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painslave97 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 1:29:49 PM)
lions & tigers & bears, oh my!! lol of course becca is right too,, what's a slave to do!!!!! Thank all of Y/you lovely, open minded, helpful, thoughtful & amusing Master/Doms, Mistresses/Dommes, Sirs, Ladys, sub/slaves & everyone in between, top bottom & sides. histerically, painslave97 {Graet minds think for themselves, slave thinks as Master wishes}

LaTigresse -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 1:32:47 PM)
Here is one way to think about it. You are your Master's property and taking the very good care of Master's property is also important. I know I would feel that way.

proudsub -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 1:42:53 PM)
If you are having trouble completing physical tasks, maybe when you talk to your master you could ask him if there are any mental tasks you could do for him in place of some of the physical ones. Examples would be: research on a topic he is interested in; reading on topics that he would like you to learn more about; financial planning; journaling; searching and trying new recipes; reading on health topics; etc.

painslave97 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 1:45:47 PM)
Sir fastlane, Thank You for Your supportive comments. And normally this slave would agree with your quote also,, but it's pain is only allowed to be enjoyed if Master decrees it or inflicts it Himself ;) LOL hhhm a thought for a whole new thread, good pain vs. bad pain, or why is there 2 kinds of pain,,, oh well, another time for that maybe lol. BB, painslave97 {Great miknds rthink for themselves, slave thinks as Master wishes}

mnottertail -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 1:47:58 PM)
Painslave...this is a common thread about the bifurification of pain. Searching brings up a bunch of hits....... and there are those here that will offer you scads of links if asked. Ron

littleone35 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 1:50:00 PM)
Hi pain slave i read your post and the replies and i must say i agreed with them. Your Master knows of your condition so just do what you can. Don't beat yourself up or think you are a failure just because you can not get everything done. You sound like a very good slave trying to do everything you can to please your Master and upset because your medical condition inteferes with that. Just relax you have to take good care of your Masters property. Matt's littleone

slaverosebeauty -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 1:55:28 PM)
One of a Master's 'duties' is to make sure his slave is healthy. Since your Master knows of your medical condition, he needs to be understanding of things; having a cold sucks, and if you are taking medication to help clear that up and are not at your best, your Master should be understanding of that and take that as well as your medical condition into account. Your Master belongs to you as mucha s you to him, so if he is havign a fit about you not being at the top of your game, think about things and that relationship. Personally, if I was with a Master and I got ill, I would expect him to want me to get better and to give me a bit of leway, even if that meant he had to make his own coffee, or things were not done compeltly done or the like. A healthy relationship has trust and care, not just service. As for CrappyDom, take his name and bad attitude into account, he is constantly belittling slaves and being a pain in the butt to some of us. Just ignore him, thats what most of us do. Any top who doesn't care if their slave or sub or bottom dies, is a predator and a criminal, and is not worthy or deserving of a bottom or slave.

CrappyDom -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 2:00:44 PM)
Painslave, Am I correct in assuming this is your first long term BDSM relationship?

painslave97 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 2:07:35 PM)
Greetings BitaTruble, thank you for you sound advice. and yes,, this slave has lived with this condition for many years before it met Master. and for those who may have been thinking," how can it be a pain slave & be bothered by severe back pain?" until 6-8 months ago this slave was under a Drs care for the back pain, then that office changed it's policy & refused to treat it's particular type of pain, which, unless it wanted surgery & a 50/50 chance of being paralized, can only be treated by pain meds. this slave had tried to function without the drugs, which Master prefered, but it had been this slaves choice, before it gave itself to Master, to quit the meds. Now that slave is more active, iyt will probably need to resume the meds, in order tol function at the best of it ability in it's desire to serve it's Master. slave stated in an earlier reply that there is more than one kind of pain, & it believes that most of Y/you here will understand that with out lengthy explainations.{this slave would not enjoy a ruptured spleen say, from a car accident, but pain given from its Master, or at Masters wishes, will be enjoyed as allowed, no matter the severity, because it is recieved in service to Him.} well, again it begins to ramble,, oops. Blessed Be, painslave97 {Great minds think for themselves, slave thinks as Master wishes}

slavejali -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 2:14:12 PM)
As far as the cold your getting, I would kick it in the ass and take some flu caps, some of those cold meds are like speed, you will be flying around the house doing what you need to do [:)] Re your spinal condition what is it? It's ok to use medical terminology I will understand it..just wanted to get a better picture of what you can and cant do...

painslave97 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 2:15:15 PM)
Sir CrappyDom, yes this is it's 1st longterm M/s relationship,, although not for lack of want/need/looking. And Sir, this slave enjoys your candor & in post #16 of the thread Your display of responsibility. this Slave Thanks You Sir for being You, don't change,, BB, painslave97 {Great minds think for themselves, slave thinks as Master wishes}

