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zephyroftheNorth -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 11:02:22 AM)

To change your avatar on the boards you need to go to the top of the page, click My Profile and scroll til you see My Avatar. Click on Upload picture

ETA: before doing all this, why don't you work at finding a better nic and just create a new profile. Wretchedness isn't the best name you can do better.



JanahX -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 11:02:55 AM)

I dont fucking get this shit. Since you are shy, maybe you should form a strong friendship with someone and get to really know them before you start taking off your clothes. That way you'll know more about who your dealing with and whether or not he is going to reject you on your physical apperance.

You are also probably going to have problems with any guy that is asking you to dress like a street hooker in public when you normally dont dress that way. He is so concerned about his dick and where he is going to be blowing it, that he is not concerend about your mental state nor the little kid that is in the booth next to you eating his eggs and bacon and drinking his juice out of a tippy cup, staring at your tits about to fall out of your shirt.

For christ sakes, since you are new to this, dont rush things and become desperate so you get involved with some online wanker dom. Cause when it's over .. and yes dear, with creepoids like this its ALWAYS OVER, you'll end up feeling foolish and it will mess with your self esteem.
Good Luck Chuck.



Wretchedness -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 11:21:41 AM)

Ummm, no kidding. I have not taken off my clothes either so I'm not really sure why you're telling me this. Maybe if you looked at all the posts you would be a little clearer on this matter.

I also did get to know him on line first, as much as one can get to know someone. I talked with him on the phone and on line for about three weeks before meeting him for coffee. And it was just that, coffee. I did not go to his house and i dressed the way i felt comfortable. But thanks anyone.

Btw you seem extremely angry.

As far as changing my name, i like my name a lot. I am a masochist. I'm not into self-harm or abuse. I'm sure there is a fine line between the two. I have no problem listening to other's advice and making the necessary changes on the view of other people that don't come at me totally off the fucking wall. People that call me names and make judgments based on what they think w/o bothering to listen to what i'm trying to express, don't have a lot of pull with me. I mean really would you listen to someone coming at you all bitchy and pissed off?

Bottom line is i am trying to learn and grow and not make foolish decisions based on the fact that i am new and a little too eager.



Wretchedness -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 11:30:06 AM)

The picture has changed; i hope you all feel it is a better change. I'm not sure why it hasn't changed here yet on the message board. Thank you all for taking the time to help me with my questions. I really do value some of the responses.[sm=yourock.gif]



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 11:36:00 AM)

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I'm not sure why it hasn't changed here yet on the message board.


Look up a couple of posts to my last message.




zephyroftheNorth -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 1:28:42 PM)

Look if you don't want to take our advice, that's cool. I personally have better things to do than to watch you responding to those who post nastiness rather than those of us trying to help you. You're a big girl and you are certainly smart enough to recognise good advice. Take it or don't I'm done.

Zeph



JanahX -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 1:28:45 PM)

Btw you seem extremely angry.

Im actually being fucking nice today. Honest.



Wretchedness -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 1:38:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: JanahX

Btw you seem extremely angry.

Im actually being fucking nice today. Honest.

quote:

Btw you seem extremely angry.

Im actually being fucking nice today. Honest.



Wow, how bad ass are you? Anyone can be a shit talker and have an attitude. I know i was like that for many years. Since you were so nice to give your opinion of me i will return the favor. Being angry and mean is a defense mechanism. Hide much? I think you do, being this tough as shit persona.
Maybe it’s just who you are. I hide behind humor for many years. It’s hard to be real and honest and let people see who you really are. The possibility that you will be hurt are very real. I choose to let go of the hostility and sarcastic under tones when I speak to people, so I can find my place in my submission.

Do I care if this makes you upset or not, do I care if it doesn’t apply to you? No! But you’re little rant about how fucking nice you are just made me want to say these things. So I did.



LadyConstanze -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 1:53:49 PM)


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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

Look if you don't want to take our advice, that's cool. I personally have better things to do than to watch you responding to those who post nastiness rather than those of us trying to help you. You're a big girl and you are certainly smart enough to recognise good advice. Take it or don't I'm done.

Zeph



I didn't see her getting nasty, only when she was really attacked.

Seriously, she's not under any obligation to take advise of strangers, to ask for advise is exactly that, it doesn't imply anywhere that you have to follow it. Somebody might say she should wear those slutty close and that would be his or her advise - wouldn't make it valid.



Wretchedness -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 2:52:56 PM)

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I didn't see her getting nasty, only when she was really attacked.

Seriously, she's not under any obligation to take advise of strangers, to ask for advise is exactly that, it doesn't imply anywhere that you have to follow it. Somebody might say she should wear those slutty close and that would be his or her advise - wouldn't make it valid.



I'm seriously going to have to stalk you now. *evil grin* You're my new hero.



LadyPact -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 3:03:18 PM)

Cool costume!

(No, it doesn't add a thing to the discussion, but I happen to like it.)



LadyConstanze -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 3:11:43 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Wretchedness

I'm seriously going to have to stalk you now. *evil grin* You're my new hero.


Don't even joke about that one...

As for heroes, lol, I think you could do better than picking a mouthy broad. I recall living in LA and I got so fed up with people saying "Oh trust me" - usually when they were trying to screw you over, so I just replied with "Would you like me to bend over while I'm busy trusting you?" Most of them didn't think it was funny, but hey, as a foreigner I got away with it.



JanahX -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 7:22:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Wretchedness


quote:

ORIGINAL: JanahX

Btw you seem extremely angry.

Im actually being fucking nice today. Honest.

quote:

Btw you seem extremely angry.


Im actually being fucking nice today. Honest.



