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ORIGINAL: poise
I have never paused the scenarios that often play out in my mind to wonder if my
secret thoughts are ethical or not, and I have no intention of doing so in the future.
My imagination isn't harming anyone.

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ORIGINAL: heartcream

The thing with sex, I feel, taking the time and consciousness to notice allllll the thoughts and feelings, not only the good ones is a great thing. If it bothers one to imagine another person, take the time to go into that as well if possible. Because another would not, or finds that laughable is not necessarily the right answer either. If someone thinks their thoughts do have an effect out in the world, I would say they are not wrong. I have heard that if one thinks angry violent thoughts about another, for instance, that somewhere out in the world that will happen to someone although not necessarily the one it is thought/imagined about.

I think it is cool that some folks are looking a bit deeper, realizing the power of the mind etc. I personally would say it is not wrong but it is healthy to make room for and look at all that is going on, not only the pleasant/hot stuff.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
Vast difference to somebody jerking off on the phone while talking to another person, that's a direct involvement and not consensual, the shoe salesman enjoys his job and does his job, the phone jerk is a freaking idiot who's too cheap to call a sex hotline, a bit like a peeping tom with binoculars who might argue "If my neighbour doesn't see me, I'm not doing any harm..."


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And men who do a lot of this, like men who watch a lot of porn, are men who become less socially competent and less likely of ever getting to happen in reality what they dream of. Karma comes back to bite us all on the ass, sooner or later.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Men are more visual than women, so men are more likely to do this.

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Whether you believe in karma or a balance or just reaping what you sow is unimportant. We're talking about reducing other people to things, to denying their humanity. If it's okay to do so sexually, then why isn't it okay to do so because of their religion or skin color? Why isn't it okay to murder them? After all, they're not people really, they're sub-human things. It's a slippery slope and not one I propose to go down. YMMV.