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ORIGINAL: imperatrixx

I act very childish sometimes and sometimes I even try to be cutesy but a roleplay dynamic based on the idea of fucking a surrogate father is way past my comfort level.

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ
he is simply acknowledging the child-like sense of wonder which I have never lost.

Daddy is just a part of who he is within the All that he is to me.

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ORIGINAL: imperatrixx

I act very childish sometimes and sometimes I even try to be cutesy but a roleplay dynamic based on the idea of fucking a surrogate father is way past my comfort level.

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

We are in a little girl Daddy relationship, but it's not role play for us. I really do regress to the age of a small child, have child like behaviors and needs, and am child like / a child on an emotional level. it's not pretend, it's not something I can put on and take off at whim like role play is.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
I am seeking Daddy/girl relationship... not the age play aspect, but the authority dynamic that surrounds it. I am not into being a "lil girl" either, I am all grown up

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What Is A Daddy Dom?

Daddy/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. Nor does it imply closet desires. In my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy *s*) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman.

He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals. Daddy Dom is a feeling, an environment that two people have created. A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.

So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom?

A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created. To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline.

His love for his little girl goes without saying. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.

This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his little girl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it’s value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him.

He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust, she must know he means what he says. If his little girl is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.

If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.

This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.

A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.

Daddy Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive. Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissive's masochism. This balance is necessary to many little girls because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.

I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in the submissive’s life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants crave.

There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

 
Source: http://www.domsubfriends.com/voye/articles/110/

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ORIGINAL: Hisprettybaby

~FR~
This is something I wrote on DD/lg awhile back as I see it. But I can only speak for myself so, before anyone takes issue with it, this is my opinion and YMMV.

Some of my 'nilla friends have asked me to explain what DD/lg means. I said I can't tell you what it means for anyone else, but I can tell you what it means to ME and what it does NOT mean. It does NOT mean I have incest fantasies about my father. NOT at ALL. I mean, eeeewwww, bleah, and all that! It DOES mean unconditional love and trust, in both directions. It's having someone in my life....Daddy....that remains calm and in control when I'm all freaked out and upset.

Remember how you looked up to your father and, as a little girl, you'd do just about anything to please him and make him happy? How his approval was all important to you? How he seemed bigger than life in YOUR life? How he was there to save you from the big meanies? How his hugs seemed to make everything better? Well, it's all that, except that you're not related by blood or adoption. All this AND an adult relationship too. Yes, we are two adults and we both know that, but it's still possible to have all that in a relationship.

Now, about ageplay, the way I see it. There are ageplayers, regressers, and some who do both or neither. I see ageplay in DD/lg as playing the role of a child, as in let's pretend. A person dresses, acts, and/or talks as if younger in age, ranging from infant to adult child but are fully aware that this is just pretend. Regression is taking on behaviors and emotions and needs of an age younger than one's biological age. On the surface, regression can look a lot like ageplay but, the difference is, regressers are actually feel younger mentally and emotionally that younger age while they are regressing.

~Hisprettybaby~

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ORIGINAL: captnkurk

Ok, COOL!! This was all I was trying to do was to start a conversation about it. I'm still learning too and I do like Hisprettybaby's take on it. I'm the type that likes the taboo/incest side of it sometimes and love getting into the crazy sex talk like "shhhh, mommy's asleep" "I want to fuck your little pussy" "I want daddy to fuck me" and stuff like that. The age play I like is just pretending your a teen. Not diapers, baby bottles, pacifiers and all that. I like you dressing up young, talking young and being innocent, being a little naive and love it when you submit to me. All the sex aspect of it is a huge turn on and completely endless if you want it to be. The relationship part of it like the trust, affection, cuddling, kissing, being close, the emotions that go back and forth in this worl is awesome too and I definitely like all that as well......I generalized a bit but that's some of what I like......

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ORIGINAL: Hisprettybaby

~FR~
This is something I wrote on DD/lg awhile back as I see it. But I can only speak for myself so, before anyone takes issue with it, this is my opinion and YMMV.

Some of my 'nilla friends have asked me to explain what DD/lg means. I said I can't tell you what it means for anyone else, but I can tell you what it means to ME and what it does NOT mean. It does NOT mean I have incest fantasies about my father. NOT at ALL. I mean, eeeewwww, bleah, and all that! It DOES mean unconditional love and trust, in both directions. It's having someone in my life....Daddy....that remains calm and in control when I'm all freaked out and upset.

Remember how you looked up to your father and, as a little girl, you'd do just about anything to please him and make him happy? How his approval was all important to you? How he seemed bigger than life in YOUR life? How he was there to save you from the big meanies? How his hugs seemed to make everything better? Well, it's all that, except that you're not related by blood or adoption. All this AND an adult relationship too. Yes, we are two adults and we both know that, but it's still possible to have all that in a relationship.

Now, about ageplay, the way I see it. There are ageplayers, regressers, and some who do both or neither. I see ageplay in DD/lg as playing the role of a child, as in let's pretend. A person dresses, acts, and/or talks as if younger in age, ranging from infant to adult child but are fully aware that this is just pretend. Regression is taking on behaviors and emotions and needs of an age younger than one's biological age. On the surface, regression can look a lot like ageplay but, the difference is, regressers are actually feel younger mentally and emotionally that younger age while they are regressing.

