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Was i out of line? - 6/15/2011 9:59:37 PM

bradshaw123

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I was talking to a dominant woman (or so i thought) threw private messages.

Me: I started off by sending her a message saying how beautiful she was, and asking her if she wanted to chat to see if we made a good match.

Her: She replied telling me i had to send a picture, and pretty much she wanted me to be a financial slave

ME: I sent a picture and let her know i wanted to get to know her a little better before i would send any money.

HER: "yeah im not asking for weekly tributes, just one to start this relationship coz i want to be sure you wont waste my time..."
(this seemed fishy to me, it could just be some guy sitting at his computer with a picture of a hot girl as his picture trying to scam people out of their money)

Me: I asked if she could send a picture proving that she was who she said she was and not a 50 year old guy... or we could meet somewhere and i could tribute to her then.

Her: she said "YOU think i look like a 50 YEAR OLD GUY?" (obviously not what i said)

Me: I explained again what i meant making it very clear that i thought the pictures were beautiful and i just wanted to make sure it was her.

Her: w/e bye

Was i out of line in what i asked? The last thing i want to do here is disrespect anyone, but i also do not want to be taken advantage of by someone i don't think its. (Don't get me wrong i do want to be taken advantage of by true female doms lol)

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/15/2011 10:12:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: bradshaw123

I was talking to a dominant woman (or so i thought) threw private messages.

Me: I started off by sending her a message saying how beautiful she was, and asking her if she wanted to chat to see if we made a good match.

Just so you know, most women on the site get tired of hearing this. Doesn't go much to your original, but I thought I'd mention it.

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Her: She replied telling me i had to send a picture, and pretty much she wanted me to be a financial slave

In big, red letters, the site has a warning that says, "DO NOT SEND MONEY TO OTHER USERS FOR ANY REASON." They really can't make it any plainer than that.

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ME: I sent a picture and let her know i wanted to get to know her a little better before i would send any money.

That was reasonable on the picture.

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HER: "yeah im not asking for weekly tributes, just one to start this relationship coz i want to be sure you wont waste my time..."
(this seemed fishy to me, it could just be some guy sitting at his computer with a picture of a hot girl as his picture trying to scam people out of their money)

Oh, so it's better if you just send money once to get you hooked?

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Me: I asked if she could send a picture proving that she was who she said she was and not a 50 year old guy... or we could meet somewhere and i could tribute to her then.

Personally, I have enough pics on the profile so I'm not accepting demands from random people on the site. I wouldn't have done it, but then again, I wouldn't have wanted your money.

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Her: she said "YOU think i look like a 50 YEAR OLD GUY?" (obviously not what i said)

Decent way to make you think you've done something wrong if you really did catch somebody who wasn't female.

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Me: I explained again what i meant making it very clear that i thought the pictures were beautiful and i just wanted to make sure it was her.

At this point, whoever was on the other side just wanted to see if you'd still be on the hook.

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Her: w/e bye

Busted maybe?

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Was i out of line in what i asked? The last thing i want to do here is disrespect anyone, but i also do not want to be taken advantage of by someone i don't think its. (Don't get me wrong i do want to be taken advantage of by true female doms lol)

This is really simple. If you are not willing to give people money just to talk to you, don't do it. Most lifestyle Dommes aren't going to redirect you to other chats (yahoo msn, etc), websites that you have to pay to join, or try to separate you from your money just to meet/talk with you.

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/15/2011 10:36:49 PM

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Thank you so much for the detailed reply!!!
I will try to change my opening line to something more original. (any suggestions?)

About the do not send money, i am also a financial sub if i know a woman is for real should i still not send her money even if it is my duty as a slave and i enjoy it?

back to the "woman" in question I'm 99% sure it was a scam

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/15/2011 10:41:13 PM

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Here's a novel idea. Read her profile and comment on something she has written there that speaks to her as a person?

If you want to be a financial slave but never meet the person in real life, send all of the money you want. Plenty of people will be willing to take it.

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/15/2011 10:48:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bradshaw123
Thank you so much for the detailed reply!!!
I will try to change my opening line to something more original. (any suggestions?)

About the do not send money, i am also a financial sub if i know a woman is for real should i still not send her money even if it is my duty as a slave and i enjoy it

There is nothing wrong with submitting completely to your domina. This in no way means that you need to stop thinking, in order to be considered.
Meet her first, bring flowers, or chocolate (hopefully you'd have gotten a hint of what she likes, from conversation), and once you are in a relationship, you can share costs, and offfer financial submission.

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back to the "woman" in question I'm 99% sure it was a scam

Well, than you should go with that, and move along. M

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 12:09:38 AM

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Thanks for help!!

