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RE: Can you see yourself in a vanilla relationship? - 6/28/2011 9:41:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I can see myself in a passionate relationship. How that passion manifests is where some of the fun is for me...

Ditto.

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RE: Can you see yourself in a vanilla relationship? - 6/28/2011 11:12:45 AM

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Well yes. Let's say I had to choose between the following:
True dominant relationship wise, but unemployed, married multiple times, and his own children hate him

Vs.

Vanilla guy,responsible job, pays his bills, cordial relationship with his ex wife and loving relationship with his children.

I'll take vanilla, please.

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RE: Can you see yourself in a vanilla relationship? - 6/28/2011 1:32:07 PM

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I consider myself to be a BDSM/vanilla switch. By that, I mean that I go back and forth between the two. I happen to be in a "vanilla" relationship right now.

*hears hearts breaking all over the threads... a terrible splintery sound*

A lot of vanilla people are pretty ... adventurous... so I'm not sure I even understand the question totally. D/s? Probably not for me. But definitions being what they are round these parts, who know?

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RE: Can you see yourself in a vanilla relationship? - 6/29/2011 6:55:25 AM

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I would rather stay single than ever try vanilla again. It is unfullfilling, frustrating, confusing and utterly unrewarding for me. Looking back on previous relationships it's now easy for me to see how a D/s dynamic would have helped immensely. It wouldn't have "saved" those relationships but it was what I needed and I didn't even know enough to ask for. I am secure, content, complete as my Master's wife, pet, slave and in the event that we are not together any longer, to be thrown back into "acting normal" for someone would kill something beautiful in me and I don't think I would make a very good girlfriend, wife or anything else in that case.

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RE: Can you see yourself in a vanilla relationship? - 6/29/2011 10:57:23 AM

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Depends where you draw the line between vanilla and the kink.

I'm not looking for a master/slave dynamic or major amounts of protocol in my relationship; my personal preference is to have a girlfriend as an equal partner, with kink in the bedroom or a fet club.

I could happily have a "vanilla" relationship, but I couldn't have an unadventurous one.

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RE: Can you see yourself in a vanilla relationship? - 6/29/2011 12:38:50 PM

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Absolutely I could. I'm not as interested in kinky bdsm stuff or in M/s as I am in the bloke I'm with.

We just wouldn't call it *......bdsm or M/s :)

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