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dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 3:07:54 PM

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Should a dominant nature be allowed to surpass being a real gentleman? What are your thoughts?

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 3:12:24 PM

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That depends on your definition of what a "real gentleman" is I would guess.
Dominant people come with all types of personalities, you just have to find one that suits you.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 3:17:19 PM

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Different people do have different personalities. However, I take care of my lady.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 3:19:09 PM

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thats right it all depends on who the man is and where are not he wants to be a gentleman or just be a dom/master or both you should find the dom/master that is right for you and see if you are the right sub/slave for him and if so give it all you can

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 3:26:57 PM

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There is a time and a place for gentlemanly conduct, a time and a place to be direct and forceful. Being both a Dom and a Gentleman isn't mutualy exclusive.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 3:32:56 PM

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I expect my Dominant to know when and where to behave as a gentleman, as much as I know when to behave like a lady and when to behave like a slut.
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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 3:37:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: bbwblksublilgrl

Should a dominant nature be allowed to surpass being a real gentleman? What are your thoughts?

First, welcome to the boards. :)

I have to agree with RavenMuse. I don't find they need to be mutually exclusive. It's a matter of how important it is to the individual if that's something which they seek. For me, 'gentleman' takes second place to dominant nature. I don't need someone to hold my chair or open my car door for me. Although it can be nice on occasion, it's a treat so cherished when it happens as opposed to something I am used to having.

That said, rude and condescending don't work at all with me. A happy medium is good enough and I'm content.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 4:12:15 PM

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As RavenMuse and BitaTruble said:
To be both a Dom and a gentleman are not contradictory at all.
No, not at all.....

Humble regards and respect to the gentlemen who just happen to be Doms.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 4:20:25 PM

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I prefer my dom to be both, but I agree that there is a time and place for everything.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 4:30:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: maybemaybenot

I expect my Dominant to know when and where to behave as a gentleman, as much as I know when to behave like a lady and when to behave like a slut.
mbmbn

stated perfectly!!!!!

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 4:44:05 PM

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The truth is we ALL should just be ourselves, then find someone compatible.
Being a dominant male, I know for a fact there is absoutely nothing wrong with the manner in which I conduct myself, just as long as wiitwd (whatever it is that we do) is done in a mutually gratifying way. But I will never fail to treat my beloved with the utmost respect, for in my humble opinion it is a beautful thing to find one that I actually adore and cherish, while at the same time having a penchant for some very delightful use and abuse on occasion (which by the way is about every 47 seconds).

I have noticed that some female subs/slaves do not go for such an approach as they seem to require a bit more harsher treatment, which is certainly fine if it's what one finds to be fulfilling. But in all honesty, it's all about what we find fulfilling in the 'needs' area, not particularly the 'wants' and 'desires' area. But to each their own.

As I said, it's far more important to simply be yourself regardless of station.

And by the way bbwblksublilgrl, welcome to the forum dear lady. Hope you enjoy your stay.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 5:26:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: MrMister

Being a dominant male, I know for a fact there is absoutely nothing wrong with the manner in which I conduct myself, just as long as wiitwd (whatever it is that we do) is done in a mutually gratifying way. But I will never fail to treat my beloved with the utmost respect, for in my humble opinion it is a beautful thing to find one that I actually adore and cherish, while at the same time having a penchant for some very delightful use and abuse on occasion (which by the way is about every 47 seconds).

Awesomely put. My Master is a Dom, a biker and a true gentleman. I see no contradiction there nor for that matter does his wife, my Mistress. He brings us both flowers on appropriate occasions, does not let me carry the heavy stuff, has impeccable manners and is still capable of hanging me by my wrists and flogging me.

I think most women would prefer this type of Dom.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 5:27:57 PM

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thank you Mrmister for the welcome.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 5:35:22 PM

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twicehappy...I love your posts. It is so gratifying to see one as happy as you are. I wish we could all find the fulfillment you have. Your Master and Mistress are lucky indeed.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 5:41:51 PM

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Blush, lol, thank you though i consider myself to be the lucky one.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 5:50:56 PM

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Welcome, bbwblksublilgrl (we're gonna have to shorten that or give you a nickname or something lol).

Being a dominant and a gentlemen do not have to be exclusive, nor do they have to go together. As jali said, you'd really need to give your definition of a "gentleman"...

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/19/2006 8:20:32 PM

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I prefer gentlemen; be they Dom Sub or Vanilla

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/20/2006 5:13:45 AM

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Being a gentleman and being a dominant are not mutually exclusive of each other, nor does being dominant give one license to excuse his own poor behavior, which many attempt to do. A jerk is a jerk, whether he's dominant or not. Actually, having re-read that just now, I'd have to say that being a jerk has nothing to do with being dominant at all, he's just a jerk trying to use something he's not to validate himself.

I do have to wonder, however, if you've recently had contact, email, instant message, etc., with someone who did not behave in a gentlemanly fashion in the guise of dominance. If so, I'd say not to waste any time on him, if he's not the sort of person you're seeking.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/20/2006 7:06:53 AM

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I consider myself a gentleman even when I am playing as I respect her limits and I make damn sure she doesn't get hurt to a major degree. I am also her protector.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/20/2006 7:16:34 AM

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being a gentleman is making your girl happy and if being a jackass to her makes her happy then you're a true gentleman. I still act like a gentleman in some aspects though. I wont lend her to anybody and I wont let anybody talk shit to her, also when she needs me I take care of her, she can be very emotional sometimes. Being a gentleman is both making your girl happy and taking care of her. It depends on love too.

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