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Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:23:37 AM

GypsyCowgirl1

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I apologize in advance if this is a stupid question or if it's already been asked and answered many times. I'm new here. My profile is "GypsyCowgirl" but for some reason the message board refused to accept my profile name and password, and I was forced to create a new name and password to get in here.

Anyway, Doms keep telling me they must see me on cam to "prove I'm real". But since I'm only looking for local Doms, and since I've invited them to come visit me in person, why should they worry whether I'm "real"?

I'm a half-hour drive from them, and what do they have to lose besides an hour of time and a bit of gas to come see me face to face? Are they afraid that I'm really Jack the Ripper posing as a female sub and will murder them on their arrival at an agreed-upon Tim Hortons? This really doesn't make any sense to me. If they arrive to find they don't like my looks or I'm different from my description, they can simply leave. I did send them several recent photos showing both face and body so they know what I look like already.

I can understand it if a relationship is long-distance so that a lot of time and money would have to be invested in meeting face to face. If that was the case, you'd want to make sure the other person was who they said they were. But I'm talking to strictly local Doms who won't have to invest anything by meeting me. So what's the deal with having to prove myself on cam?

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:24:46 AM

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It's because they want to see your tits. It's that simple.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:25:35 AM

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It's because they want to see your tits. It's that simple.

This

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:28:14 AM

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And then once they get the tit shot, the more adventurous of those will ask you to show pussy so that you can "prove" you're female.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:29:58 AM

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Even when you show them a smoking pussy they just laugh at me!!!
mind you Ive had some wonderful comments since I added pics to my profile

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:30:31 AM

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Welcome to Collarme, GypsyCowgirl.
Your newness here is almost a red neon sign to many on the other side,
and you will garner the attention of many opportunists.
They are merely hoping that your newness is equal to ignorance,
and that they will get a free peep show, regardless of compatability.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:32:47 AM

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Some people on various sites like to pose as they were years ago and not be completley forthcoming in the fact that they are perhaps heavier and you don't find out till the meeting takes place. I speak from experience when I say this.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:32:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

Even when you show them a smoking pussy they just laugh at me!!!
mind you Ive had some wonderful comments since I added pics to my profile

I like your camel toe pic.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:36:09 AM

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Thankyou ya big handsome Cock you
Ps welcome to the boards GypsyCowgirl. Personally I have never verified I am female to anyone within a few weeks.. but I have to admit, Im not looking for anyone so that has a lot to do with it.
Have fun and enjoy your time here

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:37:27 AM

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some folk find it easier to wank to a picture rather than words

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:44:47 AM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBIGwtyqBhA&feature=related

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:44:50 AM

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Are you all saying that these Doms never had any intention of meeting a real sub? They only want to look at her on cam? Not to actually hold her and play with her and touch her in real life?

I'd never considered that some Doms don't really want actual physical interaction. It seems counter-intuitive somehow.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:47:17 AM

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There's no tooth fairy, either, I'm sorry to say.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:48:40 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jw357

Some people on various sites like to pose as they were years ago and not be completley forthcoming in the fact that they are perhaps heavier and you don't find out till the meeting takes place. I speak from experience when I say this.

I had a lot of Dom men do this to me when I was looking. ie:

"I go to the gym 4 times a week" Yes, you do. You sit at the juice bar and watch the girls work out.

"I have brown hair" You have two hairs left and yes, they're brown.

"I'm 42" Dude, 52 if you're day....and the face lift isn't that good. I can see the lump of skin and the scar...

But, yet, you don't see a lot of sub women demanding webcam to prove what Doms look like.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:48:54 AM

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seriously Gypsy, there are 'doms' out there who aren't doms, aren't male, aren't anything like their personal descriptions, aren't available and just want to wank.

ETA - but the tooth fairy IS real!

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:52:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GypsyCowgirl1

Are you all saying that these Doms never had any intention of meeting a real sub? They only want to look at her on cam? Not to actually hold her and play with her and touch her in real life?

I'd never considered that some Doms don't really want actual physical interaction. It seems counter-intuitive somehow.

You're assuming that they're Doms. A lot of the guys that hit up newbies do so because they're an easy target, not because they're looking for D/s. You'll also get guys that want to meet you in real life because they think you're an easy score. Be aware that these guys often use the "You're not a real submissive" to blackmail you into doing what they want.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:52:49 AM

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OK! Thank you for the free education!

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:54:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

It's because they want to see your tits. It's that simple.

Yep happens every time. I finally let some Domme see my Webcam and they wanna see my tits.

< Message edited by Back2theFuture -- 6/19/2011 10:55:36 AM >

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 10:55:14 AM

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Happy to help!

More advice would be to hang around the message boards, read what is being said and learn a bit more about WIITWD.

But in essence, treat a D/s relationship in the 'getting to know you' stages just like any other. Don't be pressured into sex, playing or any of that other stuff until you're sure the guy is who he says he is, and you have got to know each other.

Other than that - have fun!

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 11:08:34 AM

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There are SO many fakes on collarme that I won't even both emailing more than a time or two with someone I haven't talked to on the phone.

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