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RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... - 6/7/2011 10:48:20 AM

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Yes just that. As soon as you are happy with yourself the best things happen.

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RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... - 6/7/2011 11:05:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

I'm going to guess I've never actually "looked" for something... something always seems to find me...if the person fits they do.

I have to admit, I've never understand searching for... a Master, a submissive... a Mistress, a slave or whatever... I feel, just like in vanilla relationships, the best thing is to get on with your life, have fun, do things... GET OUT .. meet people... make friends... and then make sure your friends know you're OPEN.. not searching. I think searching just leads to disappointment.

When I've been single, I've tried hard to enjoy it and revel in the time I had... and not search.. funnily enough, for me... stuff just seems to come up... stuff.. people I should say...particularly the relationship I'm in now.. it completely blindsided me... and I was not searching...

This is very much the way that I feel on the matter.

A "fourth" for Me would be the perfect explanation of a platinum unicorn. If you stacked up everything that a person would have to fit into the compatibility box, Mine is pretty darn extensive. I used to joke that the potential pool would be so small that it wouldn't fill an eye dropper and if I ever found it, I was going to start calling Myself "Mistress Miracle".

It's important to mention here that it wasn't an issue where I wasn't content. I had MP, clip, various play partners, friends, active in the community, etc, etc, etc. I was busy enough, happy enough, and in some people's estimation, I already had more than enough in My life in general. I wasn't necessarily thinking about that when I was having My fun little thoughts about the kicks that I could have with two people collared to Me. Play times that I could organize and so on. (I think enough folks know My tastes so that I don't have to be specific about that.)

Then, the strangest thing happened. I found that unicorn (I should say he found Me) and I decided I didn't want one. Not because anything happened to hitch up the works or there turned out to be compatibility problems. It was because I looked at My life and I realized I really did have "enough" and what I had was something that I didn't want to change or alter to properly add somebody to the household. What little time would have been left over on My end wasn't really "enough" to fulfill another person. Very much like scraps from the table. I thought the unicorn deserved more than that.

This was just a few months before I moved here. Had it been a year earlier or even a year from now, it might have been different. At the time, there just wasn't room in My life for another submissive. I know you said it wasn't a poly thread, but that's My perspective.

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RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... - 6/7/2011 11:57:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I know you said it wasn't a poly thread, but that's My perspective.

LadyPact...I meant the unicorn part didn't have to mean unicorn in the typical poly sense. What you described fits perfectly.

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RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... - 6/7/2011 12:01:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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When you realize what you seek most likely doesn't exist....how do you chose to respond? Do you change your criteria? Do you put your wishes on the back burner? Do you just give up...or do you do something in between these?

I'm going through this now while I look for an apartment. I'm constantly reevaluating wants vs. needs. What I want exists, just not in my price range or desired locale. So for now, I'm living at Mom's.

Oh goodness...I can relate.

Before I was in the sweet little cottage I'm in now, I dreamed of, well....living in a sweet little cottage. When I did find this one, I was caught up in a lease in a nasty apartment arrangement I was trying like mad to get out of. I told the owner I loved the place, but due to my current circumstances, was unable to commit to it. She kept my name and number and contacted me a month later to tell me she would hold it until I was able to move in.

Funny how things happen like that. Good luck with your search...who knows, maybe that perfect living space is looking for you!

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RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... - 6/7/2011 6:51:55 PM

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There are some people in the world that want a Platinum Unicorn, but it is actually pretty rare.

That goes for both Vanilla and Spicy relationships.

If that really is the case, then you need to re-evaluate your 'standards'. Typically I advise people to deal with the problem by UPGRADING their standards, not downgrading. That is, if you are a guy, that wants a woman to tie up, flog, beat, and she has to be a natural blonde, 10 years younger than you, and 100 lbs or lighter, I say "forget the Natural, accept 10 years older, and accept 160 lbs", but replace them with "not stupid".

In general, I find this works wonders.

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RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... - 6/7/2011 10:44:43 PM

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What I seek exists, but I am always a little out of step with it. So this time around I went for what I wasn't looking for and ended up finding what I needed.

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RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... - 6/7/2011 11:25:50 PM

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Do you think he'll get along with Domiguy?

If he's anything like the persona he posts as, then its not terribly likely.

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RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... - 6/7/2011 11:50:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

I'm going to guess I've never actually "looked" for something... something always seems to find me...if the person fits they do.

I have to admit, I've never understand searching for... a Master, a submissive... a Mistress, a slave or whatever... I feel, just like in vanilla relationships, the best thing is to get on with your life, have fun, do things... GET OUT .. meet people... make friends... and then make sure your friends know you're OPEN.. not searching. I think searching just leads to disappointment. When I've been single, I've tried hard to enjoy it and revel in the time I had... and not search.. funnily enough, for me... stuff just seems to come up... stuff.. people I should say...particularly the relationship I'm in now.. it completely blindsided me... and I was not searching...

I'm sitting here laughing my ASS off over how true this is. To be honest, I've had more opportunties present themselves to me when I was just Living and enjoying life. Without even looking for something. This is what cracks me up. Because I've had guys Ask me How I end up Hanging out with women at the bars. My answer has always been, it's because I'm not trying to pick them up! LOL Sounds rather messed up, but it's the best way I've found to meet and socialize with the opposite SEX. However the opportunity for more presents itself. It's because they know that I'm simply OPEN.

This holds true with poeple in your social circles. People simply knowing that you're OPEN and spreading the word. You never know what will happen! I still remember the start of one relationship I had. It was because I was hanging out with some friends and I made the comments about "Wanting to Hookup with somebody for some Rough Kinky Sex", pretty amazing my friend called another friend on his cell phone. She showed up and one thing led to another. I was not even looking for a relationship at the time. Just a moment of frustration of me expressing how much I wanted to hook up with somebody for Rough Kinky Sex. LOL

Anyways, I'm sitting here looking around me. I have a lot of things I want and need to do. I've burned too much time in chasing ass online with messages and profiles. Time to say, "Hell with it" get back to the regular program. Time to get the show on the road.

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