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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 5:51:05 AM

leatherorlace

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If you want to see an instant pout or near look of horror, just let Me reach for a door to open. Both of My girls rush forward to open the doors of those places that don't have the "Open Sesame" auto doors. Having been born and raised in Georgia, some of My upbringing still comes into play and I find it difficult to not do certain things, but if it's one of those tasks that they have claimed for themselves, I usually permit them their little flourishes of service.
Both have difficulty handling My heavy equipment bags, even the ones on rollers can be difficult for them since both are five-four, strong, but still unable to wrestle the bags in and out of the vehicle without a lot of difficulty. They both claim embarressment if someone see Me assisting them, and since My purpose isn't to cause them harm or hernias, I can become a tad snappy with them when, i see them struggling with a heavy object.
   I always enter first, leave first, choose the seating, and whenever possible, I'll attempt to be seated in the area of a favored waitress so that they can serve Me without attracting undue attention from a sulled up coffee commando. It's important to Me to have them enjoy their meals even when they're buttering My bread, preparing My coffee, cutting My steak, peeling My shrimp and wrestlin' the "goodie" from the crab or lobster that are so plentiful on the buffets here in Sin City.
   Since I sheared My long hair, I now keep My head shaven, but have retained My long Fu Manchu style goatee and moustache. If I have no plans or appointments outside our home, I seldom shave My cheeks or neck until there's a reason for it. They enjoy using the clippers on My head, jowls, neck and genital areas, and you can hear them squeal with distress if they nick Me during the operations. lol
   The manners that were taught Me as a child and young adult are hard to disregard, but, I've managed to not make a huge thing of it except when, I have one of My single tails in hand. weg
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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 6:27:09 AM

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Is very wary -- and not interested in -- Men who are rude. IMHO, real Doms and Masters have very good manners. Rude Men always strike me as vanilla men who think subbies are an easy lay.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 6:49:50 AM

shivvy

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ORIGINAL: maybemaybenot

I expect my Dominant to know when and where to behave as a gentleman, as much as I know when to behave like a lady and when to behave like a slut.
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i agree 100%.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 6:54:39 AM

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First and foremost, I agree being a DOM and a gentleman is not a difficult task, there is a time and a place for both, having been in the lifestyle for more years then I care to admit I have found that being both in the proper time and place has allowed me to demand a higher level of respect in both realms, and also keeping a tighter grip on reality. As far as what i have read i do have some issues with some subs "expecting" certain things???

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 10:04:53 AM

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In the same way I want to be a slutty, wanton sex machine for my guy

Gawd Bearlee, I'm probably in love with you LMAO

Sorry, I have been picking on you today in a couple of threads. Sometimes, I just can't help it

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 10:30:07 AM

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^5s Couldn't have said it better Myself so I won't... LOL

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 10:35:27 AM

leatherorlace

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I suppose that, I'm as tired of the weekend players as you are; "spank Me, use Me, make My hubby a cute crossdresser, make him pleasure you sexually, hump his rump while, I take you from the rear with My gigantic strapon" is one of the refrains that aren't sent to My mailbox, and these fantasizers can't seem to comprehend that the info' on My profile is what, I'll accept and that doesn't include turning he husband into a cumm junie so that she can have more anonymous encounters under the guise of practicing a lifestyle other than that of casual swingers.
My libido is healthy and loves to be indulged with huge portions of delicious deviance, but, I still haven't developed a real need or desire to poke their hubby's boypussy between using her orifices. As much as I love My single tails, I can't even bring Myself to offer to allow them to "stand" for Me because, I won't defy the tenets of My House and expose Myself to things that, I find repugnant or eeeeckyyy in My mind.
Decades and decades of indulging Myself in all those things that, I wanted to do, plus exposing those that, I knew or owned to the enormity of My sexual imagining and creativity has served Me well, and no, I won't accept that, I'm homophobic. If I was, I would have never owned male slaves or trained them for their new "mistresses".
I've only owned two male slaves that were worthy of the name slave; the rest eventually began to try to manipulate Me into taking advantage of their orifices despite their knowing that it held no interest for Me and in fact had been pointedly told that it would not happen.
If I had chosen to use them, I still wouldn't be offering an apology to them or anyone else, including Myself. My creativity is best served when, I have more than one male slave in My House and/or the use of a Peers propertys.
Slaves can cause One to lose their religion if tolerating their manipulative methods, or allowing them to be the masturbatory predators in the local porn pottys. A slave that isn't willing to serve and serve with dedication and devotion even when their sexual releases aren't catered to is of little interest to Me.
AHHHHHHHH, what was the question?! wefg
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DOM4POLY

First and foremost, I agree being a DOM and a gentleman is not a difficult task, there is a time and a place for both, having been in the lifestyle for more years then I care to admit I have found that being both in the proper time and place has allowed me to demand a higher level of respect in both realms, and also keeping a tighter grip on reality. As far as what i have read i do have some issues with some subs "expecting" certain things???

