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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:25:45 PM

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LOL! I just saw a youtube vid with a guinea pig being cleaned by its pet mastiff! Decidedly annoyed piggen!

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:29:44 PM

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LOL! I just saw a youtube vid with a guinea pig being cleaned by its pet mastiff! Decidedly annoyed piggen!

Share the wealth! :D

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:32:42 PM

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This.

Edited to add: Oh dear...I didn't realize it was going to be so...big. :)

And we thank you for it!!!!!!!

You're most welcome. :)

He's a welcome distraction from the trolls on this thread. :)

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:32:53 PM

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I was going to post a reply to this thread but it seems to be about dogs now ;-;
so maybe the point would be lost :p

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:37:39 PM

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A CM thread being side-tracked? Say it ain't so...

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:38:44 PM

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No, Nanako, please do post. It drifting around a bit, but the dogs/horses angle is sort of related, in a roundabout way. And I at least am still reading things in the original light.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:39:21 PM

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I was going to post a reply to this thread but it seems to be about dogs now ;-;
so maybe the point would be lost :p

If you're responding to the original post, by all means, please do so. I don't think the point would be lost if you made a coherent post. :)

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:40:07 PM

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who very well know the mental/emotional aspects are key.
OK, I think I may not have made myself clear. What I meant to get at was not that men don't dominate mentally, but that to them, the physical aspect is the primary motivator. I think its sort of a given that any worthwhile dominant of any genderwould know that they have to get into a submissive's head to really dominate them.

I'm jumping into this thread late but I have a "first page" question. I've been involved with a number of male dominants, all of whom placed extreme importance on the mental/emotional/psychological elements so I'm a bit confused. They also liked physical sex, but so do women, so again I am confused. I may agree with you, if you clarify however. When you say above that to men "the physical aspect is the primary motivator," do you mean they just like to have sex more? If so, I know there are a lot easier ways to get laid than dominating someone. If not, please explain what you mean by "the physical aspect." Some concrete examples of what this is would be great, because it is general and can mean different things to different people.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:45:00 PM

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I don't want to answer for Heather, so my personal take is that more male D types than female D types seem to put a lot of value in being able to physically overpower the submissives and think that psychological domination (aka getting into the head of somebody) is only something women do as they aren't able to physically dominate somebody with raw strength.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:48:45 PM

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Seeing that this thread is already on page 19...I'm fashionably late and haven't read beyond the OP.
I relate certain sex acts and positions to being dominant or submissive in my own head.
In three years together I don't think I've ever been on top literally and physically. His choice. It's always his choice.
And that's fine by me.
The lovely thing about what floats your boat is that the only other person that it really matters to is the other person in the boat.
What gets us off mentally is really only important to me and him.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:50:54 PM

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Seeing that this thread is already on page 19...I'm fashionably late and haven't read beyond the OP.

Consider yourself fortunate. ;)

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 3:59:09 PM

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I don't want to answer for Heather, so my personal take is that more male D types than female D types seem to put a lot of value in being able to physically overpower the submissives and think that psychological domination (aka getting into the head of somebody) is only something women do as they aren't able to physically dominate somebody with raw strength.

I disagree, at least to the way I interpreted your presentation. Males do the psychological domination thing too and not because they don't have the physical strength. As for women (and this is the part I disagreed with) I don't think psychological domination is something women do solely because they can't dominate physically. I agree that could be the case for some or part of the reason for others, but I think there are at least some dominant women (if not a lot) who do so because of the mental challenge and the enjoyment. In other words, there are reasons other than lacking physical strength for psychological domination.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 4:06:13 PM

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I don't want to answer for Heather, so my personal take is that more male D types than female D types seem to put a lot of value in being able to physically overpower the submissives and think that psychological domination (aka getting into the head of somebody) is only something women do as they aren't able to physically dominate somebody with raw strength.

If this is the gist of this whole thread then I have to completely disagree.
While he may certainly have to ability to dominate me purely on physical differences (He's 6'3" and 195 lbs and I'm 5'00" and 120 lbs) and he does anytime he wants, the core of our relationship is based solely on his mental domination of me.
He expects total obedience. I obey.
The obedience doesn't come from any threat of punishment or any physical reward.
It comes from a necessity to make him happy on my end and a necessity of obedience for obedience's sake on his end.
The physical stuff is just a very pleasant perk.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 4:37:40 PM

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I've wondered about this subject a fair bit. I guess the internet can hardly be called a decent sample size, but from the profiles around here it seems on the whole that female dominants are more predisposed towards relationships that involve BDSM without sexual interaction. Whereas male doms seem more disposed towards incorporating BDSM and sexual elements together. Certainly not a hard rule though.

As well as that, the apparent conclusion of male doms being more focused on physical dominance, and imagery, is one I agree with. In general, this leads me to wonder. I generally consider myself bisexual, but it seems like I have more in common with male doms than female ones. That, combined with the disparity in numbers and high competition for mistresses, makes me feel like it'd be a lot easier for me to find a compatible male dom.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 4:54:09 PM

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For the love of Christ, Phil can you at least try and keep on topic.

Well, I can... All this talk of horses and elephants has helped me. I wondered if it was Freudian with the ladies, due to how well hung both animals are. :-)

Beyond your "masculine" desire for it to be otherwise, it only requires about 3 inches.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 4:55:22 PM

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Manipulation (ie: Mindfucking) is an extremely useful and often used method.

A mindfuck wont work if you dont know the victim.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 4:58:08 PM

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Manipulation (ie: Mindfucking) is an extremely useful and often used method.

A mindfuck wont work if you dont know the victim.

Sure it can. You just need to have some knowledge of basic human behaviour.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 4:58:24 PM

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Where was I? Oh yes, women. Delightful creatures, total pain in the ass most of the time but useful for administering blowjobs. Also tend to be handy in the kitchen, although that's probably not a representative sample, I've just been fortunate in that regard.

You could get that blow job from a man and not have to deal with the pain in the ass women, no?

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 5:12:39 PM

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No, Nanako, please do post. It drifting around a bit, but the dogs/horses angle is sort of related, in a roundabout way. And I at least am still reading things in the original light.

Since I started the horse conversation, then I should finish it, Heather.

Brute strength will never conquer a woman. Brute strength will never get a woman willing, wanton and panting at a man's feet. Brute strength may get a man fucked, on ocassion.

Just like with a horse, it requires a connection.

Time, patience and understanding.

Trust is the key.

These "men" who have been yacking on this thread are speaking of a fuck. And thats all they apparently know, with the exception of one. Want a woman to enjoy? Then become a man a woman wants to enjoy.

Im sure they will come along and demand to know what I mean. Or they will try and berate what I just said. I have no intention of explaining it further on this thread. If you wish, you may contact me on the other side. But I dont believe there is a woman on these boards who would disagree with me.

Something they also failed to understand, Heather. Just like with an horse, not every man can dominate every woman. Something these few dont seem to understand.... but its not surprising. This blanket theory that all submissive women want a man who will grab them by the hair and toss them around the room....

How many of the women here got wet watching the Secretary??? How many remember him brutally taking her?

Its no different with a horse... a magnificent creature that will have a mind of its own. That gives its loyalty only with time, patience and trust.... and you wont get any of those from "brute force" anymore than you would with a woman.

Some men get that... some men dont.

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RE: Male vs. Female Dominance (My 1st thread) - 5/30/2011 5:13:54 PM

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Manipulation (ie: Mindfucking) is an extremely useful and often used method.

A mindfuck wont work if you dont know the victim.

Sure it can. You just need to have some knowledge of basic human behaviour.

What may be a mind fuck to you may not be one for me. Its pretty personal.

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