Wow, how bad ass are you? Anyone can be a shit talker and have an attitude. I know i was like that for many years. Since you were so nice to give your opinion of me i will return the favor. Being angry and mean is a defense mechanism. Hide much? I think you do, being this tough as shit persona.
Maybe it’s just who you are. I hide behind humor for many years. It’s hard to be real and honest and let people see who you really are. The possibility that you will be hurt are very real. I choose to let go of the hostility and sarcastic under tones when I speak to people, so I can find my place in my submission.

Do I care if this makes you upset or not, do I care if it doesn’t apply to you? No! But you’re little rant about how fucking nice you are just made me want to say these things. So I did.



Hey thats all fine and dandy. But just remember one thing dear.... im not the one who is having problems gettin naked and hooking up with douchebags.



Wretchedness -> RE: True submissive? (7/24/2011 11:46:38 PM)

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Hey thats all fine and dandy. But just remember one thing dear.... im not the one who is having problems gettin naked and hooking up with douchebags.


I didn't hook up with him and i can get naked it just makes me uncomfy. I'm not your, "dear" not even on a bet. Also your anger is starting to show again.



JanahX -> RE: True submissive? (7/25/2011 9:11:41 AM)

Yes you did dear, you wanted to, but he dumped you. (and this is the best part --->he didnt even have to see you naked) Oh and dont forget! Im not the one who is telling the world about it. YOU ARE.



LadyConstanze -> RE: True submissive? (7/25/2011 9:44:22 AM)


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ORIGINAL: JanahX

Yes you did dear, you wanted to, but he dumped you. (and this is the best part --->he didnt even have to see you naked) Oh and dont forget! Im not the one who is telling the world about it. YOU ARE.


Wow, bit nasty? Since you don't have a profile, I'm sure it can't happen to you, but why on earth are you trying to lay into her? She asked a question, a bunch of things weren't clear to her, now how you get that "he dumped her" and all that rubbish is something I don't quite understand, unless you're the guy in question under another profile, which would explain your aggression towards her. On the other hand, you could also just be very miserable and trying to build yourself up by tearing somebody down...



JanahX -> RE: True submissive? (7/25/2011 10:12:33 AM)

I told her I was being nice yesterday, she didnt believe me. She should of left it at that. So all I did was respond to her bullshit. Im not being so nice right now. And as far as you speculating about my private life ... keep wondering. Sometimes I have my profile up, sometimes not.

I was actully trying to give her some sound advice at first. What I really needed to say is that shes got no common sense. zero. And if she doesnt like to hear others opinions, maybe she shouldnt be laying out all her lameass laundry out on the front lawn.

As Ive read ... Im not the only one who shares this opinon. She doenst hear what she wants ... so she attacks the advice giver. Because Im not here kissing her ass & wrapping her bullshit in pink fluffy clouds makes me angry? thats fucking funny.

Oh and heres how he dumped her:

OP wrote: This is just an update for anyone interested. I went and met the person. I did not dress as instructed. Friday i will be meeting him again and there will be a punishment for not following instructions. I'm not sure how I feel about this. i know i do want to move beyond my fear and shyness and i will never do that staying in my room and never trying to embrace this life. Thanks to everyone for all your input and suggestions.

and then she updates again:

So he calls me tonight and says he has to cancel, he's taking on a pet? He tells me he's stopping all communication with all the women he's been talking to. Wtf? Okay, I knew there was something off about him.




Wretchedness -> RE: True submissive? (7/25/2011 10:21:26 AM)

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Yes you did dear, you wanted to, but he dumped you. (and this is the best part --->he didnt even have to see you naked) Oh and dont forget! Im not the one who is telling the world about it. YOU ARE.



Is this where I get all upset because you said he dumped me, and somehow it was because of the way I look????? I don't respond to well to trolls on the internet, sorry.

I might be shy and un-sure of a few things. I admit I’m not that comfortable naked and it has nothing to do with the way I look, and everything to do with my shyness. Do I want to change that? Yes I do. Will I? Yes I will.

I like to work on things I feel are problematic for me. Here’s the deal, “sweetheart” and I use the word loosely. I’m not insecure in every area of my life. Only this area and I won’t be insecure forever. I will learn and grow. I will ask question and take advice from people that are sincere and have something valid to offer.

I know I’m a good person with a lot to offer. So your little attempt to be a bitch didn’t affect me. So sorry. I’m not upset about what happened I was confused more than anything.

But if it helps you get through the day, I’ll pretend that it mattered to me and really hurt my feeling. So everyone can be satisfied. After all I am sub and do am to please.



JanahX -> RE: True submissive? (7/25/2011 10:24:22 AM)

truth hurts.



Wretchedness -> RE: True submissive? (7/25/2011 10:28:26 AM)

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I told her I was being nice yesterday, she didnt believe me. She should of left it at that. So all I did was respond to her bullshit. Im not being so nice right now. And as far as you speculating about my private life ... keep wondering. Sometimes I have my profile up, sometimes not.

I was actully trying to give her some sound advice at first. What I really needed to say is that shes got no common sense. zero. And if she doesnt like to hear others opinions, maybe she shouldnt be laying out all her lameass laundry out on the front lawn.

As Ive read ... Im not the only one who shares this opinon. She doenst hear what she wants ... so she attacks the advice giver. Because Im not here kissing her ass & wrapping her bullshit in pink fluffy clouds makes me angry? thats fucking funny.



What you fail to understand is you and your anger doesn’t matter to me at all. I think it’s actually comical. You're making yourself look stupid. Don't let me get in your way. It's very entertaining.

Oh wait, that bit about you looking stupid, is just my opinion, you can choose to listen to me or not. Just as I can choose to not take advice from little angry people. Even your avatar looks pissed off.



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