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 10:42:52 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DOM4POLY

First and foremost, I agree being a DOM and a gentleman is not a difficult task, there is a time and a place for both, having been in the lifestyle for more years then I care to admit I have found that being both in the proper time and place has allowed me to demand a higher level of respect in both realms, and also keeping a tighter grip on reality. As far as what i have read i do have some issues with some subs "expecting" certain things???

sorry, i neva ment i expected something or else, but i just expect my Master to know wotz right and do the right thing. Perhaps "expect" woz the wrong word to use. sorry

... Perhaps i shoulda said that Master just "KNOWS" the right way to act, and when.

Sorry. No disrespect ment DOM4POLY.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 11:02:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: bbwblksublilgrl

Should a dominant nature be allowed to surpass being a real gentleman? What are your thoughts?

Dominant is not synonymous with mannerless.

While it can be said a Master's natural place above his slave does not require him to observe her with consideration to traditional manners, this is not to say he is at his core devoid of culture, class and refinement. If the male divine is to be sought, a man should have in his character all the qualities his role as ruler inspire him to have. By exuding an inherent regality and confidence, he inspirits worship. Ignorance, childishness, commonality and vulgarity are surely paths to be avoided.

That was my take on it, anyway.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 11:07:59 AM

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It all depends on that Dominants view of what dominance is and what being a gentleman means. For some they are one and the same, for others, they aren't.

As a non-male, I can't really say I'm much of a gentleman (perhaps later down the road). However, I do understand that my subs are people too. I find that compared to most Masters, I might be rather leinient.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 2:11:43 PM

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So me the gentleman first......... i'll be happy to meet the Dom.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/23/2006 3:20:53 PM

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And no disrespect implied little one, it goes to show that just like in my comments that all things can be accomplished in a gentlemenly manner and still warrant respect. And most of the weekend warrior DOM'S havent figured it out yet.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/24/2006 7:21:20 PM

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The more gentlemanly a man behaves, the more I actually begin to view him as a respectable man of character; therefore the more I would view him as "Dominant/Master material" (for lack of a better term).

Now, nothing against the younger dominant males around here, but I have to say that I have found the older men to be the most gentlemanly and the most well-mannered and classy. I think after they have 20-30 years of Ds experiences, that typical pompous, impatient and demanding brand of dominance that the thirtysomethings practice, begins to fall away and renders a wiser calmer and more patient dominant.

DISCLAIMER: I am speaking in general terms here!! YIKES!!

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/24/2006 9:59:11 PM

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My problem with threads like this is that I have a very different conception from most other people of what constitutes a "gentleman."

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/24/2006 11:38:39 PM

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"Should a dominant nature be allowed to surpass being a real gentleman? What are your thoughts?"

a) define dominant (or 'dominant nature')
b) define 'real gentleman' (vs. 'fake' I suppose)
c) define control

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/25/2006 2:21:17 AM

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A Dominant who is not a gentleman is often just a lout.
A Dominant personality should be tempered with respect, manners, kindness, intelligence, knowledge, gentleness, a personal code of honor.
I don't think you should be considered Dominant without these things. To be missing them is a sign of weakness in some aspect.
And of course, I do not attain these ideals 100% of the time. But I try My best. And that is required of a Dominant and any decent human being.

Oh. And a Dominant gentleman knows when to treat His woman as His sub.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/25/2006 2:25:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kedikat

A Dominant who is not a gentleman is often just a lout.
A Dominant personality should be tempered with respect, manners, kindness, intelligence, knowledge, gentleness, a personal code of honor.
I don't think you should be considered Dominant without these things. To be missing them is a sign of weakness in some aspect.
And of course, I do not attain these ideals 100% of the time. But I try My best. And that is required of a Dominant and any decent human being.

Oh. And a Dominant gentleman knows when to treat His woman as His sub/slut.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/25/2006 4:59:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: PAVANE

thing is becca333 is 'what is the correct way to behave in any situation'? seriously who decides what is correct or not.

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/25/2006 10:22:18 AM

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Not speaking for all DOM's in there forty's and beyond...lol the arrogant and pompous attitude is a thing of the past (or should be..if not grow up).I myself truthfully look for a lady in public and a whore(sub/slut/slave) in the bedroom and a true sub/slave knows exactly when to turn it on and off or should have been taught when by her DOM. Being a gentleman takes no more time or effort then it takes to be an asshole...but the results are better being a gentleman

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RE: dom vs gentleman.. - 5/26/2006 4:51:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: DOM4POLY

. Being a gentleman takes no more time or effort then it takes to be an asshole...but the results are better being a gentleman

I couldn't have said it better myself!

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