Aneirin
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From: Tamaris
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For some, well one I knew, it is a perceived belief in security for life, but as lazarus1983 said at worst it can be a contract that traps two unhappy people together, I am inclined to believe this statement in my case to be true, but then I also am jaded and that due to being experienced in unhappy marriage and that reinforced by the parental marriage I watched over many years dissolve, so perhaps I was jaded from the start.
But what does the concept of marriage attempt to do, what was it's initial premise, was it a property thing, bound by law therefore no one else can touch or was it to bind a person from the naturality of themselves and what that may do to others? Sure, I can see some sense in it and that due to my latter question, as a wandering dog can upset the peace and security of many others who are otherwise content, but have we got the true nature of ourselves right ?
Were we ever meant to grow to wander until such a time we marry and then stop our wandering, or were we like ships in the night meant to be attracted to one another to learn something we needed to know, that taken aboard we drift onto another, I wonder what the concept of marriage actually does to the gene pool.
But where does the concept of marriage and all it entails come from, what notion inspired it's creation and in that were we trying to change our true nature?
I suppose before that question can be answered, one has to know what is our true nature, but if history has anything to show many who are married can reveal the wandering dog is content for a while but eventually continues with the hunt, in which case does marriage actually do more harm than good, were we ever meant to sit back and give up and ignore the true nature of ourselves, is marriage a test we must undergo, if so, to what end, if it concludes in regret and ill feelings of times passed which may or may not have been.
Then there is the infinite band of gold a circle of the sun and the sincerest of monetary noble metals, could that band, that circle be a containing restraint, a shackle to bind that third finger, I wonder what of the ancients that third finger meant, what is it we in our present day are oblivious to in binding that third finger, what have we lost about the concept of marriage in it's original form.
But gold, that metal that mankind have lusted after throughout our history, I wonder what and why the most expensive metal should be bought to bind, perhaps it contained enough wealth to buy a divorce later or even a funeral and some funds to live on in cases of a bread winner's death. And of death something in the past which came sooner by warfare or other threats of the time, but if that is the case, then with warfare and natural early death so prevelent, perhaps marriage naturally was only ever intended to last a short time, so not inhibiting the natural desire to wander for so long as we have it today?
But myself as a person very interested in symbology, I myself wonder at the symbology we these days so blindly use unaware of it's original intent, given symbology was of much importance to our ancient past.
But of marriage, I know plenty who are content, they say it works for them and who am I to challenge, but each to their own I say, but it is of interest that another person I knew had a marriage that lasted way longer than their friends and that because they did not inhibit each others desire to shag another outside of marriage vows and that because they know the nature of themselves, their marriage holds strong still. Perhaps an open marriage is with similarity to the concubine idea, the mistress outside of marriage that many wives accept, not as an ideal, but a way to keep their man to ensure their security..
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Everything we are is the result of what we have thought, the mind is everything, what we think, we become - Guatama Buddha
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RE: Marriage - just a piece of paper or something more? - 
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