CrappyDom -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 2:26:32 PM)
Pain, I don't believe you have enough experience in BDSM to be in the sort of relationship you are attempting, nor does whomever you are calling your Master. There isn't anyone on the planet (okay, maybe three) who have a doctor on retainer, that was sarcasm. I would assume you have never read a single non fiction BDSM book, nor been required to read one? I also assume you have never spent any time with a real life BDSM group, am I correct on those as well? Since I doubt your Master will allow you to read any, if you leave him, or he leaves you, I highly recomend you look through www.greenerypress.com website and order some of their books like SM101 or The Bottoming Book. Either way, I hope your cold gets better and you find a way of dealing with your spinal issues. As for you Rose, I have only killed and maimed a few submissives and I am much better at knife play now so I haven't hit an artery in years. That is why they assigned me this name instead of "superduperdom" which is what I really wanted.

painslave97 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 2:29:55 PM)
Mistress/Lady LaTigresse, this slave thanks you for Your kind words of support, may the Goddesses hold you & Bless you with all you desire. BB, painslave97 {Great minds think for themselves, slave thinks as Master wishes.}

painslave97 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 2:34:29 PM)
Greetings proudsub, thank you for your support also, this slave will try to include your suggestions & the suggestions of others in it's missive for Masters perusal. BBB, painslave97 {Great miknds think for themselves, slave thinks as Master wishes.}

painslave97 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 2:52:08 PM)
Greetings & much thanks to mnottertail, littleone35, slaverosebeauty & slavejali, All of you have posted very good suggestions & thought provoking statements for this slave. The condition is advanced degenerative disk disease, it has had many MRIs & Xrays over the last 7+ years, all showing the disease is progressing continually. the disks involved are mostly in lower back & several are in it's neck, which leaves it unable to turn its head & some days it wakes & has to lie still {on a bad day this may take hours} until it can get control of it's movement by sifting thru the pain. it has shrunk about 4 inches in recent years, if one can use that as an indication of the amount of disks lost already. Master would have prefered that his slave remain drug free, but He has given permission for it to seek treatment again. As for the Sir CrappyDom, it'll address Him next reply. Blessings to all, painslave97 {Great minds think for themselves, slave tinks as Master wishes.}

painslave97 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 3:09:26 PM)
Sir CrappyDom, 1stly,This slave understands sarcasm & also uses it in like when needed. *2ndly,, with due respect Sir,* to ASSUME, ass-u-me, is to make an ass out of You and me, sometimes just the former, not the later. 3rdly, this slave has been reading for many a decade, & yes,, even BDSM literature. Is Sir familiar with Collette, a lil mild, but a classic,, & it's favorite,, the Marquis de Sade?? These it read the 1st time over 24 years ago. This bitch was born a slave, no matter what any other, Dom or sub may think. 1st long time M/s relationship or not,, nobody can change the nature of the bitch. It matters not what people call you, what matters is what you answer to! 4th,, EVERY Master/slave relationship is different,, no 2 [or more] Masters adhere to the exact same set of rules,, unless they are all "going by the book" the same book even. And Sir, onced again,, thank You for Your refreshing honesty,, oh, and Your well wishes. humblely, painslave97 {Great minds think for themselves, slave thinks as Master wishes}**

painslave97 -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 3:23:13 PM)
althought the Collette books & the Marquis de Sade were the first books involving the lifestye that this slave read,, they were by no means the last. just incase Sir CrappyDom doesn't know who The Marquis was,, the word Sadist was originated from HIS name Sir Marquis de Sade From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Jump to: navigation, search [image]http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/f/f8/Sade_%28van_Loo%29.png/190px-Sade_%28van_Loo%29.png[/image] [image]http://en.wikipedia.org/skins-1.5/common/images/magnify-clip.png[/image]Portrait of the Marquis de Sade by Charles-Amédée-Philippe van Loo (c. 1761)Donatien Alphonse François, le Marquis de Sade (born June 2, 1740 in Paris; died December 2, 1814 in Charenton-Saint-Maurice) was a French aristocrat and writer of philosophy-laden and often violent pornography, as well as some strictly philosophical works. His is a philosophy of extreme freedom, unrestrained by ethics, religion or law, with the pursuit of personal pleasure being the highest principle. Much of his writing was done during the 29 years he was incarcerated. His name is pronounced as [maʁki.də.sɑd] (IPA); it is the origin of the word sadism

slavejali -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 3:51:02 PM)
I'm not a doctor..but i know a little bit about the spine...you probably know all about this but hey.... Whats commonly known as dengerative disk disease isnt actually a disease, it refers to wear and tear on the soft cushiony discs found between your vertebrae. This can cause compression on the nerves and and cause pain. Traction is very good for this, you could get your Master to pull on your legs by holding you ankles for a few seconds then release and then repeat. This will provide a lot of relief for you, also regular massage will help increase circulation and help with pain management. Because of the pain its very common to not want to move but this is the worst thing to do, stretching and exercise is imperative. Drink lots of fluids as well. Pretty much everyone has some form of deenerative disk disease after the age of 30- 40, much rarer for it to occur earlier. Can also occur after injury to back. Get back under medical supervision with a team of people who are pro-active towards your condition.

