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Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/24/2011 10:53:57 PM

PrincessEliza

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To me, and this may be completely untrue for others, I feel like Daddy Dominates are like gold. If you find even find one that's rare, and then you have to check if it's real or not.

Why are their so few compared to Alpha Doms, and other varieties?

Thanks!

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/24/2011 11:10:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: PrincessEliza

To me, and this may be completely untrue for others, I feel like Daddy Dominates are like gold. If you find even find one that's rare, and then you have to check if it's real or not.

Why are their so few compared to Alpha Doms, and other varieties?

Greetings,

i don't find them in rare supply. Perhaps your criteria is eliminating the obvious and those that may not advertise themselves as such. i know there are quite a few here and heaps of groups devoted to Daddies, littles, middles, babygirls, adult babies, and every other idea you could ever conjure on Fetlife. You'd be swimming in a sea of Daddy-O over there.

Namaste,

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 12:51:59 AM

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What Porcelaine said.

While I was looking, it seemed that every other guy I talked to eventually steered the conversation round to being a Daddy-type Dom. Unfortunately that's not my kink, but the vast majority of those guys didn't advertise themselves as a Daddy.

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 4:54:22 AM

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my experience is that they are extremely common.

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 5:00:08 AM

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Perhaps if you clarified what you feel distinguishes a Daddy Dom from a plain ol' Dom?

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 5:08:50 AM

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What is the idea behind a "daddy dom" fetish anyways? I'm genuinely curious.

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 5:09:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessEliza

To me, and this may be completely untrue for others, I feel like Daddy Dominates are like gold. If you find even find one that's rare, and then you have to check if it's real or not.

Why are their so few compared to Alpha Doms, and other varieties?

Thanks!

Princess, the correct terminology is Daddy "Dominants" not Daddy "Dominates". A Dominant is a person, and dominate is what they do. noun/verb...different.

Anyway, to your question, they aren't rare. I get more collar mail from self professed "daddy doms" then any other kind. Also the term "Alpha" only describes someone's personality trait, a Daddy Dom can be very Alpha, so I don't know what you think is the difference?

Daddy Doms are definitely not my thing, but they are plentiful as far as I can see. Search the term on the other side or over on fet, tons of them there.

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 5:11:11 AM

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What is the idea behind a "daddy dom" fetish anyways? I'm genuinely curious.

whats the idea behind a sadistic dominant? whats the idea behind ANY kind of dominant? it's particular to the sub/slave/maso .. but by no means rare.

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 5:24:46 AM

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Smooches Greedy right back, hard.

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NS, here's a good thread with some discussion on it, I hate to reopen it since I pissed off everyone, but..it probably answers some of your questions.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3319504/mpage_1/tm.htm

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 5:26:37 AM

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Thank you for being helpful, Aynne88. I love you.

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 5:31:40 AM

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You got an answer, NS.

quote:

whats the idea behind a sadistic dominant? whats the idea behind ANY kind of dominant? it's particular to the sub/slave/maso .. but by no means rare.

The answers are as varied as the submissives/slaves/bottoms/tops/dominants/masters/daddys

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RE: Daddy Dominants, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 7:32:00 AM

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Ah yes, it is true... US citizen living in Korea - 1 million expats here. Amazing when you think about it...

<<< properly chastised by NV...

To the OP:
First, I changed the "dominates" to "dominants".

Secondly, I've not read all the thread, but no matter.

Finally, it is a near constant chant in the Ask a Mistress section that one might consider looking for a person rather than a title. People tend to prefer to be seen as themselves rather than a slot filler.

That said, I know what it is to have preferences, to want x, y, and z in a relationship. Heaven knows I understand! I'm erudite after all (reference sexyred1)... However, a certain amount of wiggle room in reference to the character of a person may open some doors that are full of refreshingly different experiences.

Good luck,
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RE: Daddy Dominants, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 7:39:57 AM

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<<< properly chastised by NV...

Sorry, Sunny. I must be grumpy this morning. Sometimes it's hard weeding through pages of banter when hoping for substance re: thread title. You know I loves ya.

