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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:40:29 PM   
Daddysredhead


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ORIGINAL: lizi

God you are an idiot.
So what about the people who love each other and have kinky sex too? Or did that explode your mind...?

You've never actually been in love have you? I'd say you haven't had much, if any, experince in kink either.


OMFGOSH!!! Lizi made me spit on my laptop screen. Thank goodness it was only spit bubbles and not actual soda or anything.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:43:06 PM   
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Since the girlfriend sits with him and reads the posts, I'll just direct this to her.

Hi there and welcome to Collar Me.  Could you do the folks on the forum a favor?  Take him to the bedroom, tie him up, smack him around for a little while, and then fuck his brains out.  He's obviously quite obsessed with BDSM, which usually doesn't get this bad if folks who want it so much get a bit of kink every now and again.  If you aren't willing to do this yourself, at least let him to go a pro for the beat down.  He'll either come home so horny that you'll be fucking for days, or he won't want sex at all because he got a taste and isn't interested in vanilla.  One way or the other, he'll start being more honest with himself and possibly more honest with you.

Enjoy!



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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 6:53:38 PM   
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Is a steak what you order when you really want a salad, but you're too chicken because you think it's effeminate to order a salad?

Did you become a lawyer because your parents wanted you to, even though you really wanted to be an anthropologist?

Have you always done it missionary style, but secretly wondered if there was another position you might like better, although the thought of buying one of those "sex books" makes you feel like a pervert?

Or maybe missionary style really is your favorite, and to hell with all that *hip* shit, you're gonna go on doing what you like.

Do you sometimes want chocolate ice cream, and then the next day want pralines and cream?

Do you spend hours and hours psychoanalyzing shit instead of just fucking?

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 7:02:17 PM   
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Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an inability to love in an equal way?



For some, I'm sure it is... in fact, I seem to recall one poster in a forum (either here or on B.com) flatly stating he is not interested in "love", has never felt "in love", and therefore his was not able to "love".  Was he blowing smoke up everyone's asses?  I don't know... maybe yes, maybe no.  So if I'm being objective about the question, I'd have to say that may very well be the case for some.  Personally, I've not witnessed "an inability to love" as the reason for most who hold an interest in the Power Exchange Dynamic.  Rather, they just prefer it.

I will add this, however.  I do know of one femslave that used the Power Dynamic as a means to "feel" again after a not-so-nice series of events took place.  It was a way to allower herself to "feel" after she'd shut herself off to her emotions.



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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 7:09:00 PM   
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Please fellow forum members don't make this personal,if you don't like the question ignore it.


I don't think you get to ask such a deliberately inflammatory question, with all the implied insult to anyone engaging in kinky sex...



I didn't get that from the question... and certainly felt no implied insult?!!  Just viewed as a question... like when some ask if those of us involved in this dynamic have ever been "abused", and that being the reason for the interest. (shrugs)





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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 7:19:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PhilSlave
Please fellow forum members don't make this personal,if you don't like the question ignore it. If you wish to answer it please do, discussion is good. :-)

Asking dumbass questions based on invalid premisses don't really warrant discussion. 

Dont take this personally but that would be like me asking if are you an emotional retard or just an idiotic troll?  

< Message edited by ResidentSadist -- 5/29/2011 7:20:14 PM >

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 7:30:08 PM   
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Dont take this personally but that would be like me asking if are you an emotional retard or just an idiotic troll?  


Are the two mutually exclusive? It might be hard to pick just one

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 7:54:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

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ORIGINAL: lizi

God you are an idiot.
So what about the people who love each other and have kinky sex too? Or did that explode your mind...?

You've never actually been in love have you? I'd say you haven't had much, if any, experince in kink either.


OMFGOSH!!! Lizi made me spit on my laptop screen. Thank goodness it was only spit bubbles and not actual soda or anything.




Well, I just have to say in my defense that I don't exist in the Matrix but I have personally seen both love and kinky sex coexist. OP, come to grips with your yearnings and you just might find some new horizons out there to to explore.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 8:22:40 PM   
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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 8:54:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PhilSlave

Is that it?


*reads OP*

*blinks, looks at clock on computer*

i wish i could come up with some thing dry and filled with smart assery in reply to Phil and his malcontent...but its past my bed time.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 8:56:40 PM   
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i wish i could come up with some thing dry and filled with smart assery in reply to Phil and his malcontent...but its past my bed time.


I got one...

Sometimes kinky sex is just kinky sex...

