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HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) (5/30/2011 12:52:17 PM)
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No, penile penetration is an implicitly dominant sexual act Yes, you and some others have said that, yet nobody has really explained why they feel this is. The closest anybody has come is your idea about the biological trigger of the potential for impregnation. Unfortunately, none of the women have decided to chime in on if there is a psychological difference related to impregnation, so we can't really go there until they do. As it stands, I think the best we can say about penile penetration being inherently or implicitly dominant, is that it can be, depending on the views and headspace of those involved.
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but sexual dominance is the capacity to enforce your will. Which essentially means physical power. But that has been shown not to be the case repeatedly in this thread alone. Raw physical power is indeed one way to exert sexual dominance, but not the only way. There are men on here who do not use physical power to dominate, so its not a male/female thing. To deny that some people dominate through strength of will alone rather than body is to bury one's head in the sand.
You know, something just occurred to me. Maybe we can put it this way...Dominance comes from the ability to enforce one's will, which requires the strength, either physical or mental, to bend another to one's will. Is that an acceptable general definition for all?
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I have just noticed something about your posts, and I think it is the source of the rancour you seem to attract. bear with me a moment...
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Female hetero subs like to struggle, they like to feel overwhelmed and know they're being fucked by a guy who can take what he wants. And they get off on the sense of fear this can bring with it. Many of them - even those who've been raped - get off on the idea of rough sex and rape fantasies.
Basically, women like to be taken. And dominance in the bedroom is about the desire to do as you will and having the physical capacity to enforce it. In my experience, women adore being tossed around the bed. Only in the last sentence do you qualify your views as your views or drawn from your experience. In the rest of this section you use wording that implies that you believe what you are saying is an inarguable universal. Its' not "some female hetero subs" or "most female hetero subs I've dealt with", but female hetero subs are this way... granted you do not actually come out and say "all", but it certainly is implied in the wording you choose.
I think if you reworded the way you make your points it would make your ideas more palatable. When I take the time to mentally do that, your posts are far less "out there" and the points become more easily examined. I still disagree with most of it, but it's easier to see the point being made for what it is, rather than a statement of a patently inaccurate absolute. Just an observation. :)
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