Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? Page: <<   < prev  3 4 [5] 6 7   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 2:56:46 AM   
LadyConstanze


Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady



While you are right that how it makes all the employees feel has some merit, the OP has already stated that his co-workers were amused as well.

Now of course, some holier than thou who has never worked in a garage or many other labor intensive, non-corporate business is going to come on and say that those co-workers are probably also "afraid" of the OP, given his status as "trainer."  Get a grip! 

I don't necessarily agree with what the OP did and stated before, I would not have tolerated his comments from the beginning.  But this is a group of blue collar guys all goofing around at work.  It isn't something to string him up for on here as many are doing.  This doesn't include those who are simply stating they find his behavior unpalatable, but the ones who need to call him an insensitive dick and a bully.  Chances are any of them bringing a court action would be summarily dismissed on the merits of their case.

Speaking of which.....everyone talking about how this employee (or others) could bring a lawsuit for harassment or hostile work environment against the employer, you are dead wrong.  The employee has an obligation to report unacceptable behavior to the proper person in the company (boss, HR department, whoever) and give them an opportunity to correct the problem.  If that step is missed, you aren't going to get diddly squat in a lawsuit against the employer because you didn't make them aware of a problem, therefore there is no case.


You know, as a student I have worked in so called blue collar jobs, one of my holiday jobs was actually working in the office of a private refuse collection service, you wanna bet that the guys driving the trucks were quite rough, but such behaviour would not have been tolerated.

There's also an obligation to help somebody who's new to fit into the team, and it doesn't matter where you work and what you do, somebody who picks on the newbie, smacks him and all that, classical signs of a bully, as for the others finding it funny, wouldn't they be the next target for the "jokes" and possibly have been, so from where I read it, they possibly had to laugh and were relieved that the OP found another person to play his "jokes" on and it gets them out of the line of fire.

Imagine a family member tells you this as the victim, "The guy tells me that I can call him Sir, don't need to call him Master, he makes me buy him a coffee every morning, one morning I forgot and he smacked me..." How would you feel about it? I'd be livid, but maybe I'm a bit strange...


_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to LafayetteLady)
Profile   Post #: 81
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 4:42:06 AM   
Rochsub2009


Posts: 2536
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

Speaking of which.....everyone talking about how this employee (or others) could bring a lawsuit for harassment or hostile work environment against the employer, you are dead wrong.  The employee has an obligation to report unacceptable behavior to the proper person in the company (boss, HR department, whoever) and give them an opportunity to correct the problem.  If that step is missed, you aren't going to get diddly squat in a lawsuit against the employer because you didn't make them aware of a problem, therefore there is no case.


That's not true at all.  In a case like this, the employee would likely quit rather than report it.  He could then file a lawsuit.  And he would probably win.

His argument would be that he didn't feel that he had any recourse, since the person hazing him was also his boss (in many blue collar environments, there is no formal HR Department to go to).  He'd say that his peers were all enjoying it, so he didn't feel like he could complain without alienating all of his co-workers. (In cases like this, it is common for the victim to feel that they can't tell anyone without becoming an outcast).

His co-workers (and former employees of the company) would be called in to testify about how long this type of thing has been going on.  It would inevitably come out that this type of thing has "always happened".  And the employer would lose.

Moreover, the employee who brought suit wouldn't be satisfied simply by having the person who hazed him fired.  Nor would he likely be satisfied to merely get his job back.  Nope, he'd inevitably want to sue for money (from the company, not the fired employee). 

It may not be like this in other parts of the world, but the United States is the most litigious country on the planet.  Everybody wants to sue.  And they never seem to want justice.  They simply want money.  I guess that's the American way. 

(in reply to LafayetteLady)
Profile   Post #: 82
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 7:45:19 AM   
LafayetteLady


Posts: 7683
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Northern New Jersey
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

Speaking of which.....everyone talking about how this employee (or others) could bring a lawsuit for harassment or hostile work environment against the employer, you are dead wrong.  The employee has an obligation to report unacceptable behavior to the proper person in the company (boss, HR department, whoever) and give them an opportunity to correct the problem.  If that step is missed, you aren't going to get diddly squat in a lawsuit against the employer because you didn't make them aware of a problem, therefore there is no case.


