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RE: Content without orgasms - 8/18/2011 7:07:16 AM   
stoni23


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Status: offline 		I've gone 12 days now without orgasm myself. I HATE chastity.

I LOVE orgasm denial while it's happening, but not orgasming for such long periods is terrible. I would NEVER be in a relationship that was permanent chastity. They will know that ahead of time. In fact in my current one she said she wouldn't keep me from releasing every 10 or more days and yet she is anyway lol.

However, it depends on the person. I've seen people perfectly happy going for extremely long times without orgasm. And then I've seen people that couldn't go more than 5 days

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RE: Content without orgasms - 8/21/2011 4:48:27 PM   
moosher121


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Status: offline 		I'd have to place myself in the group of fans of the whole control/denial part.  I've found that I'm more than happy to go without orgasms on a couple conditions.  Basically, I need a reliable source of stimulation, and an outlet for it besides my own.

Basically put, while there's the stimulation, which can be just about anything, with no release on my own part, it lets me channel that energy into fulfilling my partner's desires, which in turn is just more stimulation.  When I get like that and don't cum, I can preserve that feeling for days, and it only gets worse/better the more it happens.  Kind of a circular logic addiction.  Anyways, actually having an orgasm breaks that chain, so once I get in the zone, I'm met with the duality of both wanting to from a physical standpoint, and not wanting to from a mental standpoint.

I've tried it out for a month total once, and for the first couple weeks it was amazing, but the last 7 days or so the stimulation was lost, and everything cooled down and was just kind of boring.

So, to answer the original questions: Yes, I've found it to be very fufilling, and was amazed when I realized it, and now actively desire it.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 8/22/2011 3:37:33 PM   
chastityslaveFE


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quote:

ORIGINAL: freebounds
...the brain releases chemicals when we climax. We need those chemicals. So, everyone who is "content" please google the effects of orgasms on health - both mental and physical. It's not supposed to be a choice to reject.


With all due respect, I don't think this is a proven fact :-)

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RE: Content without orgasms - 8/22/2011 6:42:33 PM   
stoni23


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Status: offline 		I need to add something to my first post there... now that I'm beyond the omg horny stage I'm actually quite happy without orgasms. Just thought I'd add that lol.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 8/22/2011 9:14:05 PM   
fragilepieces


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kallisto

kiwisub, I'm glad to hear you say that. I was beginning to think I am weird.
   

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RE: Content without orgasms - 8/26/2011 7:57:25 AM   
fitnfunsub


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Status: offline 		I'd add yet another of the orgasm/denial but eventually a reward. I love chastity, giving up control (especially with a device as that makes it impossible), and focusing on pleasing my Mistress. And when She decides, then I get to have an orgasm. That is an important part of the D/s dynamic for me. Others will see it differently. What works for some doesn't necessarily work for others. There are no rules, other than the ones She makes.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 8/26/2011 11:37:34 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		as i am in a poly relationship the orgasam portion is not a high priority. i do enjoy orgasam but i get more gratification from my partners pleasure. as far as being content i am very content to just be at my Mistress feet if play happens then great but it is not a necicisity for the dynamic for my my Mistress pleasure and happiness are what matters most to me

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RE: Content without orgasms - 8/27/2011 12:08:40 AM   
SoulAlloy


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Status: offline 		Guess I'm the odd guy out as I've always found the foreplay to be sooo much better than the end orgasm... To have your whole body tingling inside, all senses heightened, and then that brief crest and it all crashes down.

Due in part to side effects of meds there have also been a number of times where I haven't ended up in orgasm. I haven't aminded in the least, my sub-side feels happy in pleasuring my other half. My partners in the past have reacted badly to this though, feeling themselves failures despite my bliss state protests. A bit harder for me to fake an orgasm lol

Could I go without long term though? No. The side effects tend to be rather painful, too much arousal with no release. Just my take on things.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 8/27/2011 3:44:59 AM   
Endivius


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Status: offline 		I personally have gone plenty of time without an orgasm, after you break through that absurdly horny period it stops being an issue. I would say I prefer having and giving them, and come to the conclusion that I can live without them. However, I prefer not to.I enjoy recieving an orgasm, and I enjoy giving a woman an orgasm it's probably the most erotic thing visually for me.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 9/7/2011 3:10:50 PM   
JadedInnocence


