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HardtotheKore -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (7/28/2011 9:03:06 PM)
Uhm Elvis just left the building, maybe you may want to hitch a ride.

SuzeCheri -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (7/28/2011 9:26:41 PM)
I recommend sleeping with somebody else, that usually makes the point pretty clearly. Suze, it's really amazing how no matter what the problem, you can turn it into an excuse to sleep with somebody.

Buzzzz -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (7/29/2011 8:03:24 AM)
Or you can always do something like http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ul_d_TfxjTU

Beast189 -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (7/29/2011 10:06:36 AM)
Rember one thing you have to be true to you before you can be true to another. 2nd we are all Adults, you should be able to say I dont' think you are what I'm looking for with out fear or any other neg reaction. Just a quick rant.

MasterBSadistic -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/6/2011 6:48:50 AM)
Just be Honest and respectful. MasterB

andromeda06 -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/11/2011 5:59:37 AM)
What a great thread. Interesting replies here. I didn't realize it should be any different than it's always been. Unless you've never dated, you've got a style for telling someone "no thanks" that works for you. I'd go with that. I usually offer a small compliment because everyone has something good about them and rejection is never fun. Then I tell them I hope they find what they're looking for and then say, "unfortunately for both us, it isn't me." It's polite, kind and direct. Works for me.

OsideGirl -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/11/2011 7:52:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: Willingsub74 what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? Poop in their car... [8D] Yeah, but that would involve meeting them in person, stealing their car keys and I wouldn't want him to think I'm fondling his junk with my hand in his pocket...plus the poop thing only works certain times of the day.....

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/11/2011 6:13:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: Willingsub74 what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? Poop in their car... [8D] Yeah, but that would involve meeting them in person, stealing their car keys and I wouldn't want him to think I'm fondling his junk with my hand in his pocket...plus the poop thing only works certain times of the day..... You're not seeing the upside... you get a free dinner and movie out of the deal -- and by the end of the date, if you're not interested, then you're fully stocked-up on poop. [;)][8D] lol

OsideGirl -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/11/2011 6:47:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: Willingsub74 what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? Poop in their car... [8D] Yeah, but that would involve meeting them in person, stealing their car keys and I wouldn't want him to think I'm fondling his junk with my hand in his pocket...plus the poop thing only works certain times of the day..... You're not seeing the upside... you get a free dinner and movie out of the deal -- and by the end of the date, if you're not interested, then you're fully stocked-up on poop. [;)][8D] lol Nah, I never did dinner and movie with someone on the first meeting. Some people think that if they've bought you dinner, they've bought you......

seekingreality -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/11/2011 7:25:20 PM)
You want to be firm, straightforward, non-judgemental -- but you are telling them a decision, not starting a discussion. So: "I have enjoyed talking with you, but I've decided we're not compatible. Best of luck to you." Don't belabor it with long explanations. Don't apologize. Don't lay blame on them or yourself. Just tell them your decision and move on. A lot of people will respond with anger or talk to get you to change your mind. It's best to simply not respond.

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/11/2011 7:41:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: Willingsub74 what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? Poop in their car... [8D] Yeah, but that would involve meeting them in person, stealing their car keys and I wouldn't want him to think I'm fondling his junk with my hand in his pocket...plus the poop thing only works certain times of the day..... You're not seeing the upside... you get a free dinner and movie out of the deal -- and by the end of the date, if you're not interested, then you're fully stocked-up on poop. [;)][8D] lol Nah, I never did dinner and movie with someone on the first meeting. Some people think that if they've bought you dinner, they've bought you...... And those people get poop in both the front and the back seat -- and possibly on their front door step too!!! [8D][:D] lol

OsideGirl -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/11/2011 7:51:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: Willingsub74 what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? Poop in their car... [8D] Yeah, but that would involve meeting them in person, stealing their car keys and I wouldn't want him to think I'm fondling his junk with my hand in his pocket...plus the poop thing only works certain times of the day..... You're not seeing the upside... you get a free dinner and movie out of the deal -- and by the end of the date, if you're not interested, then you're fully stocked-up on poop. [;)][8D] lol Nah, I never did dinner and movie with someone on the first meeting. Some people think that if they've bought you dinner, they've bought you...... And those people get poop in both the front and the back seat -- and possibly on their front door step too!!! [8D][:D] lol In a paper bag and lit on fire?

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/12/2011 12:44:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA quote: ORIGINAL: Willingsub74 what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? Poop in their car... [8D] Yeah, but that would involve meeting them in person, stealing their car keys and I wouldn't want him to think I'm fondling his junk with my hand in his pocket...plus the poop thing only works certain times of the day..... You're not seeing the upside... you get a free dinner and movie out of the deal -- and by the end of the date, if you're not interested, then you're fully stocked-up on poop. [;)][8D] lol Nah, I never did dinner and movie with someone on the first meeting. Some people think that if they've bought you dinner, they've bought you...... And those people get poop in both the front and the back seat -- and possibly on their front door step too!!! [8D][:D] lol In a paper bag and lit on fire? Nah... that's for pussies... drop and squat girls -- then use his cat for toilet paper!!! [8D][:D]

domiguy -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/12/2011 5:32:24 AM)
You're too fat, beat it.

Kana -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (8/12/2011 6:08:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam Just come out and freakin SAY it. If the incompatibility is there, the Dom MIGHT just be figuring out how to let you down easily. It happens, trust Me. This. OMG you have no idea how much men hate it when women beat around the bush, get all tap dancy, make us guess WTF they are thinking and try to interpret/read the tea leaves of their actions/words/thoughts. Fuck. Just sack up and tell us. We're big boys (Though we don't always act like it). Then there's no room for error, miscommunication, or misinterpretation. Out with it wench.

seasnail -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (9/2/2011 6:14:56 AM)
I have found that "lose my number" works very well

Endivius -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (9/2/2011 6:54:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SuzeCheri Suze, it's really amazing how no matter what the problem, you can turn it into an excuse to sleep with somebody. Wait wait wait wait. You're saying there are other options??? OP: Send them a link to lilly allen's : Fuck You. If that doesn't work, tell them you 're allergic to back fat.

MHAP -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (9/3/2011 10:19:52 AM)
how about ,, "Sorry, but this isn't working for me. By."

Endivius -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (9/3/2011 2:28:10 PM)
My lawyer says I should take the deal. It's only 20 years, I know we can make this work.

LiveByYourNature -> RE: what's the best way to let a Dom know you don't think they are for you? (9/4/2011 3:23:14 AM)
quote: So after talking to someone and realizing that they just aren't going to do it for you, what's the best way to handle that? Quickly, politely, succinctly. Though, I must tell you, I've gotten that " It isn't you, it's that you can't control me" line from many a sub/slave wannabe and I can tell you, from experience - many, many years of experience - if you can't find someone who can control you, it's probably you. Especially if you always make that judgment call BEFORE meeting them face to face. You might just have unrealistic expectations. Most people do!

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