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RE: Would you gain weight? - 7/19/2011 12:42:00 AM

KenRath

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The most important part of this question is in terms of healthy or unhealthy. No Dom should ever want their sub to do something that is unhealthy.

That being said if you are within the Healthy weight range for your height then it does not matter whether it is 1 pound or 100 pounds the answer is no.

It would be a different story if you are under weight then it would be a reasonable request. I would never ask my perfectly healthy sub to gain or lose weight.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 7/24/2011 6:24:13 PM

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Yes i would gain only 10 lbs more

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 7/28/2011 6:00:05 PM

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no i would not!!

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 7/28/2011 6:35:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: KenRath
The most important part of this question is in terms of healthy or unhealthy. No Dom should ever want their sub to do something that is unhealthy.

Oh well Damn. A brand new rule for true doms. I think I'm up to #246 now. I am SOOOOO fucking glad that I abandoned all the BDSM titles so I don't have to pay any attention to your idiotic rules. Dude, you have a seriously limited imagination if you can't think of any reasons whatsoever that a perfectly reasonable, perfectly well-balanced person might have his wife gain weight.

Here's one for you... Moving stress.... food being used as partial mitigation.... alcohol as another part -- very bad for her.

There. Aren't I an evil fuck?

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 7/29/2011 6:38:50 PM

Marisol

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There is a fetish and lifestyle for Feeders and Feedees. I've had boyfriends in the past who are extreme chubby chasers and are feeders and want me to gain weight. however, sinc I don't like being overweight and want to lose all this fat, I have said no.

It's a very dangerous fetish for a man to have, or anyone, but I know some who do. In fact i am part of a forum called curvage and a lot of the men there are Feeders.

Different strokes for different folks, but I prefer strokes that might not kill me in the long run!

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 7/29/2011 6:53:25 PM

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For me, the answer would be a flat out no. If it were a situation where the s-type was seriously underweight, then it would of course make some sense. But I'm one of those crazy people who has the belief that if I get into a relationship with someone, I do so because I like who they are, and they like who I am. I don't follow the concept of "yes, let's get together so I can "mold" you into what I want you to be."

And this is the reason why I said no.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 7/29/2011 11:15:41 PM

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No. i guess i need to add that to my hard limits.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 7/31/2011 11:43:56 AM

ZeroPup

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....No way....

I mean... Hell no. :S I'm eating "healthy" stuffs all the time (which i would have never put in my mouth otherwise [although i got to like some of them ^^"" ]), to keep my weight. I also have recently decided to reduce my body fat percentage to 14%. (16% right now.) I'm bicycling more than 150km/week, spending more time than any of my girl-friends, to keep myself in a good form. >.<""""""""""""""""""""""""
It's extremely important for me. Keeping myself in the best possible shape is part of my submission.

I do understand that some might think that this isn't submissive. But for me, it is part of my self, part of my pride.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/1/2011 10:46:26 AM

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Why hell yeah! What better excuse to indulge in cookies and ice cream? But I would not exceed a healthy weight, that would just be silly.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/1/2011 12:36:58 PM

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You use the word Master, but also use the words 'preferred' and 'to please him'.

My take on it is this:

If I was in a M/s dynamic, and it was along the lines of his 'preference' is simply a polite command, and since I was in a M/s relationship then yes, I'd do it.

If I was in a M/s dynamic, and it was along the lines of his 'preferences' were to take high priority, but where not considered a command; I'd probably still do it, because 'pleasing him' would almost certainly be a driving force in any M/s relationship I would be in.

If I was in a M/s relationship where I dismissed his wishes/preferences and made my own decisions counter to what pleased him, I don't imagine I'd be in the M/s relationship very long.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/1/2011 3:29:43 PM

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Why hell yeah! What better excuse to indulge in cookies and ice cream? But I would not exceed a healthy weight, that would just be silly.

I gotz 'a homemade blueberry pie with your name on it!

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/1/2011 3:31:51 PM

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There. Aren't I an evil fuck?

No, kitty, you're not.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/1/2011 5:00:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

You use the word Master, but also use the words 'preferred' and 'to please him'.

My take on it is this:

If I was in a M/s dynamic, and it was along the lines of his 'preference' is simply a polite command, and since I was in a M/s relationship then yes, I'd do it.