That's not true at all.  In a case like this, the employee would likely quit rather than report it.  He could then file a lawsuit.  And he would probably win.

His argument would be that he didn't feel that he had any recourse, since the person hazing him was also his boss (in many blue collar environments, there is no formal HR Department to go to).  He'd say that his peers were all enjoying it, so he didn't feel like he could complain without alienating all of his co-workers. (In cases like this, it is common for the victim to feel that they can't tell anyone without becoming an outcast).

His co-workers (and former employees of the company) would be called in to testify about how long this type of thing has been going on.  It would inevitably come out that this type of thing has "always happened".  And the employer would lose.

Moreover, the employee who brought suit wouldn't be satisfied simply by having the person who hazed him fired.  Nor would he likely be satisfied to merely get his job back.  Nope, he'd inevitably want to sue for money (from the company, not the fired employee). 

It may not be like this in other parts of the world, but the United States is the most litigious country on the planet.  Everybody wants to sue.  And they never seem to want justice.  They simply want money.  I guess that's the American way. 



You're right, the US is a highly litigious place, however, that doesn't mean that every suit that gets filed makes it to a court room.  Many civil suits (which this would be) are going to get dismissed on the merits of the case. 

I understand that you apparently are a business owner and as such, are reasonably concerned about such things happening. But I bet you couldn't site one case where something like this happened, the employee quit without a word to their boss as to why and then brought suit and got it to court and actually won.

Feeling like you can't tell anyone is not going to fly as a defense.  I may not own my own business, but I worked in the legal field for twenty years, so I know what happens in lawsuits. 

Again, I never said that the OP's behavior was correct, but that doesn't mean that his "victim" has a valid lawsuit.  As litigious as the US is, even with the ability for anyone to file a civil suit against anyone, it still doesn't mean that they have a case that would win.

Further, the whole concept of filing suit with money being the desired outcome doesn't fly either.  In an employment suit, a plaintiff can't simply say, "I want to money for what they did to me."  Even though you can not want your job back, it doesn't leave you with big damages to seek as an award.  Civil cases have a different level of proof than criminal cases.  Of course, everyone is going to say how the proof necessary in a civil case is preponderance of the evidence, which is a lower standard, therefore making it easier to win.  However, that isn't the case.  In an employment suit, the plaintiff's first damages are lost wages.  Lost wages only last until the plaintiff finds other employment.  Since these types of suits are lengthy and tend to last a couple of years, the plaintiff will have to find other employment.  If they take a lesser paying job, they will have to prove that they couldn't fiind employment at the previous rate, not just go from making $20 an hour to minimum wage without that justification.  That is referred to as "actual damages." 

The other damages (what you are talking about) are "punitive damages," what the general public refers to as pain and suffering.  The plaintiff needs to show how they suffered from what happened.  How do they do that?  Well, let me assure you, simply saying, "it maded me feel 'x'," isn't going to cut it in a court room.  That's where going to your employer is going to be important.  A judge isn't going to give someone money just because the plaintif/victim says they didn't feel comfortable going to their employer about the situation.  And while it is possible for it to be a jury trial, the reality is that while you might be entitled to a jury, it is a higher risk for the plaintiff.  Juries don't know the law, and when the jury instructions are given, they are very limited to provide for this lack of knowledge, so a lot of civil cases will simply go straight to a judge who knows the law.  Without proof of pain and suffering, i.e. reports from therapists, you didn't meet the burden of proof.

We live in such a litigious society becase people think they can sue about anything.  Well, they can.  But that doesn't mean that there is a lawyer who is going to take your case (they have to be able to make money from it), and it doesn't mean that after all is said and done the plaintiff will win his case.  In the US if you lose, you still have your legal costs to pay.  So in a situation like this, the potential for a big money award doesn't exist making filing a lawsuit a most costly avenue and sadly, in most cases, is going to take more time and money than the "victim" is going to get.  This isn't a clear cut case where behavior continued for a long period of time. 

So you can own all the business you want, but unless one of them is a law firm, you are mistaken as to what is likely to be the outcome.