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Status: offline 		Oh my goodness, I just had an orgasm for the first time in my life earlier this year.  Having experienced them ever since, there is no way in hell I would do without and be content.  Being with someone who worries first about my being pleased (because it pleases him to please me) is great.  Prior to that first time, I was all about them enjoying it and getting the most out of it.  It's nice to know that it's not just, as one of the previous posters said, a means of them to masturbate themselves with my body.  It got to the point that I would lay there and think of pistons.  Just in and out, in and out...when's he gonna be finished?  Having had that previously, I can see why most women would prefer to go shopping to having sex.  Once you actually experience it, though, I have to say it is the culmination of the experience of sex.

What have I been surprised to find rewarding about my submission?  That I actually could have an orgasm, which made sex far more rewarding than it had been, previously.  And it was everything I'd heard about.


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RE: Content without orgasms - 9/9/2011 1:39:36 PM   
UberBrat


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Status: offline 		To me, it doesn't really matter.
While I do hugely enjoy having an orgasm, I would be quite content without one.
Pleasing him, and helping him to achieve one (or several) is more important to me, than my own.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 9/12/2011 7:05:08 PM   
slavemur


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Status: offline 		Even if im denied O for a long time, my body will have its way somehow. I usually have a screaming orgasm from a dream.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 9/13/2011 12:10:18 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Due to life stress, there's been no sex here for several weeks. Neither of us are happy campers.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 9/13/2011 12:22:32 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		I'm content without orgasms since I've never actually had an orgasm.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 9/18/2011 9:04:04 PM   
MyQueensbitchboy


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Status: offline 		My Mistress first began to deny me orgasms in order to keep me aroused.  After a few days she would ask if i wanted to orgasm, and if i had been especially good she would allow me to climax.  The length of time between orgasms has grown longer as time passes.  After a few years i find myself answering no to that question.  i now find if much more pleasurable to feel her love honey as it flows over and around my member.
i know longer remember when the last time i had an orgasm was maybe a month or month and a half ago.  The longer i go the more submissive i become and the more sex becomes about serving her needs.  i am thankful that she sees fit to let me suck her cum or allow me inside her and lose myself in her lovely wet pussy.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 9/18/2011 9:11:17 PM   
QueenInDE


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Status: offline 		It's going on two months bitch boy!! And not sure when I will let you cum again. you are way too submissive and attentive when it's been a while.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 11/9/2011 11:56:58 PM   
ScottFreakshow


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Status: offline 		I`m perfectly content either way.
Whatever he wants, he doesn`t seem bothered if I do or not.
Besides that feeling when he finishes and wraps his arms around me is simply divine.
I did that, I gave him that. Divine.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 11/13/2011 5:14:22 AM   
subjan1962


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Status: offline 		Don't get me wrong i love to orgasm as much as the next person but my pleasure is not important, i am here soley for the use and pleasure of my Master.

He will take me as and when and where he chooses, it has taken a while for me to totally switch off as He uses me but now all that is important to me is that He gets as much pleasure as possible from using my body which belongs to Him 100%

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RE: Content without orgasms - 11/13/2011 5:44:16 AM   
lelloy


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quote:

most of the time this means that my pleasure is not thought of at all,


Other people can't get me to orgasm. Whether it's a relaxation issue or whether I'm just difficult...whatever, I don't let it bother me... *However*, I do expect basic courtesy and for my pleasure to be a factor. Or else I'm leaving. I don't need sex, most of the time I could go without but if I'm being ignored or if my enjoyment becomes a non-issue I've had panic attacks. At very inconvenient moments. And orgasm denial doesn't put me in a submissive mindset, it's just one of those things that's hard enough without someone adding pressure. I don't consider orgasm denial a limit, I just have no desire whatsoever to get involved with those people. Orgasm isn't really the point but I do want my enjoyment and my *happiness* to be a factor in any relationship.

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RE: Content without orgasms - 11/13/2011 6:12:48 AM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		Content? nope. I need orgasms. I can have them in my sleep. Do I have to have them everytime? Nope, but I am not willing to give them up either.

To date, I have yet to meet a man who didn't enjoy giving them to me.

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