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LadyPact -> RE: 24/7 in different households? (7/10/2011 6:54:15 AM)
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama
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If there is anybody on this board who thinks that I wasn't MP's wife or clip's Mistress during those times that either one of them were deployed, I'll be happy to argue the case with them.
I certainly won't argue those labels but I would question the 24/7 aspect of M/s, especially during deployment when the military's orders are especially ascendant. When someone else is in charge, how can it be 24/7?
So this brings up the question of working outside the home. If the employer has authority over the /s, can s/he be in a 24/7 relationship?
I guess it depends on the couple's definition of 24/7. To further this debate, I googled "24/7 bdsm definition" and here are the first three I found. Regarding the OP, "live-in" is a condition of one.
I would argue that an employer is an "impediment to the exercise of the owner's power"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Master/slave_%28BDSM%29#Total_power_exchange
Total power exchange (TPE) is a derivative of the concept of power exchange in a master/slave relationship. The term refers to a relationship where the dominant or owner has complete authority and influence over the submissive's life, making the majority of decisions. TPE is occasionally referred to as 24/7, denoting that protocol in the D/s relationship is in play anytime, anyplace and the dominant partner gets complete power at all times.
“ A TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship, sometimes described as an absolute lifestyle d&s relationship ... is a relationship in which no impediment to the exercise of the owner's power is accepted ... Such things as safewords, contracts, negotiated limits, and anything else which recognizes / acknowledges / formalizes limits on the owner's power are inimical to TPE. ”
http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/ravennegotiate24-7.htm
For everyone, what constitutes a 24/7 relationships differs, like everything else in BDSM. The definition of a 24/7 relationship is simply a relationship where the people involved live with one another on a daily basis.
http://www.domsub.info/glossary.shtml
24/7 - In terms of a D/s relationship, this acronym stands for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. It identifies a relationship with round-the-clock Dominant and submissive dynamics.
What you've got in the above in the first link is exactly why I don't personally use the descriptor of TPE. Due to our situation, there is a certain amount of power that I don't have, so I don't feel it's accurate to make the claim. It isn't like other dynamics where if the M tells the slave to quit a job or not go in that day, the only thing that happens is the slave is looking for a new job.
I'm probably the odd person out on this one because I see power as what is available to turn over to another human being. Without question, some people have more power that they are able to give than others. Employment is one area that demonstrates this. Family situations are another. Some slaves have other areas of responsibility rather than just to a Master or Mistress that they just can't abdicate. In that sense, it's really not the slave's power to give. Just the same as any competent M knows that there are powers greater than they are that really are higher up on the authority chain.
I tend to see My two relationships pretty much in the same way. I am MP's wife whether he's across the room or across the globe. It honestly doesn't change the core of the relationship. The only thing it changes is physical proximity. We're not just married when we're in the same room. There is no part time definition. It's nice that I have that piece of paper that recognizes that union, but I really only use that when it's needed to deal with outside agencies. The rest is really of My own volition.
It's the same thing in the dynamic. Granted, I have less power when he is actively deployed, but it really isn't absent. The core of the dynamic is still in place. It's still a case of him giving Me the power that he is available to give. The rest is just stuff that he doesn't have control over due to decisions that were made before I came along.
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