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RE: Daddy Dominants, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 7:55:12 AM

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<<< properly chastised by NV...

Sorry, Sunny. I must be grumpy this morning. Sometimes it's hard weeding through pages of banter when hoping for substance re: thread title. You know I loves ya.

No no, you were correct. And the feeling is mutual.

best,
sunshine

I actually would be interested in hearing about what it is like to be in that kind of relationship. The name conjures up for me feeling precious and loved. Being with someone who very much wants to protect a woman and yet is able to have good boundaries.

I don't see it as the whole dressing up in ruffle butts and Mary Janes with pigtails kind of thing. It's more a ... quiet kind of leading...

I was surprised by your post NV. I suppose there could be a certain stigma to being a "Daddy Dom" but I've never heard it. Doesn't mean it hasn't been there, it just means if so, it hasn't hit my radar.

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RE: Daddy Dominants, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 8:05:53 AM

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I actually would be interested in hearing about what it is like to be in that kind of relationship. The name conjures up for me feeling precious and loved. Being with someone who very much wants to protect a woman and yet is able to have good boundaries.

You've pretty much nailed it, as far as mine goes. It's more of a nurturing, loving, yet strict-when-necessary, kind of dynamic. What it brings about for me is a freedom to be feminine, innocent, and childlike (in an "adult" sort of way, if that makes any sense) that I've never experienced before.

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I don't see it as the whole dressing up in ruffle butts and Mary Janes with pigtails kind of thing. It's more a ... quiet kind of leading...

I can honestly say we haven't done the ruffle butt, pigtail sort of thing. Although I did hop around in bunny ears yesterday, just for fun, lol! But hey, it was Easter!

But yes, a quiet leading fits him perfectly. Have you been peeking in on us?

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I was surprised by your post NV. I suppose there could be a certain stigma to being a "Daddy Dom" but I've never heard it. Doesn't mean it hasn't been there, it just means if so, it hasn't hit my radar.

best,
sunshine

Oh God, yes, I see it often. On CM more than on Fet. "Daddy" is put in quotes, is referred to as a "Pedophile," or "Dirty old man," or is referred to as "play" and not a serious type of relationship, etc. There's all sorts of negative connotation. I never noticed much until I entered into such a dynamic. It doesn't bother me, because I know what we are, but it's out there. I even get weird Cmail about it.

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RE: Daddy Dominants, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 8:18:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

But yes, a quiet leading fits him perfectly. Have you been peeking in on us?

Aww... You caught me!

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RE: Daddy Dominants, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 8:26:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

But yes, a quiet leading fits him perfectly. Have you been peeking in on us?

Aww... You caught me!

LOL

Note to self: Must check curtains for proper closure.

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RE: Daddy Dominants, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 8:35:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I actually would be interested in hearing about what it is like to be in that kind of relationship. The name conjures up for me feeling precious and loved. Being with someone who very much wants to protect a woman and yet is able to have good boundaries.

You've pretty much nailed it, as far as mine goes. It's more of a nurturing, loving, yet strict-when-necessary, kind of dynamic. What it brings about for me is a freedom to be feminine, innocent, and childlike (in an "adult" sort of way, if that makes any sense) that I've never experienced before.

This dynamic sounds appealing intellectually; but adding the term "Daddy" to the mix feels icky to me.

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RE: Daddy Dominates, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 8:48:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: PrincessEliza

To me, and this may be completely untrue for others, I feel like Daddy Dominates are like gold. If you find even find one that's rare, and then you have to check if it's real or not.

Why are their so few compared to Alpha Doms, and other varieties?

Thanks!

Well, your profile sucks. I suspect fewer serious men will email you, while that won't put off the people who send mail to everything. So you might want to start with your self-presentation.

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RE: Daddy Dominants, Why Are They So Rare? - 4/25/2011 9:09:55 AM

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Well, your profile sucks. I suspect fewer serious men will email you, while that won't put off the people who send mail to everything. So you might want to start with your self-presentation.

Why don't you give her specific recommendations?

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