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RE: Great Guy, But Vanilla - 5/3/2011 10:55:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
Plus you could marry the guy and get his permission for a dom to treat you like a Fuck hole every two weeks. It happens a lot.

Tell him before marriage, that you want this, and see how he reacts. A revelation like this, after marriage, when you knew it well before, would get you dismissed by moi...
Good luck, with your as it were, imperfect relationship after all. M

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RE: Great Guy, But Vanilla - 5/4/2011 12:40:50 PM

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That's like saying, I love this gay man and he loves me but we can't ever have sex. Yes, it's only one aspect of the relationship but intrinsically you can't fulfill each other and I doubt anyone would say you are wrong to not settle for a relationship like that.

Yes, I loved my ex but we didn't click sexually so the relationship was doomed. I'm not looking for a roommate. If he doesn't leave me with souvenir bruises, I'm just not satisfied.

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RE: Great Guy, But Vanilla - 5/4/2011 2:06:58 PM

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Carol says: Don't settle. Keep looking. Let this guy find the right woman. It's not you.

Jeff adds: I agree. The more I've thought about this the more I think you have an itch that just needs to be scratched. I think you're going to regret that at some later date, but that doesn't change the situation in the here and now.

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RE: Great Guy, But Vanilla - 5/6/2011 2:22:42 AM

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Hi,

Slowly does it! Dont frighten him off.

I was in a Vanilla relationship for a number of years, but in the sexual relationship, was able to coach what i liked, i know this is counter intuitive, by asking for her to pinch, then pinch harder, to scratch then scratch harder! and show how that really gets you going. Play with sexual positions that you find submissive. Gently intoduce toys and games, get him to masterbate you whilst he is clothed etc etc....

My ex never got into it fully but at least I found some satisfaction in our time together

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