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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 6:21:37 AM   
aromanholiday


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ORIGINAL: highhopes4us

i meant to post this to another forum...oops..it was my fault.....


Not a problem! We all mispost every once in a while, even those of us who claim posting perfection. :o


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 6:24:53 AM   
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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 6:25:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		Fuck the reasons why. I wanna know what kind of cologne the OP's dom wears...cuz that's stuffs gotta be banging!


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 6:25:57 AM   
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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 6:44:28 AM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: xssve

Can't speak for your dom, but I love neediness, it's one more excuse to discipline you!



Sheesh. She's an owned piece of fuckmeat. Who needs a reason to do anything to the cunt?

Note-all ordinarily derogatory terms are used only in the very best manner and highly complimentary meanings possible


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 7:05:35 AM   
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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 7:22:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kana

Fuck the reasons why. I wanna know what kind of cologne the OP's dom wears...cuz that's stuffs gotta be banging!


I bet it's Hugo Boss. Or maybe something more subtle, like Perry Ellis.
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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 7:23:41 AM   
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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 7:41:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: highhopes4us

i really thought that i would find some replies here from subs that are well like minded.......i feel that ur replies were rude and non called for in that reguard....what ever....maybe next time you answer a post,you would think abt ur words first......


calm down, highhopes4us -- honestly, i think if you're still that excited about your relationship after a year and a half, that's good. =p
i'm kind of a clingy type, too -- i LIKE to be around the people i care about, i LIKE being into what they're into. not to say that i can't give someone space when he needs it, but i like to be around, and WANTED to be around. =p
in my last relationship, he wanted me around a lot, and it worked out fine. =p he showed me how to help out with his work so i could be around then, too. haha

there's nothing wrong with you for being how you are. some people will be judgmental and say "clearly they're newbs because reality is oh so different" -- okay maybe for THEM it is, but that doesn't mean it has to be for you.

you're in a relationship that makes you both happy, right? that's all that should matter.


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 8:02:25 AM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: highhopes4us

hello to all....I have a Master whom i adore....Master has taught me ALOT.....I am collared and enjoy serving my Master...my question is ,i find myself wanting to service master all the time....i guess its neediness....is there any other subs that feel like that?


Way back in the days of old I felt that way with a former owner...then again we didn't live together, nor did we spend a whole lot of time together, so I would feel totally needy and excited for him, and he fed that in me. 

These days, however, I'm a lot calmer about my life, and I look at the bigger picture realistically.  I don't live with my owner just yet, but we spend a lot of time together, and when I'm staying at his home for days on end, I find I do miss my personal space sometimes.  "To service him all the time" would be exhausting, unless part of that service to him would be reading a book or relaxing once in awhile.   Otherwise, cooking, cleaning, researching, running errands, bedroom fun - - while I absolutely love doing those things, there is a need for balance (and sleep!), and fortunately he provides that.

As for "mean" comments - I find when someone's post to me upsets me, it's because they spoke of a truth that I don't want to face, within myself.  Over time, I learned my best option is to look within and examine why it bothered me, rather than to get defensive or upset.  Something to consider.


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 8:18:30 AM   
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there is a need for balance (and sleep!),


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 8:20:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: highhopes4us

i meant to post this to another forum...oops..it was my fault.....there was a reply from la tigeress that was mean..at least its how i took it......


My apologies if you felt I was being mean to you. Your OP was vague, it was early, I'd not had my espresso and your bit about 'service master' made me think of another poster, I typed what came to mind.

Trust me, if I wanted to be mean to you........there would have been no question by you, or anyone else, as to my intent.


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 9:02:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
we're poking fun a bit, but the reality is you're in something called "sub frenzy" if I'm understanding your post(s). Do a wee search (button is in the upper right hand corner) for it, and see if it sounds familiar.

Gosh, I didn't read that from the original post. My own reaction was, "Sheez, here at the 15 year mark and as the dominant, I very much want to 'serve Carol all the time'". I am definitely and unabashedly "needy" when it comes to Carol. I call that "being in love".


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 9:08:29 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		Haha love it. I'll sleep when I'm dead. Rock on, Warren.

Thanks sunny!!

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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 10:08:12 AM   
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As for "mean" comments - I find when someone's post to me upsets me, it's because they spoke of a truth that I don't want to face, within myself. Over time, I learned my best option is to look within and examine why it bothered me, rather than to get defensive or upset. Something to consider.

I find that it can be a lot of different things. Mostly though, when I feel someone's being an ass, they usually are. Now there may be some truth in what they say and there may not be.

I don't believe she was trying to be mean this time.


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 10:10:14 AM   
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My apologies if you felt I was being mean to you. Your OP was vague, it was early, I'd not had my espresso and your bit about 'service master' made me think of another poster, I typed what came to mind.

Wonderful.

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Trust me, if I wanted to be mean to you........there would have been no question by you, or anyone else, as to my intent.

Not so much..It sounded really tough though.


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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 10:33:04 AM   
NuevaVida


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I find that it can be a lot of different things. Mostly though, when I feel someone's being an ass, they usually are. Now there may be some truth in what they say and there may not be.


I have learned over the years to better distinguish when someone is just being an ass versus telling me something that uncomfortably resonates. But the two can go hand in hand, and sometimes do! Regardless, if I feel a strong reaction to what someone is saying, my first step is to examine if there's some truth to it, which I haven't faced. Sometimes there is, so it's worth looking at. I've done that with some of your posts, for example.

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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 10:39:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Yes. There is always somebody. I'm sure there's even a t-shirt.



Yep! Been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt.

Then I grew up, got some self-esteem, and got a life.


I have a lot of self esteem and despite my age am quite grown up... but i still feel the need to serve him quite often. I do agree that some people are subs/slaves simply because they lack self esteem... just like some people are doms for the same reason, but not everyone. Me for instance, I am a slave because i dont want anymore control, and im a pain slut. In the rest of life I have a dominant very extroverted personality and frankly am in charge or way too many things for a 19 yr old.

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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 11:02:30 AM   
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I've done that with some of your posts, for example.

And I'm sure I was an ass while trying to point it out as well.

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RE: sub being needy - 5/25/2011 11:07:15 AM   
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