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RE: Where do i pay for fantasy - 5/25/2011 10:25:01 AM

LafayetteLady

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I know you say you don't want to go to a club, but going to one just to see some of the things you have fantisized about in person could help you more clearly develop what it is you want. It can also be a great place to talk to people who could direct you to a pro with a good reputation.

As others have said, be totally up front about your experiences and fantasies. You might be very surprised to find out how different the real thing is. Again, as others have mentioned, a good pro is going to want to have a nice chat with you to find out not only about what you hope to experience, but a bit about you as well. After all, it doesn't do any good for either of you for your fantasy to reality experience to be a complete failure. She is going to want you to enjoy it and get your money's worth.

Good luck.

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RE: Where do i pay for fantasy - 5/25/2011 10:36:01 AM

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Amazin, there are lots of things I didn't enjoy the first time. Some of them seemed awesome in fantasy and became hard limits when he did them. Others are things that didn't appeal at all as an idea but when he tried them, I went "more, more".

I think I took four whole spanks the first time before bursting into tears, and they weren't that hard. I did ask him for one hard one to see if I could take it, I couldn't and then he said it was only about a 5 on a scale of 1 - 10 of how hard he could hit. I hope he never does swing with all his strength. He's knocked me down by throwing a pillow full force from across the room. Which is embarrassing to admit btw.

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RE: Where do i pay for fantasy - 5/25/2011 8:00:30 PM

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I would like to commend you for being willing to pay to try this fantasy on for size instead of coming here expecting the Femdom community owes you an e-ticket. I hope you have a nice introduction and enjoy yourself very much. Either way I think you will learn a lot about yourself.

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RE: Where do i pay for fantasy - 5/25/2011 8:14:59 PM

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Some Pro-Dommes will only work with those 21 and over--this should be your first question to avoid wasting their time.

As others poignantly said--be honest from the start, and that includes your inexperience. In the end (no pun intended), it will be in your best interests and the Professional Dommes, since if you don't enjoy your session, you won't return.

If there is any way you can meet others in your area, a first-hand referral is often a good thing, but with the internet, many will have "reviews" online, just don't expect "references" as any good professional keeps her client list locked up and strictly confidential. What they charge will vary greatly Domme by Domme-- prices may vary depending on who they are, what you require, length/complexity of scenario, etc.

There is nothing wrong with not going full throttle first time out of the gate--better to leave you a little hungry for more, than so freaked out that you never want to try it again. I've said it here before but it bears repeating--our fantasies often have much larger appetites than our bodies can handle. My Sir often says-- "Don't let your mouth write a check your ass can't cash" [literally, in this case]

Be clear about what you want....be clear about your inexperience....communicate if you want something other than what you're getting.
Have fun. good luck

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RE: Where do i pay for fantasy - 5/25/2011 8:54:51 PM

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Is there a TNG group in your area? Find it, if there is. Have fun with folks in your own age group, for freee.

I've been the "first time" for more than a few, as a pro dominant and otherwise. I've met some folks who were masos right out of the gate, and others who thought a spanking was a big deal. Be honest with your playmates, it will make the experience better for both of you.

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RE: Where do i pay for fantasy - 5/26/2011 4:21:32 AM

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You are not someplace that we all haven't been before, as a 1st timer my knees was shaking, i was sweating so bad ,I will give You my 2 cents and hopefully it will help You out, 1st do a goggle in your area, Pick a Better Name Dominatrix, If when you call they don,t ask Questions 1st and start off by talking money i would hang up, 2nd if they want to hook up at a Motel that would kind of scare me, I have meant some ladies at a coffee shop the 1st time to see if it was what You are looking for, Some will have a Questioners with a list of things on it, Remember that most will have a Bodyguard somewhere for there protection, 3rd if there is a session RELAX, if you are not Relaxed and take your time things will not work out, Anyone who just ties you up and starts whipping the crap out of You i be beware of, You need smooth music, dark lighting and take your time, it will be better ( Damn i think i will make a app. )

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