LadyHugs -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 4:01:46 PM)
Dear painslave97, Ladies and Gentlemen; Through the course of my journey in the lifestyle, there are a few special slaves that came across my care. One I inherited, upon the death of their Owner, was ill themselves and died in my arms. I have had a frail little slave girl, that was so diseased riddled but, served as best as she could until her death in 1997. One thing I learned as a dominant, from these slaves was--that they were more concerned for me their care giver than themselves. So, I also know how much service means to slaves having been one myself. I found myself in a "lesser" slave mind, when I was involved in an accident in 1980s, where I was temporarily paralized from the chest down. My poor Master had to take care of me, of course that wasn't sitting well with me either. Lucky for me the spine was bruised and I regained my body's use but, never 100 % though, I have a lot of damage to live with. My Master was at my bed, caressing my face as often as time would allow. Now days, such would be labeled a "Compassionate" Master and or "Healing" Master and or "Servant Master." My Master cracked me up when he said that, being flat on my back useless was the only way I stopped whirling around like a dust devil cleaning, that he often held his glass so it wouldn't be snatched in my cleaning sprees. [Chuckles--got to love humor when life stinks.] We made it into bondage scenes and we kept the M/s dynamic. The whole premise my dear--is serve in quality, not quantity. Illness and injury are "masters" all their own. Sometimes, Masters have to co-habitate that area. Chronic pain and deployed/focus pain by S&M. One thing I can speak from my experience, the experience with other slaves in chronic situations is this; 1. Never assume the quality and quanity of service you as a slave give/have. 2. Get all the negatives out of your system in the journal and report but; end it on a good note by writing all the good things done. Even if 100 things not done or done right, end with 1 correct/right thing. That is what will be the last thing you need to remember when you slumber. 3. You might not be able to control your illness/injury but--you can control how you manage it. 4. Be honest with the Master if tasks are just too much. It is better not done then done half right or not at all. 5. Don't be afraid to cry and feel sorry for yourself. (My Master said, warn him as soon as possible so he can bring in a table cloth for a hanky). 6. Don't be afraid of failure. It isn't a failure really, just a long "pause button." 7. Look forward to getting better. Because when you do, you'll have a lot of back log work to do. (Masters sometimes save all those dirty dishes, laundry just for you as a goal to get better. Now days you lucky slaves and submissives have microwave dinners and don't have to cook from scratch) 8. Be realistic. Sometimes things won't get better--only worse. Just live every moment like it is your last. Have no regrets or sorrows. I realize you don't wish to give the Master the perception that you are slacking. However, slave hearts always demand twice as much from themselves, then they do from others. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

SweetSarijane -> RE: what if this slave is ill (5/10/2006 4:14:25 PM)
While I don't as yet have degenerative disk disease, both my mother and brother did/do have it. It is in my family and my doctor is aware of it. My brother's was extremely advanced and he had to be in a wheelchair if he left his house. He finally had titanium plates put in 5 places in his neck when he got to the point that the strongest painkillers didn't work. My mother's is advanced and classed severe and she is trying to avoid having surgery if possible. I've dealt with it from a family member/caregiver point of view. My mother gets very frustrated when she's unable to do things and feels guilty when I take over and get them done and make her rest. I only step in when I see she's in too much pain to be doing what she's doing. It's hard on her because she's such a doer and caretaker of those she loves. All I can say is what mom does, which is to pace herself and concentrate on one thing at a time rather than worry about all the various things that need doing. You say your Master is aware of this and your limitations and so he should understand especially with a nasty cold on top of this that you were unable to do all that was assigned you. I wouldn't think he would punish you for things beyond your control. That is vastly different from willfull disobedience. The advice given to journal and write the triumphs of what you accomplished and your feelings as well as the things you couldn't complete, the reason and your feelings, as they occur and are fresh in your mind, I think is a very good idea. Your Master can then "see" how things were while he was gone. I wish you all the best and hope you start feeling better soon. Sorry for rambling on lol. I get that way sometimes. Take care.

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