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LadyPact -> RE: That's so dumb... (7/11/2011 4:19:06 AM)
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ORIGINAL: erieangel
I shower and dress every single day--sometimes twice a day because when I look good, I feel good. As for munches, I haven't been to one yet in my area, but a week ago I was on FetLife and the woman who i guess usually organizes the munches here was in a rant. Evidently nobody showed to the latest one. She was very very ticked, going on and on about feeling dumb when only she and two others showed up at the munch. I guess she has a dungeon too, and was ranting about being out hundreds of dollars in organizing play parties to which not enough show up. Anyway, not somebody I think I'd want to associate with. Why organize things if you are going rant and rave about the cost afterward?
Being a person who has done their share of event organizing in the past, I might have some answers on that. Depending on how much effort went into doing this could have a lot to do with it. Putting something together, which more often than not is something that the community asks for, not only takes time, but also involves cold, hard cash. If nobody shows up, that may be an out of pocket expense that goes to the person who set it up. Some groups have a treasury and in others, it really does fall to the individual who is stepping up to provide the community with an activity. There is *always* a possibility that you are going to spend more than you take in. However, when you have a group of folks who are supposed to be attending to defray the costs, then that doesn't happen, I can't blame somebody for being angry.
The last event that I put together was a pretty big undertaking. (It was a slave auction, with part of the evening being gambling for fake money.) I did all of the background planning and prep work Myself. There's way more involved in that that than I could try to explain here. Since this was the first event of this kind for that particular group and I was fronting all of it, I spent more time in certain areas to keep costs as minimal as I could.
Had only three people shown up, rather than the seventy that actually attended, I'd have been really ticked off. That's just plain a lot of time to invest in something and not at least break even.
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Anyway, I was Fet earlier this weekend and I guess she's calmed down because she has scheduled three events--two munches and a play party. Her rules are that you have to attend three munches before you can attend a play party, but all of munches are scheduled during my work hours. So I guess I won't be getting involved in the local scene here.
In fairness, I'm going to tell you that I read one of your comments on another thread about this same subject. I'm not going to drag that information here, but I am aware of the other factor.
A lot of groups do still have a vetting process of some kind. That's what it's called when a group wants to make sure a person is ok to attend a play event. Since a lot of parties are held in people's homes, they don't want just any person off of the street attending. That's for their safety as well as that of other guests.
Sometimes, you can contact the host, explain your situation with your work hours, and ask that you can be vetted in a different way. When I lived in GA and was elected to the group's board there, we had it in our by-laws that a person could be vetted through meeting with two of the board members, even if the person couldn't attend munches. That person's conduct would be the responsibility of the board members who vetted them for the equivalent number of play parties that would equal the number of munches that would be required to vet them the other way. (In the example you give above, that would be three.) After that, they we considered members of the group in good standing in their own right.
Not every group will have that exception to the stated rule, but it might be something that you could ask if you were wanting to attend something in your area when your work schedule does make it possible.
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