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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/12/2006 2:22:01 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten

hello my name is kitten and after multiple bad experiences in private chats i feel i need to ask a question. why is it that doms (mostly men ) feel it is ok to invite me to chat with out looking at my profile well they look at the pic but they have no idea what it says so when we start talking they get angry at me for having a Master well if they would have read they would have seen plus its says not looking for men i just dont get it i know that its not my place to complain but if people just read the profile they wouldnt waste my time or theirs! please explain to me why male doms (not all just most of the ones to contact me) feel they dont have to red the profile and then get mad at me for haveing a Master? i mean some of these men are just rude and that is not how i thought doms were ment to be any insight would be greatly appreciated thank you to all


Because men, especially those seeking tend to be lead around by the little dom....that would be the major reason that I keep them as pets. My suggestion would be to remove your pic and possibly modify your name in chat to show some type of ownership. This will mean that they can't link to your profile but if you're owned that shouldn't so much matter.

Just an FYI this is also why most owned subs I know are not allowed to privately chat. Most boys assume that away from the herd means you're interested in them.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/12/2006 2:39:36 PM   
MstrOfyou


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Status: offline 		Kitten, I think you are getting those rude responses from people, who frankly, are not dominants.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/12/2006 4:56:24 PM   
NastyDaddy


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ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten
.. so when we start talking they get angry at me for having a Master...


Create yourself a text file and save it on your confuser (chat.txt).
Add the following lines to the text file and re-save it.

1. I am owned and only available for chat without my Master's approval.
2. If you really like my picture and still have any doubts, re-read number 1.

Then when you get online, open the text file and Select All (CTRL + A) , then copy (CTRL + C) and you have it in Windows clipboard memory buffer, ready to be the very first thing pasted (CTRL+V) into your chat window...

(#2 is optional,  it drives the requirement of numbering for easy reference, lol, or just paste the first line itself alone..)

Either way, you will be clearly stating your position prior to any chat foreplay beginning.... easy way of saying ''keep it in your pants Mr Rogers''  (around here more like Mr Lord Master His Highness The Omnipotent Evil Sir Rogers)   

This should help and will be an immediate icebreaker regailing your Master with praise, his good fortune, envy and jealousy.... and potential outbursts of wigg......  hmm,  measure vs. countermeasure.... would that actually be any progress you think?


    

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/12/2006 5:12:04 PM   
bandit25


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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/12/2006 7:28:02 PM   
HoosierScorpio


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Status: offline 		I know some times you do not catch every thing you read so they do not pick up that you have a Master in your profile. I know for myself I have a kind of LD that I do not register every thing I read when it is in paragraph format. I also know of a case were some do not say they have a Master and when they are contacted they are real rude to Masters I know. Maybe if the first sentence in the header should read I have a Master in big letter then say you are looking for a second girl for you guys to play with. Another possibility tries creating a profile showing couple so you are not in the section that has bisexual looking. This might eliminate the possibility of being hit on in the near future for I never go looking in couple section. I see so many who have profiles in submissive looking for Male Dominate posting their profile and they are already taken. Then if you are already taken why are you looking or have a profile on there in the first place. Also if you have your profile so you can use some parts of collarme then why not deactivate it. You can still go to areas of collarme and not worry of being hit on. I could never understand that if you are already taken then why in the world do  you keep a profile up in the first place.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/13/2006 5:04:32 PM   
Sinergy


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quote:
We are myopic and usually read only the first line. So your first line should not say, but shout: "NOT LOOKING FOR MEN!"

 
Weird, you are assuming that people prowling can actually read.
 
I would suggest just not responding any more to what they say.  The person(s) will get bored and move on.
 
Putting them on block or ignore, to me, is letting them have the power to alter or control what I do.  I have issues with that. 
 
Good luck!
 
Sinergy

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/13/2006 5:06:22 PM   
Sinergy


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Status: offline 		Hello A/all,

On a different note.

What is so difficult about saying "No thank you" and then not responding to anything more that they say?

Say what you mean.  Mean what you say.

Sinergy

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/13/2006 6:19:30 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		Why go chatting with strange men?  I mean, once I get the slut in the hotel room, I am usually irritated that she doesn't put out!

As for these sort of profiles, I always figure the hot little 19 years olds with the two line profiles are sad little men aching for attention anyway.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/13/2006 6:44:18 PM   
obis


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From: Austin, TX, USA
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quote:

ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten
after multiple bad experiences in private chats i feel i need to ask a question. why is it that doms (mostly men ) feel it is ok to invite me to chat with out looking at my profile well they look at the pic but they have no idea what it says


Kitten, now that you're 18 I think it's time we sat down and told you the truth. When most men see a beautiful 18 year old girl, their higher brain functions shut down completely and it becomes impossible for them to read, much less understand your profile.
So be kind, these men are just as much victims as you are. Do them all a favor and don't chat with strange men, you'll just upset their hormone levels even more, and eventually they will drool all over the computer and electrocute themselves.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/14/2006 4:24:33 AM   
Sab


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Status: offline 		Don't answer an unwanted PM or message. If you are just looking for friends state it in bold red LARGE font - even then they will not get the message, ignore, hit the ignore button and concentrate on those you do want to converse with. 

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/14/2006 7:52:15 AM   
zebra


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

Why? Because all too many of them may wear the lable 'Dom' but are nothing less than adolecent HNG's. But then given you have a Master you know not to tar everyone with the same brush (At least one would hope he is more than a HNG!) so the question would be somewhat rhetorical, just something to break the ice for your first post?