(in reply to Rochsub2009)
Profile   Post #: 83
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 8:17:18 AM   
LadyConstanze


Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline
Things are a bit different on our side of the pond, you have to follow procedures, but if the person can show without reasonable doubt that a complain would have caused more harassment it's different, also if the smacked guy has a diary where he noted each incident, that would be considered proof, now if he goes to his doctor and gets a sick note for anxiety the action has caused him, the guy will have a very good case, if he's clever, the smack on the head also causes him quite a headache which he can't shake anymore....

Now he might not get a lot of money for it, but depending where you are, a court reporter might get wind of the case and this is ideal front page material for a slow news day, consider the damage the business will have. If it's garage, it will be "Joe, we don't bring our car there anymore, haven't you heard, they abuse the staff and hit them..." That would actually be the main concern for any business, not the money the guy might or might not get.

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to LafayetteLady)
Profile   Post #: 84
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 8:28:02 AM   
RakeAndCo


Posts: 63
Joined: 6/1/2011
Status: offline
Instead of reading the responses to the OP one could click on the names of the posters and by reading their profiles predict with high degree of certainty what kind of response the poster would give. . 

(in reply to LadyConstanze)
Profile   Post #: 85
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 8:48:17 AM   
RapierFugue


Posts: 4740
Joined: 3/16/2006
From: London, England
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

So you can own all the business you want, but unless one of them is a law firm, you are mistaken as to what is likely to be the outcome.



What you’ve said doesn't tally with what I've observed from working with american companies, over the years. And (I’ve just totalled) almost a third of my working life has been spent working with american owned or based companies.

There are enough ambulance-chasers and arm-chancers more than happy to bring actions at a drop of a hat, and while US employment law often doesn't protect the individual to quite the same extent that UK and EU law does (even allowing for specific areas like Atlanta and the like, which tone down their employee laws to attract companies), the results can be just as damaging - I worked for a large global legal firm some years ago and one of the amazing stats they came out with was that more established (i.e. mature, not start-up) US-based SMEs go out of business due to legal action, from customers or employees (and they specifically cited employees) than from theft or other criminal activity. The second most common cause was employee fraud, which amazed me at the time, as I blithely assumed customer criminality would top the lists.

Once you get out of the SME bracket into playing with the big boys it's taken even more seriously; the induction course a friend recently went through with a big US corporate was 6 days long, and spent a 2 and half days on "workplace behaviours" (the loose category for the sort of crap the OP outlined). Basically, US companies are more up to speed on the direct costs of poor management (being sued, legal contest fees, etc.), as well as the indirect ones (massive impact on reputation, difficulty in hiring qualified staff*) than are their UK counterparts. That's for a good reason - corporates don't invest millions in programmes unless there's a very good, money-driven, reason for it. Which makes me doubt your assertion that US companies don’t fear being sued by their employees even more – if the risk wasn’t there, and imminent, then the big boys wouldn’t gear up for it. They're not into wasting their own time, and more especially, money.

*these are the real killers; the not inconsiderable cost of defending one or more lawsuits is buttons compared to the loss of reputation a company can suffer, and hiring quality trades (blue or white collar) can also become a nightmare on a local level if rumours persist. A very well known corporate started life in one US state and actually had to move base locations in order to escape their reputation, so badly starved of quality staff did they become, and that's not a rarity either. I can also think of an industry-leading software company in the UK that had little choice but to up sticks too, after a period where their then management layer absolutely pissed on everyone. Reputation is something that takes an age to build, but a comparatively short time to destroy.

(in reply to LafayetteLady)
Profile   Post #: 86
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 8:50:19 AM   
RapierFugue


Posts: 4740
Joined: 3/16/2006
From: London, England
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: RakeAndCo

Instead of reading the responses to the OP one could click on the names of the posters and by reading their profiles predict with high degree of certainty what kind of response the poster would give. . 


I'm not sure whether to feel insulted or complimented.

Or possibly both :)

(in reply to RakeAndCo)
Profile   Post #: 87
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 8:52:05 AM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline
quote:

I assume you are making the distinction of "sexual harassment" in the scenario where the behavior was against you, a female.  Because in no way, shape or form, does the OP's behavior meet the criteria for "sexual" harassment.  In a different business, hostile work environment or plain harassment, yes.  Sexual harassment would be a long shot even for a female.


Are you saying that men cannot sexually harass each other?