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 9:04:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Kink is how I like my sex. Love is what I expect from my mate before the sex happens. Kink is all about sensations and making the act of sex exciting. It has nothing what so ever to do with how I love Fox. I have no void and I do not love inequally, though we do love inequality and prefer it in our lives.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 9:19:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lizi

God you are an idiot.
So what about the people who love each other and have kinky sex too? Or did that explode your mind...?

You've never actually been in love have you? I'd say you haven't had much, if any, experince in kink either.


@ lizi - I was enjoying that cup of coffee. I didn't need to spit it at the pc screen.
To funny!


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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 9:24:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		OP - I was going to post something witty, insightful and possibly even enlightening but lizi completely scattered my thought process.



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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 9:27:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why yes it is Phil. You are absolutely right, very perceptive of you. Unfortunately, we can't allow the truth to get out, so we will now have to have you liquidated. I'm so sorry that its come to this, but we did try to warn you off, but you just had to continue poking your nose into places it didn't belong.

I tried, I really tried to go to bat for you, I told them that you were just an innocent with an inquiring mind and that we could put you off the scent, but to no avail. Baron Jacob R. and the other elders voted, and I'm afraid your fate is sealed. And unfortunately, your girlfriend will have to be disappeared as well, since she is aware of your inquiries and activities.

There's really no point in trying to avoid it, their reach is all-pervasive. All you can really do is get your affairs in order and tell your friends and family you love them.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 9:37:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PhilSlave

Is that it?


Now Phil,
Its time to move out of Mommy and Daddy's house. I know you are scared, but you are going to have to do it sooner or later. There is a wonderful and exciting world out there. Go experience it!

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/29/2011 9:40:31 PM   
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Is that it?


Now Phil,
Its time to move out of Mommy and Daddy's house. I know you are scared, but you are going to have to do it sooner or later. There is a wonderful and exciting world out there. Go experience it!


Don't we have enough stupid people in the world without unleashing another one?


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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/30/2011 12:40:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PhilSlave


Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an inability to love in an equal way?




Phil, to answer your real question.. no, there is not a preponderance of mentally ill people into BDSM compared to the rest of society. We don't attract a certain "type".. we attract every type, all genders, cross-genders, non-genders, GLBT, races, religions, politicos, rich, poor etc. That douchebag dom who thumps his chest is in your bowling league, Phil and the grandma at the park gets her down and dirty on Saturday night.. and trust me.. it's better when she takes her teeth out. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, Phil and on occasion if one wants to light an end and use it in an interrogation scene all the better.

Don't confuse love with sex nor equality with authority or any of that with power. Each is unique unto itself although many of those elements do work nicely together. Savvy?







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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/30/2011 1:35:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

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ORIGINAL: PhilSlave

Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an inability to love in an equal way?



For some, I'm sure it is... in fact, I seem to recall one poster in a forum (either here or on B.com) flatly stating he is not interested in "love", has never felt "in love", and therefore his was not able to "love".  Was he blowing smoke up everyone's asses?  I don't know... maybe yes, maybe no.  So if I'm being objective about the question, I'd have to say that may very well be the case for some.  Personally, I've not witnessed "an inability to love" as the reason for most who hold an interest in the Power Exchange Dynamic.  Rather, they just prefer it.

I will add this, however.  I do know of one femslave that used the Power Dynamic as a means to "feel" again after a not-so-nice series of events took place.  It was a way to allower herself to "feel" after she'd shut herself off to her emotions.




Thank you for anwering sensibly and not making a harmless question about me. I appreciate it greatly.

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RE: Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an... - 5/30/2011 2:04:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PhilSlave


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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

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ORIGINAL: PhilSlave

Is kinky sex an attempt to fill a void caused by an inability to love in an equal way?



For some, I'm sure it is... in fact, I seem to recall one poster in a forum (either here or on B.com) flatly stating he is not interested in "love", has never felt "in love", and therefore his was not able to "love".  Was he blowing smoke up everyone's asses?  I don't know... maybe yes, maybe no.  So if I'm being objective about the question, I'd have to say that may very well be the case for some.  Personally, I've not witnessed "an inability to love" as the reason for most who hold an interest in the Power Exchange Dynamic.  Rather, they just prefer it.

I will add this, however.  I do know of one femslave that used the Power Dynamic as a means to "feel" again after a not-so-nice series of events took place.  It was a way to allower herself to "feel" after she'd shut herself off to her emotions.




Thank you for anwering sensibly and not making a harmless question about me. I appreciate it greatly.


Yeah, sometimes posting on the boards is just like asking to get smacked around a bit.

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