Welcome to the forums anyhow dear



What's an HNG, please?

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/14/2006 10:39:39 AM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		You say you already have a master & you say you are not looking for men.

Why the heck do you go into private chats with these guys... you're only encouraging them.

Somehow I believe deep down inside you already know this. You enjoy the fact that these men are pining over you. Stop the foolish games with internet chat & you won't have guys like that bothering you.


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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/15/2006 6:35:34 PM   
Petruchio


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Status: offline 		I agree with M.Passion's observation that there is a modicum of "Oooo, look at me and how popular I am."

I took the time to read your profile in which you state correctly that you are very young. You also claim to have bundles of experience which I doubt. The perspective of the young is that they THINK they have experience but it is not until years later that they begin to realize how very little they really know.

With experience comes tolerance and the ability to roll with situations. That does not mean rudeness is excusable… it isn't. However, give yourself the time and permission to not sweat the small stuff. If some idiot is rude, shrug and forget it.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/15/2006 7:35:03 PM   
Submotive


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quote:

please explain to me why male doms (not all just most of the ones to contact me) feel they dont have to red the profile and then get mad at me for haveing a Master?


Maybe they don't know how to read. You know, they're the ones who only know how to look at the pictures.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/15/2006 8:02:46 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Block and delete... block and delete.. block and delete... did I mention block and delete???

I have read some of the responses here to you, and yes you are young, and yes there are men out there that do not readyour profile, and yes you have to learn how to deal with it. If you do not want the attention take your pic off profile and leave the age range blank... that should get rid of 90 percent of the cretins that do not read and shop by picture.

If you want to play with the adults on an adult site be prepared for those who act like children... unless you want to remain a child yourself. Part of posting on an adult themed site like collarme (even though CM is a classy site) is you will encounter people who do not respect themselves much less you. You are 18 and probably slightly naive, but thats the facts of it.

Good luck to you.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/16/2006 5:49:37 AM   
Sensualips


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Status: offline 		Why do you accept private chat requests from Doms when you have a Master?  What is your motivation?  What do you hope to get out of it? 

If you simply must continue to chat with random Doms, just make your opening sentence "I have a Master.  I am only interesting in chatting for (insert your motivation here.)  I hope that is not an issue." 

Then if they hit on you or get mad at you, just exit.  No biggie.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/16/2006 7:06:41 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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quote:

ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten

hello my name is kitten and after multiple bad experiences in private chats i feel i need to ask a question. why is it that doms (mostly men ) feel it is ok to invite me to chat with out looking at my profile well they look at the pic but they have no idea what it says so when we start talking they get angry at me for having a Master well if they would have read they would have seen plus its says not looking for men i just dont get it i know that its not my place to complain but if people just read the profile they wouldnt waste my time or theirs! please explain to me why male doms (not all just most of the ones to contact me) feel they dont have to red the profile and then get mad at me for haveing a Master? i mean some of these men are just rude and that is not how i thought doms were ment to be any insight would be greatly appreciated thank you to all


(1) There is a convention that us men think with our penises.

(2) Its easy to get online because internet access is available at home, work, or in a library.

(3) Anyone can be online at anytime, and that includes people interested in the lifestyle as well as the ones who arent.
(4) Some just want to have a knaw.

(5) Others are just too lazy to try and interact with real people.

(6) There are good Dommes/Doms and bad ones.

If you take all the above into consideration you have a good chance of meeting someone youd rather not. Keep interacting with people but maybe youd have more positve experiences at lifestyle gatherings, or at least more fun?. Good luck, welcome to C.M

   HalloweenWhite.

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/16/2006 8:21:02 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		It could be because they can't read so they only look at the pictures or they are just nonintelligent beings. Or it could be because they are arrogant assholes.

I'd tell them straight off READ my profile and then get back to me. Then if they start acting stupid you can curse them out, smile and put them on ignore.

~Lashra

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/16/2006 12:29:33 PM   
barbiealto


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quote:

ORIGINAL: litttlesubkitten

hello my name is kitten and after multiple bad experiences in private chats i feel i need to ask a question. why is it that doms (mostly men ) feel it is ok to invite me to chat with out looking at my profile well they look at the pic but they have no idea what it says so when we start talking they get angry at me for having a Master well if they would have read they would have seen plus its says not looking for men i just dont get it i know that its not my place to complain but if people just read the profile they wouldnt waste my time or theirs! please explain to me why male doms (not all just most of the ones to contact me) feel they dont have to red the profile and then get mad at me for haveing a Master? i mean some of these men are just rude and that is not how i thought doms were ment to be any insight would be greatly appreciated thank you to all


WHY isn't it your place to complain? If you have a Master you are His, you do not need to 'obey'others. my Master actually loves the way I put other Doms down when they demand I obey them ( and yes I have to tell him every time a Dom contacts me)....... WHY do Doms feel they can boss subs around? I accept that ones own Master has the final say ..... but random Doms?? no way!!!!!( I find most so rude!! and those I feel are not real lifers!! they live in fantasy land!!)

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RE: i just need some help understanding dom men - 5/16/2006 2:04:59 PM   
tade


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From: Tampa Bay, Florida
Status: offline 		I always like to tell women just because you are a sub, doesn't mean you are my sub....Well not yet anyway.  

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