I have another question though.
Is 18 to young for a lot of the women on here? I am looking for a women age 20-50 to dominate me (i prefer older women). Do you think my age alone will scare women away?

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 1:28:30 AM

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18 is too young for me, but not for many other women in their 20s-40s.
Good luck, M

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 1:45:36 AM

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yeah, you were way out of fucking line!

sweet mother mary's tits man, think it through.

quote:

The last thing i want to do here is disrespect anyone,

fuck that disrespect the bitch. his wife probably does it all the fucking time.

eta; just a quick question. has anybody ever heard of female money slave? i haven't

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 1:50:24 AM

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What to write in an opening memo:

-a few sentences about whatever you saw in her profile that's motivated you to write to her.

-a few sentences about why you think you'd be compatible with each other.

-a one-line joke.

Do that and you'll stand out. It'll take you longer than copy/pasting a single line about how beautiful she is, but it's worth the effort.

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 1:51:39 AM

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Hmmm... 18, service and financial slave... Are you sure you have to have a female dominant? ;)

As far as being out of line, no. Not even remotely. I'd have told her to straight up go shove her computer where the sun doesn't shine if she approached me like that.

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 1:54:17 AM

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@SexyBossyBBW thanks for the reassurance, i was worried no one would want me because I'm to young

@HannahLynHeather lol good point, I'm just ignoring them now though.

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 1:57:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BKSir

Hmmm... 18, service and financial slave... Are you sure you have to have a female dominant? ;)

As far as being out of line, no. Not even remotely. I'd have told her to straight up go shove her computer where the sun doesn't shine if she approached me like that.

Thank you for not saying "I'd of told her..." That always irritates me.

sunshine (who's not shining in that person's computer.... ahem)

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 3:29:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bradshaw123

About the do not send money, i am also a financial sub if i know a woman is for real should i still not send her money even if it is my duty as a slave and i enjoy it?

If that's your kink, enjoy it, it's your money...

quote:

I have another question though.
Is 18 to young for a lot of the women on here? I am looking for a women age 20-50 to dominate me (i prefer older women). Do you think my age alone will scare women away?

Why? Since you want to be a financial sub, is your age printed on you $ bills? I'm pretty sure there will be enough women there who take it, though being called an "older woman" possibly won't endear them to you, hey, she could fine you for that and you'd even have more of a kink...

Gosh, I must remember to get a wish list (just kidding)

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 5:20:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

Do that and you'll stand out. It'll take you longer than copy/pasting a single line about how beautiful she is, but it's worth the effort.

Me, I compliment them on their furniture and decor in the background. That works especially well if they're showing their tits in their pictures. No worries.

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 5:37:38 AM

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quote:

HannahLynHeather

Just a quick question. has anybody ever heard of female money slave? i haven't

Wouldn't a Pimp and his hookers fall into this general category?

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 6:09:25 AM

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Me personally I wouldve thought it was ploy to get pictures sent to you. I have quite a few pix and links with more of the same so when I get requests such as yours I delete them

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 6:30:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Here's a novel idea. Read her profile and comment on something she has written there that speaks to her as a person?

"You appear to be a money-grabbing con-artist ... fancy a fuck?" ... that sort of thing? ;)

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 9:12:33 AM

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I may have been using a bit of a myopic view on that one. If anybody could even think that from reading My profile, I'd be genuinely surprised.

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 9:28:20 AM

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Alright i think i gave the wrong impression when saying I'm a financial sub.. I'm mainly just want to be a slave, and if i develop a strong relationship with a domme then I would be mostly a slave with a tinny financial sub side. I'm 18 and about to go to college, I would probably be the worst financial sub on the planet the most money i usually have at a time is like 10 bucks.

ex: here is a good example of the type of financial sub i want to be: If i had a local domme, i would serve her has a chauffeur, drive her all around town where ever she needed to go.. and while she was out shopping, i would pick her up treats, and get her gifts. Gas alone driving around town for a while costs like 10-15 bucks, and all the treats i would buy her would add up too.
That's the type of financial sub i want to be, not one of those guys that buy random domme's from all around the world gifts from amazon because they have a pretty picture.

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RE: Was i out of line? - 6/16/2011 9:42:35 AM

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Two things (even though I'm repeating Myself from another thread two days ago).

Yes, for some people, your age will be a factor. It works in the kink world just like it does everywhere else. A number of women in their forties aren't going to be interested in a dynamic with someone young enough to be their son.

The other is, please get your terms right. If you express that you are interested in being a financial sub, what you are describing above isn't what a lot of people take that to mean. A financial sub is generally someone who gives their money to the Dominant because it is a kink. On a written forum, you need to be clear about what you are expressing to other people.

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