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to LafayetteLady)
Profile   Post #: 88
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:03:10 AM   
LadyConstanze


Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

I assume you are making the distinction of "sexual harassment" in the scenario where the behavior was against you, a female.  Because in no way, shape or form, does the OP's behavior meet the criteria for "sexual" harassment.  In a different business, hostile work environment or plain harassment, yes.  Sexual harassment would be a long shot even for a female.


Are you saying that men cannot sexually harass each other?


Sure they can, just in this case it was more bullying and harassment without sexual connotations, if he'd have said "Sexy, you have to..." different thing. I can't see the sexual part in the scenario, doesn't make it OK but you would have enough of a case without anything sexual, why drag something in that won't grip?

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 89
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:03:28 AM   
RapierFugue


Posts: 4740
Joined: 3/16/2006
From: London, England
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Are you saying that men cannot sexually harass each other?


There's an even worse male-on-male form, where the aggressor dresses up in white clothes, puts bells on their wrists and ankles, and proceeds to dance gaily around the victim ...

Sexual Morrisment! ...

... <shudder> ... I wouldn’t want to go through that again for any money ... even now, years later, the sound of bells jingling ... anyway, let's just not go there.

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 90
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:06:49 AM   
Kaliko


Posts: 3381
Joined: 9/25/2010
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: RapierFugue


quote:

ORIGINAL: RakeAndCo

Instead of reading the responses to the OP one could click on the names of the posters and by reading their profiles predict with high degree of certainty what kind of response the poster would give. . 


I'm not sure whether to feel insulted or complimented.

Or possibly both :)


I'm not even sure what the statement even means. How could you tell that from profiles?

(in reply to RapierFugue)
Profile   Post #: 91
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:12:03 AM   
RapierFugue


Posts: 4740
Joined: 3/16/2006
From: London, England
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kaliko

I'm not even sure what the statement even means. How could you tell that from profiles?


I suspect it's along the lines of either a) "anyone who can string more than 2 sentences together in a coherent fashion isn't a rufty-tufty blue-collar worker type, and thus can't deal with the concept of bullying as being a good thing that makes chaps bond!" or b) "the ones not joining in the bully back-patting have profiles which suggest they don't type by bashing their heads against the keyboard, and there may be a correlation between the two events".

Or I'm off-beam completely. As with "Both", above, the statement "RF's got the wrong end of the stick" is always a possibility on CM :)

(in reply to Kaliko)
Profile   Post #: 92
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:23:39 AM   
Icarys


Posts: 5757
Status: offline
quote:

I assume you are making the distinction of "sexual harassment" in the scenario where the behavior was against you, a female. Because in no way, shape or form, does the OP's behavior meet the criteria for "sexual" harassment. In a different business, hostile work environment or plain harassment, yes. Sexual harassment would be a long shot even for a female.

Not for that female. I've pointed out before she was the type that would yell rape or the like, unwarranted.


_____________________________

submission - the feeling of patient, submissive humbleness - the state of being submissive or compliant; meekness.

Alaska Bound-The Official Countdown Has Started!
http://tinyurl.com/872mcu3
http://alturl.com/mog7m

(in reply to LafayetteLady)
Profile   Post #: 93
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:24:19 AM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline
quote:

Sure they can, just in this case it was more bullying and harassment without sexual connotations, if he'd have said "Sexy, you have to..." different thing. I can't see the sexual part in the scenario, doesn't make it OK but you would have enough of a case without anything sexual, why drag something in that won't grip?


It seems as though the OP had sexual intent....at least in his post here.

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to LadyConstanze)
Profile   Post #: 94
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:34:12 AM   
LadyConstanze


Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

Sure they can, just in this case it was more bullying and harassment without sexual connotations, if he'd have said "Sexy, you have to..." different thing. I can't see the sexual part in the scenario, doesn't make it OK but you would have enough of a case without anything sexual, why drag something in that won't grip?


It seems as though the OP had sexual intent....at least in his post here.


Not really, he just seems like a bit of a dickhead to me, especially the "he let me do it" and "the others found it funny" - makes me wonder what he would do if he had any power....

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 95
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:42:08 AM   
Rochsub2009


Posts: 2536
Status: offline
LafayetteLady,
I agree with you that not every lawsuit that gets filed is going to have merit.  But that doesn't seem to stop people from filing them.