~Hisprettybaby~

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ORIGINAL: Giermo

Ha. I am too young to get behind the "I'm your daddy" aspect of that type of relationship.

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

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ORIGINAL: captnkurk

Ok, COOL!! This was all I was trying to do was to start a conversation about it. I'm still learning too and I do like Hisprettybaby's take on it. I'm the type that likes the taboo/incest side of it sometimes and love getting into the crazy sex talk like "shhhh, mommy's asleep" "I want to fuck your little pussy" "I want daddy to fuck me" and stuff like that. The age play I like is just pretending your a teen. Not diapers, baby bottles, pacifiers and all that. I like you dressing up young, talking young and being innocent, being a little naive and love it when you submit to me. All the sex aspect of it is a huge turn on and completely endless if you want it to be. The relationship part of it like the trust, affection, cuddling, kissing, being close, the emotions that go back and forth in this worl is awesome too and I definitely like all that as well......I generalized a bit but that's some of what I like......

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ORIGINAL: Hisprettybaby

~FR~
This is something I wrote on DD/lg awhile back as I see it. But I can only speak for myself so, before anyone takes issue with it, this is my opinion and YMMV.

Some of my 'nilla friends have asked me to explain what DD/lg means. I said I can't tell you what it means for anyone else, but I can tell you what it means to ME and what it does NOT mean. It does NOT mean I have incest fantasies about my father. NOT at ALL. I mean, eeeewwww, bleah, and all that! It DOES mean unconditional love and trust, in both directions. It's having someone in my life....Daddy....that remains calm and in control when I'm all freaked out and upset.

Remember how you looked up to your father and, as a little girl, you'd do just about anything to please him and make him happy? How his approval was all important to you? How he seemed bigger than life in YOUR life? How he was there to save you from the big meanies? How his hugs seemed to make everything better? Well, it's all that, except that you're not related by blood or adoption. All this AND an adult relationship too. Yes, we are two adults and we both know that, but it's still possible to have all that in a relationship.

Now, about ageplay, the way I see it. There are ageplayers, regressers, and some who do both or neither. I see ageplay in DD/lg as playing the role of a child, as in let's pretend. A person dresses, acts, and/or talks as if younger in age, ranging from infant to adult child but are fully aware that this is just pretend. Regression is taking on behaviors and emotions and needs of an age younger than one's biological age. On the surface, regression can look a lot like ageplay but, the difference is, regressers are actually feel younger mentally and emotionally that younger age while they are regressing.

~Hisprettybaby~

That's what I think most men find attractive about it and that is why I find it disgusting. I think a lot of fem subs are in denial when they are calling their man "Daddy" and thinking that it is not a sexual incest fantasy thing for the man. At least captnkurk is honest about it.

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I disagree with your assessment.
For many men the combination of Daddy + sex (pseudo-incest) is equally upsetting.
I think you are over-reaching it when you quantify it as "most". It is certainly true for some, but not the majority.
I think many Daddy-Doms view it in much the same way as was in the essay depicted that MasterSlaveLA reprinted for us.


As mentioned, Daddy is just a part of who and what He is to me.

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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

i don't think she's interested in being referred to as "little," Hisprettybaby, so i think you're missing the point. there are quite a few women attracted to a Daddy/girl dynamic who aren't into "typical littleness." i happen to know a few personally.

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88
That's what I think most men find attractive about it and that is why I find it disgusting. I think a lot of fem subs are in denial when they are calling their man "Daddy" and thinking that it is not a sexual incest fantasy thing for the man. At least captnkurk is honest about it.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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I disagree with your assessment.
For many men the combination of Daddy + sex (pseudo-incest) is equally upsetting.
I think you are over-reaching it when you quantify it as "most". It is certainly true for some, but not the majority.
I think many Daddy-Doms view it in much the same way as was in the essay depicted that MasterSlaveLA reprinted for us.


As mentioned, Daddy is just a part of who and what He is to me.

It was not an incest taboo thing for us... he never wanted me to act younger than I am. I never felt as though he had thoughts about much younger women. He did not tend towards very young women in what porn he watched. He usually dated women older than him, and I was the first who was younger that he was involved with long term (only 6 years younger). I am not built like a little girl, I am a 36 DD, long legged, full hipped chicky... so if he was looking for someone he could have that fantasy with, I hardly fit that archetype. What the appeal for me was in how it made me feel.

BTW, not all daddy doms are fathers, so how could they even have an incest taboo unless they knew what fatherhood is? That makes no rational sense to me

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88
I am absolutely entitled to posting based on my experience, as well as my observations regarding this topic.

I know some people in this dynamic that are not overtly into it in the way the OP describes, but how do we know what is really in someone's private life? So yeah, I am sticking to my opinion based on my own evidence as stated above.

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ
Incest fantasy role-play does not mean someone wishes to engage in actual incest