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i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting upset. - 5/29/2011 12:15:01 PM   
LikesEmYoungNHng


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Status: offline 		i live with family and over the phone it is hard for me to please my Teacher. (my Daddy)

he wants me to call and cum for him while i cry, but i cant do that living under a roof that is not mine, i must respect my family but how can i do that while i am in training?

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:18:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		You tell him that it's not possible while at home, and explain why.

If you can find somewhere else you CAN do it, then let him know in advance.

If he continues to push it, then maybe it's time for some hard thinking on your part.

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:19:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds more like you exist for him to get his rocks off over the phone listening to you cum.  What exactly is that teaching you?

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:19:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LikesEmYoungNHng

i live with family and over the phone it is hard for me to please my Teacher. (my Daddy)

he wants me to call and cum for him while i cry, but i cant do that living under a roof that is not mine, i must respect my family but how can i do that while i am in training?


A car might make for a good place... or let him know when your parents are not at home?

Beyond that, if it continues to be an issue, you have to think about your own survival first.

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:20:20 PM   
LadyConstanze


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Status: offline 		What the Bunny said!

If he doesn't respect your family commitments and decent behaviour while being under somebody elses roof, I would worry how much he will respect any commitment to you...

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:22:19 PM   
LikesEmYoungNHng


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You tell him that it's not possible while at home, and explain why.

If you can find somewhere else you CAN do it, then let him know in advance.

If he continues to push it, then maybe it's time for some hard thinking on your part.


i have told him time and again, yet he's always telling me that i am not TRYING hard enough. i even started to cry and took a pic and sent it to him to help him...

i guess i could go in the car and drive to a secluded area and help him but when he wants it now he gets so frustrated.

i do want to please him. but maybe i need someone more open to communicate and a bit more understanding.........

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:24:03 PM   
LikesEmYoungNHng


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It sounds more like you exist for him to get his rocks off over the phone listening to you cum.  What exactly is that teaching you?

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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

It sounds more like you exist for him to get his rocks off over the phone listening to you cum.  What exactly is that teaching you?


true...it feels like that too.

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:25:54 PM   
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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:26:20 PM   
LikesEmYoungNHng


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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

What the Bunny said!

If he doesn't respect your family commitments and decent behaviour while being under somebody elses roof, I would worry how much he will respect any commitment to you...


indeed. thanks for the perspective.

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:26:55 PM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		He knew going into the relationship so it's not fair of him to keep pushing you to cross your boundaries. If this is how little he cares about what's right for you then you're far better off making a break from him before you get more involved. It's obvious he hasn't your best interests at heart.

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:27:35 PM   
LikesEmYoungNHng


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Have you ever met this guy?

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Have you ever met this guy?


no

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:29:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LikesEmYoungNHng

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Have you ever met this guy?


no


Oh ffs!

So, what's he "teaching" you and how?

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:30:26 PM   
LikesEmYoungNHng


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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:31:06 PM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		Best to keep it that way and move on. Find someone who cares more about you then they do of their own sexual release.

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:33:13 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: LikesEmYoungNHng


quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Have you ever met this guy?

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Have you ever met this guy?


no


You are very young. You know this so I am not going to belabor the point with you...

I recommend going to munches and meeting people in the real world. I would suggest finding submissive friends in Oceanside (and not submissives who want to make you a gift to their dom). I would recommend that when you talk to guys on the internet you have them meet you at a munch where lifestyle friends can be around... this way no one can prey on you.

Most of all, I would recommend dumping this daddy, he sounds like a complete wanker.


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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:33:16 PM   
LikesEmYoungNHng


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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:34:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LikesEmYoungNHng


quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania


Have you ever met this guy?


no

Maybe it's time to hang up the phone and look for someone who understands what you are realistically able to do and what you're not. 

What is he training you to do, by cumming in proximity to your family?


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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:35:45 PM   
LikesEmYoungNHng


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Status: offline 		my thoughts exactly, im not into incest.

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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:37:07 PM   
LikesEmYoungNHng


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RE: i have stated my boundaries, yet He keeps getting u... - 5/29/2011 12:40:40 PM   
RedMagic1


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my thoughts exactly, im not into incest.

You are acting as though you are willing to consider it.

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