/2011 9:39:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

I find it very difficult to be out of my own personal control zone. I just do not handle it well. This is why I must be with a dominant who can delegate a great deal of power and responsibility back to me.

Want an example? Driving. No one drives the way I do I am the best driver in the world, the rest of you are barely adequate. When my sub comes to town, he drives. He likes to chauffer me, plus he likes being in control of his vehicle. I understand he needs his comfort zone, I don't push that. And yes, sometimes its very hard not to be the one driving.

I would say as a switch, in MOST instances, it is harder for me to give up control than to take it.

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Want an example? Driving. No one drives the way I do I am the best driver in the world, the rest of you are barely adequate.

laffing that has got to one of the most insecure statements Ive read in quite some time. That's saying Im right and the rest of the world is wrong.... keep telling yourself that... let me know how that works out for you SHEESH

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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/13/2011 11:19:42 AM

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Thank you all for offering your feedback on this curious thought of mine.

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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/13/2011 11:32:35 AM

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It is intriguing that men put their most vulnerable body part in the mouth's of women... who could exert 120 pounds of pressure if they so choose. Is that what you mean?

You little imp, you!!

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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/15/2011 11:43:19 AM

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Gosh this thread didn't take long. Talk about "out of your comfort zone!!

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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/15/2011 12:04:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: poise

As a dominant man or woman, is it more challenging for you to place yourself
in a vulnerable position such as a haircut or shave, or some similar situation where
you aren't the one in control?

And would that level of discomfort vary for you, depending on whether it was your
partner or a professional performing the task?

While these aren't earth shattering questions, I really am curious as to how you as
dominants deal with being out of your comfort zone, even if it is for just a brief time.

I think they're great questions and something that interests me also. I've observed this in doms and questioned them. The best answer was that he handled it by controling his discomfort and this created the sense of being in control

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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/15/2011 12:18:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: poise

As submissives, we often watch you approaching with a variety of implements
in your deliciously sadistic hands, and many of us joyfully feed off of that vulnerability.

As a dominant man or woman, is it more challenging for you to place yourself
in a vulnerable position such as a haircut or shave, or some similar situation where
you aren't the one in control?

And would that level of discomfort vary for you, depending on whether it was your
partner or a professional performing the task?

I guess as a general rule with my boi, I don't ever feel I'm in a vulnerable position -- even in a situation that might appear that way. As she says, I have ultimate veto power. I don't use it often, but if I need to I do. I also appreciate, that when in that kind of position, she still approaches it in a service/submissive type manner. She knows her place and so as a general rule, I don't feel vulnerable. If its a professional, I don't give it a second thought -- if I'm paying, I'm in control.

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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/15/2011 12:23:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

It is intriguing that men put their most vulnerable body part in the mouth's of women... who could exert 120 pounds of pressure if they so choose. Is that what you mean?

I remember to have had such a thought in the past 1-2 years ago...thats so true

Not really sure if I manage to answer your questiosn but I have the huge desire to shave my head...and at present I regret not having done it last december when I started to be way more at home than anticipated.

When I was dating guys I realised it was one of their worst nightmares coming true when I dared to mention it...

now...I have no desire for that in the long run but it is on my agenda...and time will tell when I will do that in the next 5 years as I know I will do it....just the time has to be right for it as work comittments sometimes do interfere in such decisions.

So I do know that the guys I was dating were incredible against it....

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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/16/2011 11:52:12 AM

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One of the dominant men in my life likes a little pain sometimes during sex. It freaks me out because I am out of ~my~ comfort zone, scared shitless that I might hurt him too much. It is win/win for him because his sadistic side enjoys my fears, while getting the erotic pain he wants.
Great question!!!!

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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/16/2011 5:09:37 PM

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I am never afraid to *being* out of my comfort zone...sometimes its necessary for me to do so...
For me it has made a bond much,much deeper and sweeter...
But I like to....flyyyyy!

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RE: Out of your comfort zone.... - 4/16/2011 7:55:40 PM

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It has a lot to do with trusting my partner knowing she'll do the right things. I think I am ok with my sub cutting my hair (according to my instruction).
Also.. I am a confident man so even in a vulnerable position, I'm still confident.
Lastly... wouldn't it be fun if the sub messes up just that little bit and we have a punishment session after that?

Looks like a middle school essay hahaha.

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