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ORIGINAL: Arpig

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Shit like the death penalty or someone calling my dad mentally ill for being a good Christian man.

Or that you don't know how to have fun, or that you shouldn't point out somebody's age to put them down unless its really relevant to your point, or when Dave posts something, or zippers, or..., or....

Come on, drop the holier than thou crap, you're as bad a perpetrator as anybody here.

I get snippy with people all the time, mostly because they are stupid. Like lying about what they said elsewhere on the forums, or asking dumb questions, or just plain being mentally incompetent. Sometimes just because I'm in a shitty mood, or maybe just because I think what I post is funny.

Oh that and people saying that that right-wing bastard Obama is a socialist...puhleeeeze!! [8|] We wouldn't even let him look through the window, let alone come in the door.

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

A thread or two I read here lately have me thinking. So many times, someone posts something, and the reactions that come are "You are searching for wank material", "Why would you post such stuff for us to see?", "We are not in your dynamic", "Use the search feature", etc so on and so forth.

So, is it the subject that gets folks riled, or is it the fact they do not know, or do not like, the person doing the posting?

My opinion on eople who ask questions that have been asked numerous times all ready is this: they are looking for something beyond an answer in a box; they want the human contact that accompanies the response and the search function doesn't really fill that void.
It isn't the words that tell them that they aren't so strange or alone in their wonderings, but an actual response from another person.
Sometimes people want contact.

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ORIGINAL: DavidLee44UK

agree wolf but to put that opinion out there and to use thaas a basis for how others react to you is wrong

i have some words id like to say about some here

but don't

its a public forum everyone should be able to use it without abuse

i use twitter a lot its 140 characters even smaller if you want it retweeted strange im understood perfectly there

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub
Do you think that part of it may be, for lack of a better word, the "level" of BDSM that different posters are?

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I mean I get that some folks are just assholes, and yes some come looking for a fight. Some are, IMHO, handicapped in different ways, either socially or physically or mentally, so that they do not even get it why they are getting the reactions that they get. Hell, a few on here probably feel that I am in that category. The ones I perceive as having some type of "handicap", I feel sorry for, and just pray they will get ignored and go away honestly.

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But back to the "levels" of BDSM, I totally get that you were thrilled to meet someone who had a journey kind of like your own, and I can imagine that yall had some greats stories and thoughts to exchange, just as you do on here. I enjoy reading a lot of your posts, not because of your experiences in leather, but because I think you are a smart chickie.

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For me, I have no desires to be involved in a community. I want a relationship with a man, one who is the kind of man I can hand over much authority to and know my trust is not misplaced. I think that could make my posts seem irrelevant to you (not saying that they do), but I can imagine that you read many of the questions on here, and like you say, think it is folks being lazy.

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I see it as not being lazy, but as being totally at a loss as to how one goes about finding what they seek, when they do not want to scene and play casually. Folks with totally different goals and totally different ideas about what is successful, when doing this thing that we do, even though the thing that we have in common is something we see totally differently.

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If any of that makes sense, you are smarter than I even gave you credit for-lol.

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ORIGINAL: hardcybermaster
I understand where you are coming from and the internet can be a curse as well as a godsend.My partner is a teacher and fights a constant battle against people who just copy and paste answers from the net instead of reading,researching and learning.

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But buying books and attending munches costs money that lots of people don't have so why shouldn't they take the "easy" way out and ask questions here?

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Sure if their attutude is wrong they should be told( I know about that!) but daft question is only that to those in the know,not to a newbie. You don't have to answer it if you don't want to.

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Also as a newbie this sort of thing can be very scary so the ability to ask questions and learn anonymously is brilliant for some.

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Lastly the same question can have wildly different answers depending on who answers and debates it,and on when it is asked,everybodies ideas and knowledge changes as time passes,or at least it should do therefore it has the right to be asked again

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I didn't start this thread saying I never do the things I am asking about

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I don't think I have ever jumped all over any one on these boards

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but feel free to show me where you think I did.

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so why when i made my 1st introduction post was it attacked

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my 3rd post was asked why i couldnt be clearer so i posted i had dyspraxia that was attacked again no one said ANYTHING

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But your ability to wield a pair of scissors has nothing to do with the words you use online.

I will offer my usual suggestion to people who need to learn social skills. Call your mother, tell her what you've been saying to people, ask her if she thinks this is acceptable, and then ask her to give you a refresher course on manners. Because, quite frankly, you stand in desperate need of one.

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i suffer from dyspraxia too, quite severely.  However, although it makes my life quite difficult sometimes, i don't use it as an excuse for anything, and it would NEVER make me be rude to someone, or stop me from treating people i meet with the upmost respect - which, as far as i can see is what you're using your dyspraxia as an excuse for?  i really don't think there's any part of dyspraxia at all that would affect your communication with others, though i admit i don't know everything about it.

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

How can you make the following two statements in the same post:

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I didn't start this thread saying I never do the things I am asking about

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I don't think I have ever jumped all over any one on these boards

and expect anybody to be able to take you seriously?

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but feel free to show me where you think I did.

I did just that in my original post on this thread, but that seems to have slipped under your radar. the reference to fun was not a belief about you, but a reference to the Ka-Boom thread, where you did indeed jump all over the poster and were unnecessarily insulting. The age reference was to your defensiveness and dismissive replies in Heather's now vanished adultism thread. And so on for the other references to other threads where you were less than "saintly" in your replies.

Yes I do find your present thread and your stance within it to be both hypocritical and "holier than thou". Do you know why I find them to be such? Because they are.

To paraphrase Hannah a little: If you don't want to be called a hypocrite, don't post hypocritical shit online.

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ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia

Thanks for starting this thread, JstAnotherSub.  After reading all the previous posts...here is my spewage.

Personally, if there are a lot of people at the munch who behave like a lot of people at CM...I will have no interest in going.  [:'(]

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Yes, it is that time of the month and I might have been more polite about getting my point across otherwise.  I am getting so sick of the snarky newbie bashing...these people are not our subs and did not agree to be hazed.  Not going to debate with anyone over this; my opinions and feelings are just my own. 

I don't mind all the verbal bloodshed in the politics and religion area.  It's... [:D]

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

A thread or two I read here lately have me thinking. So many times, someone posts something, and the reactions that come are "You are searching for wank material", "Why would you post such stuff for us to see?", "We are not in your dynamic", "Use the search feature", etc so on and so forth.

So, is it the subject that gets folks riled, or is it the fact they do not know, or do not like, the person doing the posting?

My opinion on eople who ask questions that have been asked numerous times all ready is this: they are looking for something beyond an answer in a box; they want the human contact that accompanies the response and the search function doesn't really fill that void.
It isn't the words that tell them that they aren't so strange or alone in their wonderings, but an actual response from another person.
Sometimes people want contact.

I agree with that. I remember, when I first came to CM, LA would post links to numerous threads in reply to questions. Thing was, most of the time, the posters in those threads were no longer around and I didn't have a feel for how they posted, so it did no good.

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

....sigh....I was having such a good time, too, ranting about my pet peeve.


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia

Thanks for starting this thread, JstAnotherSub.  After reading all the previous posts...here is my spewage.

Personally, if there are a lot of people at the munch who behave like a lot of people at CM...I will have no interest in going.  [:'(]

Apples and oranges.  This doesn't happen at munches because everybody there had to arrange to be there, shower, dress.......  In other words, they made an effort.