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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Why get out to the community? (6/12/2011 1:49:33 AM)
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Just read all four pages, loved hearing the variety of points made.
In this small town, I seemed to be the community. No active munch groups anywhere...SMACK had stopped meeting in Beckley and KATS in Charleston is new. I've spent around seven years meeting people from CM if they were interested in meeting up. I even tried to form a group here several times, but I couldn't find other women who would answer my short (don't everybody have a heart attack here, I do sometimes write SHORT letters) notes...two during a seven year time frame do not count. The men were usually just interested in scening at a drive thru McDomme.
My vehicle is old, and driving to the munch in Charleston would take half a tank of gas, $12 in tolls, and about $20 for the bar and grill and tip. Hate to say it but I am low income and for half a year, my winter bills and then catching up make driving that far of the question. If it was in my own town or in a neighboring town, it wouldn't be such a big deal. I used to drive to Charleston several times per week, years ago when I had a new vehicle. Only once in over a dozen years did I manage to make it from here to there in under two hours. To be frank, it gives me the creeps to be that far away from home, especially in an old vehicle when my family isn't with me. If it is foggy or raining hard, sometimes it has taken me 4-6 hours to drive home. If I have my autistic son in the car with me, and my seventysomething year old mother, I can drive to Ohio or Florida or Texas and I am okay with that. If something goes wrong and the vehicle would break down, we would all be together in a motel room and I would be handling the situation. My family wouldn't be worried. If I were four hours away from my mother when she had a heart attack or something, I would flip out.
I'm at a point in my life where I want to see a group of others at least a few times. If there was a dungeon nearby with demonstrations I would be there every time in a front row seat. As far as play parties go...I am more skittish. It would help if I were a voyeur or an exhibitionist, but so far I show no signs of it. For me, scening is private...and gawd...with the right person it is almost sacred. I cannot imagine hearing someone cough or shuffle on by when I am working a scene. I think I would react like a bucket of cold water was dumped on me, but with a little help from a friend I will likely try it out anyway.
As for the chances of meeting someone through CM compared with meeting someone at a munch. I already tried dating someone in the Charleston area and the long distance commute became a problem, so if someone I meet at KATS lives in the Charleston area...I see the same issue cropping up regardless of where we met, through CollarMe or the munch group.
I'm female, so meeting male subs and male switches from CM hasn't been a problem...so yes, this works for me. I am really not counting on meeting my boy at a munch, that would be like finding a million dollar winning lottery ticket; I just want to see others, in a large group of "us".
Finding a body to scene with is easy, finding someone compatible for a long term relationship (hopefully my very last one) is a lot more difficult.
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