Believe it or not, I've had an employee sue me after crashing one of my company vehicles.  There was no mechanical problem.  The brakes didn't fail.  He simply had an accident with another vehicle.  But he found a lawyer who took the case.  And somehow the lawyer thought that I was responsible for his injuries.  That's what lawyers do.  They find everybody that they can possibly sue.  The other driver got sued.  I (my company) got sued.  I believe that they even tried to sue the manufacturer of the vehicle.  Somewhere in law school, they must teach that the shotgun approach is best; sue everyone who is even tangentially involved.

I once had an employee sue me after falling in the company parking lot.  There was no ice.  No hazard of any type.  But the employee tripped (due to his own clumsiness) and hurt himself.  So he felt that he should get money out of it.

I've never lost a lawsuit, but having to defend against the lawsuits is still an unnecessary distraction (and expense).

I've had employees walk out on the job, and then file for unemployment benefits claiming that I fired them.  And I've almost always lost those cases.  So I had to pay the employee's unemployment benefits, AND my unemployment insurance rates went up.

So I admit that this is a sensitive topic for me.  Employee behavior hits very close to home.

I've stated earlier in the thread that I don't think that what the OP did was a big deal.  It was just boys being boys.  But in the workplace, it takes on a different light.  As an employer, I have learned to be extra cautious.  I have zero tolerance for bad behavior from employees.  Zero!  Bad experiences have taught me that.  Frankly, life would be so much simpler if I could simply hire robots.

But we've taken this thread off on a distant tangent from the original intent.  Guess we should get back on topic.

Do I mess with the vanillas in my life?  No.

< Message edited by Rochsub2009 -- 6/29/2011 9:44:52 AM >

(in reply to LafayetteLady)
Profile   Post #: 96
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:48:11 AM   
HannahLynHeather


Posts: 2950
Joined: 4/4/2011
From: where it's at
Status: offline
must resist evil temptation.

must resist

fuck it who am i trying to kid? we all know i'm going to do it if it's evil!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2_NpHUiIdc&feature=related

_____________________________

clique? i don't need no stinking clique!

fuck a duck ~w. disney

My Twitter: http://twitter.com/HannahFuck

i hope you enjoyed the post, and as always my friends....have a nice day

(in reply to RapierFugue)
Profile   Post #: 97
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:49:24 AM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline
Depending on the way a company's disciplinary action policy is written, you don't have to give an employee an opportunity to "correct" a number of behaviors.  Anything they have outlined as terms for immediate dismissal is covered in these areas and assaulting another employee is generally in that category.  There doesn't have to be an injury and the employee doesn't necessarily have to seek medical care.  (Though, as an employer, if the incident happened on paid time on company property, you have to offer it.  Even if they decline, you'll still have someone, like Me, sitting in an office filling out an incident report form to state that it was offered and the employee turned it down.)

You *might* be able to pull the sexual harassment bit out of it, even between two men, *if* the employee took the "you don't have to call Me Master" bit as a reference to the trainer's interest in BDSM as a sexual practice and the new employee interpreted it as being sexually propositioned.


_____________________________

The crowned Diva of Destruction. ~ ExT

Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 98
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:53:38 AM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline
quote:

You *might* be able to pull the sexual harassment bit out of it, even between two men, *if* the employee took the "you don't have to call Me Master" bit as a reference to the trainer's interest in BDSM as a sexual practice and the new employee interpreted it as being sexually propositioned.


I would take it that way if a woman told me that I did not have to call her "Mistress"... I would find that completely offensive and I would feel it had a sexual overtone.

Other people might see it differently

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 99
RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? - 6/29/2011 9:58:40 AM   
LadyConstanze


Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline
But Mistress has a different social connotation, and you would end up standing in court explaining that you're into BDSM, the guy (or woman) you'd be suing could simply play stupid and say "What? BDSM? Ewww no, I don't do that...." How could you show that she does? I mean we don't go round and give our CM handles out to the vanilla world or advertise our hobbies - in fact I am keeping mine a secret because it's simply nobody's business but mine.

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to juliaoceania)
Profile   Post #: 100
Page:   <<   < prev  3 4 [5] 6 7   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Do you mess with the vanilla's in your life? Page: <<   < prev  3 4 [5] 6 7   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.125