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LaTigresse -> RE: guys suck, but i'm not a man-hating dyke (6/15/2011 8:24:37 AM)
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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
So you support the trash news that takes bits and pieces of statements of the famous and politicians twists them, and uses them to create support for their own agenda?
Because that is in essence, the same thing.
No I don't, because no it isn't.
You see things your way and I will see things my way.
If I were to say........ohhhhhh......thinking of an example....."All wealthy, over privileged frat boys are evil monsters that should be castrated!!!!!!!" I would expect to be, well, verbally castrated, for it!
BUT........if a 22 year old college girl, who was lured by her frat boy, boy friend to a party where she was drugged, raped and beated by all his wealthy, over privileged, frat boy friends, said exactly the same thing, I would expect that she would be given just a wee bit of slack for having the feelings she has and saying what she said.
And THAT, is the mindset I've taken when reading Hannah's words. A young woman that because of whatever her back ground is, lead her into a life that she was exposed the the shit dregs of humanity doesn't KNOW because she's never experienced the world through my eyes to believe in her gut that all men are not like those shit dregs. In her eye, through HER life experience, they are. I can accept her vitrol based upon her life experience, empathize with the few examples of shit dregs I have seen, then with that understanding and empathy, help her see that the shit dregs are a minority.
I fully believe that she posted with some knowledge she would get the nasty snark. I am pretty sure her offense has become her, very successful life defense. She expects people to shit on her so she tosses shit at them first. Then, when they react by tossing shit back, it only affirms what she has grown to expect. Many people on this thread have only affirmed what she has been taught through her life experiences.
It's no different that the whiners we see that create threads to whine, then toss a fit when they don't get the sympathy they have been taught to expect in return. The only difference is, that type of game is easier for a lot of people to swallow. When you do not give them their expected sympathy for their sad story, you are seen as the evil monster, just because you didn't play into their game.
Hannah has just learned to take a different route. Offend and run them off.
Neither method is productive to their growth but it's what has been successful for them, and it works.
Just because Hannah tosses vitriol out there to get people to react and prove her right, doesn't mean I have to do the dance. I WANT to prove her wrong but I cannot do it by attacking her stance. Not when I am some faceless putz behind a computer. And not when nearly every life experience she has had tells her the exact opposite of what this faceless putz is telling her.
What I can do is attempt to look at the world through her eyes, empathize. Not sympathize, very different animal. But understand WHY she feels the way she does and acknowledge that yes, there ARE a lot of horrible human beings in this world. But, as my words have CONSISTENTLY said, there are also A LOT of wonderful human beings in this world. The reality is that there are many people in this world that for whatever reason, have spent the bulk of their lives with the dregs, beginning at birth. A mindset with that kind of imprinting does not change over night, in a week, month, sometimes not in years.
I give huge kudos to Hannah for making the attempt, taking personal responsibility for trying to prove to herself that her life experiences are NOT THE NORM. She is trying to prove to herself that there are good people in this world including many many of the male gender.
So all y'all can call me an evil man hating cunt for all I care. I know my intent and I know how I feel, inside ME.
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