If I was in a M/s dynamic, and it was along the lines of his 'preferences' were to take high priority, but where not considered a command; I'd probably still do it, because 'pleasing him' would almost certainly be a driving force in any M/s relationship I would be in.

If I was in a M/s relationship where I dismissed his wishes/preferences and made my own decisions counter to what pleased him, I don't imagine I'd be in the M/s relationship very long.

But would you pick for a potential master, someone who made it clear that his fetish was more important than your health? Because I wouldn't.

The Man will take me out for ice cream sometime, or buy me a candy bar. The important thing is that it's occasional. He wouldn't demand I ate nuts if he knew I was allergic to him.

And if he was the kind of person to do that, then I wouldn't have picked him for a partner. I need my partner to take better care of me than I do of myself. That's one of my criteria. Somebody who would insist I become less and less healthy is not someone I could trust.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/1/2011 6:42:06 PM

DarkSteven

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There is a local man who calls himself a Master, who IMO has no self-discipline. Among other things, he has his (much younger) submissive dress in provocative clothing, to show her off. I could see someone like that having a submissive gain or lose weight to please his idea of what she should look like....

Women's weight and appearance tie strongly into their self-esteem, as well as their health. I have been in a situation where I was with a woman who had let herself go, and her weight became a health concern. In that situation and in that situation ONLY I tried to get her to do something about her weight, but was unsuccessful.

I would expect my submissive to gain or lose weight for me, BUT it would be based on what I thought was healthy and right for her, not to feed some fantasy of mine that might hurt her self-image or health. No man who would do that could have earned the right to request that in my eyes.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/1/2011 7:35:22 PM

WinsomeDefiance

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

But would you pick for a potential master, someone who made it clear that his fetish was more important than your health? Because I wouldn't.

The Man will take me out for ice cream sometime, or buy me a candy bar. The important thing is that it's occasional. He wouldn't demand I ate nuts if he knew I was allergic to him.

And if he was the kind of person to do that, then I wouldn't have picked him for a partner. I need my partner to take better care of me than I do of myself. That's one of my criteria. Somebody who would insist I become less and less healthy is not someone I could trust.

Hi DesFIP,

I understand your point and understand that a whole lot of variables come into play. I chose to boil the question down to its simplest component, which in my mind was: "Obey & concede to my owners preferences/wishes, or disregard them and concede that I wasn't in/or wouldn't long be in a M/s relationship."

In my mind, why would I commit myself to a M/s relationship, if I wasn't prepared to obey. If I wasn't prepared to obey, then I wouldn't call it a Power Exchange relationship and I wouldn't (by default) be calling him Master to begin with.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/2/2011 7:24:13 AM

DesFIP

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I know that but the more important question to my mind is why anyone would agree to commit to a m/s relationship with someone who had demonstrated profoundly that they enjoy breaking their toys.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/2/2011 8:25:11 AM

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I know that but the more important question to my mind is why anyone would agree to commit to a m/s relationship with someone who had demonstrated profoundly that they enjoy breaking their toys.

Because that person enjoys being broken? There's quite a few around. They're everywhere on here.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/2/2011 8:42:52 AM

leadership527

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance
I understand your point and understand that a whole lot of variables come into play.

Variables which Des (and a whole lot of other posters) are totally ignoring in an effort to dumb the question down to some cookie cutter answer. I don't know about others but I have been owning Carol for a few years now and in those few years I have been presented with LOTS AND LOTS of situations which didn't go according to "the book". In fact, very little of my life fits into "common BDSM wisdom".

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/2/2011 10:56:28 AM

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Well one of the keys to enjoying life, I believe, is the ability to be flexible when the unplanned stuff comes up. But in regards to the question, I'd have to say I wouldn't have given authority of my life over to someone whose character I didn admire and trust. I can honestly say at this point in my life he would NOT tell me to gain weight because it would be counter productive to our goal for my weight loss effort.

Who knows though. Maybe in the future he'll think I lost too much and have me put some back on. But today that order is pretty inconceivable and I'd think he lost his mind.

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RE: Would you gain weight? - 8/2/2011 2:07:42 PM

Back2theFuture

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Muscle or fat?

Though for some of us(YAYS) that suffer from from certian genetic conditions(hyper metabolism) getting fat is extremely hard to do.

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