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RE: The temp Domme - 5/25/2011 12:56:57 AM

VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: falccon

as for people being right, correction, mistreses sticking together is more correct.

Which would make sense if the only people saying the same things were mistresses. They weren't. If everyone apart from you is agreeing in a vast conspiracy to be wrong, it might not actually be a vast conspiracy. And as for this:

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no one is having a temper tantrum except you.

Well, let's have a look at some of what you actually said (in reverse order, 'cuz I'm lazy):

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ORIGINAL: falccon

i asked a legit question, and some of the answers were down right disrespectful. you want respect it has to go both ways. i spoke my mind, and didn't act like a doormat. i know that's what a lot of dommes here want to see. unfortunately, it's not me.

usually the title speaks volumes, but not in this case. for her it was a temp thing because she wasn't into bdsm in the first place. she's total vanilla, and wanted to try this to see where it could lead. she went back to vanilla world. it's that simple. i tried with a person who was not into the scene. next time, i will make sure the person has been into it for long time and craves it as much as i do.

This? The bullshit about dominants wanting doormats is a temper tantrum - basically the online equivalent of 'you all don't like me because I'm wearing the wrong kind of jeans(/whatver)! You're all so meeeeeeean!'

And the whole second paragraph comes out as one long tantrum, by someone who asked a stupid question with a basic answer (stick to compatible people - I mean, how deep and insightful and difficult to work out is that?) and is now being forced to admit that they knew it all along.

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if you bother to read the thread, you'll know why i made those statements. your total disrespect shows how cluless you are. looks like your here to start drama, drama queen.

She wasn't disrespectful and she wasn't being dramatic - she saw you flame someone without bothering to explain yourself, figured you weren't going to explain yourself (something she was right about - it took another couple of pages for you to actually explain what happened) and made a pretty good summation of the situation - how is 'don't give money to people you don't know that well, and if you want to get into serious things like chastity play with someone you don't know that well stick to professionals in case it all falls through' being a drama queen?

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^^ inaccuracies. i'm not going to disclose personal info. you still don't get it.i'll leave it at that. whatever......

Sound remarkably like temper tantrums. 'You still don't get it'? Words of a teenager in a snit. As is ending a post with 'whatever...' - when have you ever heard a mature adult say that? It's the equivalent of walking out and making sure we all hear you slam the door really loudly so we know just how angry you are.

So I'm the one having a temper tantrum? Nah. I'm not having a temper tantrum at all, because that would mean I'd lost my temper. Particularly in my last post - I defy anyone to answer a post line-by-line when they've lost their temper (notice how all your little rants are whole paragraphs?)

I just don't much like your behaviour, mate.

(Or, you know. Whatever...)

(This is the bit where if I was you I'd flounce out and then flounce back in and moan about how much diarrhea everyone's left on my thread.)

<ed to add the line about me being lazy>

< Message edited by VaguelyCurious -- 5/25/2011 12:58:24 AM >

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RE: The temp Domme - 5/25/2011 1:25:58 AM

LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: falccon

i asked a legit question, and some of the answers were down right disrespectful. you want respect it has to go both ways. i spoke my mind, and didn't act like a doormat. i know that's what a lot of dommes here want to see. unfortunately, it's not me.

usually the title speaks volumes, but not in this case. for her it was a temp thing because she wasn't into bdsm in the first place. she's total vanilla, and wanted to try this to see where it could lead. she went back to vanilla world. it's that simple. i tried with a person who was not into the scene. next time, i will make sure the person has been into it for long time and craves it as much as i do.

No, when people asked for details you got downright disrespectful! Nobody wants a doormat, we just don't want to be doormats for guys as well, no matter how kinky they claim to be, sorry we're not here to give you the answers you would like to hear or the magic BDSM solution that lets you live your kink in exactly the way you want (though Roch has a secret for success, he might be willing to sell it...)

So she went back to the vanilla world, you said it was something she wanted to try and to see where it could lead, so she found that it was NOT for her, fine, end of story, you should be glad that you both tried it, shows that she was quite open minded (in case the story is true, for now we assume it was), so what did you want us to do? Tell you how to brainwash her so she would not be vanilla anymore?

As for finding somebody who has been into it a long time and craves it as much as you do, good luck with that. As we all said several times here, we are people first, kinksters and nice pervs later. A guy could be into exactly the same thing I am, 100% all the activities, if we don't have chemistry and he sees me as an instrument to fulfill his kink, he's objectifying me and I'm just not interested. I have the feeling that quite a few women here feel the same way.

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RE: The temp Domme - 5/25/2011 1:29:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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Oh nobody wants to work with that slut

You know, I can actually read this thread? Fackenell.

If you couldn't, I wouldn't have bothered... Too much fun winding you up, Mistress Slutty

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RE: The temp Domme - 5/25/2011 1:35:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: falccon

they say the journey is a learning experience, and it was. some ladies kept their cool throughout the discussion offering constructive criticisms while others launched into a vile, contemptuous attack. this is something i need to look out for in future dommes, and stay clear of these negative people. it's good to see the other side of people, and i sure did. i learn something everyday.

Can you make sure you include me in the "negative people" because I would like it if people like you would stay clear of me.

Stop throwing your damned pity party, you didn't like the answers you got and started to insult people left and right, you turned this into a massive drama and then insulted others. If you want a cup of hot chocolate, sympathy hugs and being told how wonderful you are and it's not your fault at all, go to your mother.

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RE: The temp Domme - 5/25/2011 2:47:23 AM

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this isn't Hello Kitty Island Adventure...it's a BDSM site on the internet and there are sadists here.

If this doesn't get Sunny quote of the day, it at least deserves an honorable mention.

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