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MasterNeo1 -> Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 1:44:56 PM)

Have you ever wondered why others, (or you) are Dominant or submissive?
'So, why are you Dominant/submissive?
Usual answers:
1. 'Oh, I did not choose this path. I was just born Dominant/submissive.'
2. It is my star sign. It possesses a Dominant/submissive trait, that enables me to Dominate others/be submissive to others.
3. I had Dominant/submissive parent(s). Therefore, they passed down their genes to me.
4. I don't know. I just figured i'd give it a try..

What is your view?

Do your parents or star signs contribute to your Dominant/submissive nature?
Or are you simply born into a Dominant/submissive state of mind.

Maybe all this is just nonsense, and you choose the path you want; merely due to your likes, dislikes, curiosity and experiences.



coookie -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 1:53:29 PM)

nature and nurture made me who i am.

With those i am in a romantic relationship with, i tend to take a more submissive and sub-serviant role because it is what feels the best for me.



Minutte -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 1:55:49 PM)

I do not know whether or not there has been any one cosmic or familial influence in my being submissive.
I am certain that whatever confluence of influences, they met here somehow because here I am.

All I know is that I  love how it feels to fulfill a traditional female roll where the man is in charge, and I am the receptacle for his passions.
What I get in exchange for my service to his inner and outer emotional and physical needs is the sense of worth. This is not because I have low self-esteem to begin with...quite the opposite. I am worthy. However, his desire for my mind and body is complete.  I have no question of my value. In his care and under his protection, I know I am priceless. To be submissive is for me an affirmation of that worth.



Epytropos -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:11:12 PM)

I would guess it's a biological predisposition combined with my having been raised in a male-dominated family. Hard to be certain, of course. I used to spend a lot of time contemplating this sort of thing, but as time has gone on I've seen less benefit in it. It just doesn't really have that much impact on my life - it is what it is and I couldn't change it if I wanted to (which I don't).



JWriter -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:12:57 PM)

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I would guess it's a biological predisposition combined with my having been raised in a male-dominated family.

Wow! Take out the word family, insert the word society, and, there is my answer.



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:18:49 PM)

I'm neither. Basically I'm just here for the free pizza



Wolf2Bear -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:19:14 PM)

Predestined.  Actually it's not something I felt I needed to discover the whys and wherefores. Just too many variables which make me who I am and I just be.



LinnaeaBorealis -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:19:29 PM)

There's free pizza????????



Wolf2Bear -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:21:16 PM)

~whispers in Linnae's ear...and cookies~



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:21:34 PM)

~frowns~ That's what I was told



myotherself -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:23:41 PM)

I tried it. I liked it. I kept it.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:23:53 PM)

Is it going to be a lovely veggie pizza with spinach, olives, and mushrooms? Or a nasty, greasy meat pizza with pepperoni?

B/s I like the veggie pizza. I think it's genetics, but it could based on anecdotal experience....all that greasy meat pizza that makes me want to hurl.....ew ew ew .

There's a point here, think about it.





LinnaeaBorealis -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:24:46 PM)

Ok, seriously. When I was about 3, something happened in my family & I decided to be the best child ever in the history of the Universe & maybe it wouldn't ever happen again. And apparently it worked, because that particular thing didn't happen again. I grew up submissive & I liked it. I liked not having to make decisions, to just do what I was told, to wait on people & take care of them. So I've been submissive my whole life, except for that period when I thought I should be like my sister & my mother & be in control of the men in my life. Took me a couple of decades to realize that was why I was so miserable in my relationships. Once I accepted my submissiveness, I've been so much happier & content.

Right now I'm single & not submissive to anyone & it's very difficult for me.



Tantriqu -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:27:05 PM)

- Parents, no, not directly. Raised in very traditional furry-male-dominant family and extended family, but did see the rank unfairness of it all.
- Astrology is for the weak of thinking.
- I didn't know there was such a thing as a Domme. Of course, I'd seen the misogynous troll porn of the whip-wielding red-leather-and-stiletto clad sadist who weally twuly wanted to be dominated [:'(], but didn't know there were really, truly good men who need to kneel and Serve which makes my libido overflow. Found that out with my first real boyfriend :-) and haven't looked back since. And yes, accepting, indeed, revelling in, my sexual dominance made me happier.
- Perhaps there is something to intrauterine testosterone exposure: yes, my ring finger is longer than my index.



Marisol -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:29:40 PM)

Nurture, I suppose. I had a rough childhood, received little affection from males, had no real male role model. I became bitter and jaded. It's almost like taking out my frustration of my abuse and the disappointment of my father out on males. I never was able to control the males who hurt me in my life, I felt helpless as a child, and I don't want to feel such anymore.

I was an overly sexual person from a young age as well, the early introduction to sexual things no doubt played it's part. Vanilla sex just doesn't do it for me, I find no please in it. Neither do vanilla relationships, I grow bored quickly and can't keep interested.

It could be a million things that contributed though. I'm not entirely sure, but I sure as hell don't mind. xD



LinnaeaBorealis -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:29:55 PM)

What does the relative length of those two fingers have to do with anything?



leadership527 -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:32:37 PM)

I'm socially dominant I suspect both from some nature and some nurture.... heavy on the nurture part. Answer #1

I'm doing WIITWD with Carol because we ran into it online and it seemed worth giving it a go and it seems to be working out well. Answer #4



littlekitten1 -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:34:55 PM)

I dont have the answer... I just know that Ive had submissive tendencies, and desires for being held captive(even some humiliation) since I was a kid... I think my earliest fantasy/memory is from when I was  5 or so... I know it was before school, and in denmark, kids go to school when they are 6 i believe...

Yea... dunno what made me this way. It's mind boggling. On that note... Why do I like pizza too? hmmm...



OwnedFemaleFlesh -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:37:51 PM)

I'm submissive because I'd always been a masochist, and when I discovered the online BDSM community, all these D/s fantasies seemed really hot in a crazy, taboo way. I couldn't get it out of my head, and eventually I decided to give it a go. I still consider myself a masochist who likes to submit, rather than a submissive.

owned xxx



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Why are you Dominant/submissive? (7/30/2011 2:40:18 PM)

i grew up in an old-fashioned religious family but i didn't feel that the gender-specific/superiority stuff worked for me. however, i did recognize pretty early on that i was happy when i helped other people be happy. =p so i don't know... the environment/nurture was what caused me to rebel, but my nature was pretty obvious to me and was what brought me back around (combined with a very fulfilling relationship with a guy who didn't believe in gender superiority, either -- perhaps that's an environment/nurture situation, too).
who knows. it's fun and it makes me happy. that's all i need to know, i guess.



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