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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/20/2006 5:24:18 PM

littlemissub

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and how is that helpful besides telling me things I already know? Try again.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/20/2006 5:39:26 PM

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Dear littlemisssub.... I recently kind of had the same situation...and I adored my Dom...he was as well, very happy with me. But, due to his situation and things we didnt forsee, he has at the last min. found he is going to have to move out of state due to family matters and such. It totally broke my heart....and I cryed for three days, and it still hurts. So...my heart goes out to you too...because Im in that same situation. I guess, you just have to dust yourself off and go back and try to meet a new Dom...and hopefully he will prove to be even better for you. I have a very dear friend and Mentor who was there to tell me that same thing....and it isnt easy...and on days like today...I just want to cry all over agian, because its like...part of me has just...died. So....its ok to cry....but...just keep in mind...maybe it was supose to happen...because the next one...is maybe the best and right one for you. Hope that helps a little......blessings....

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/20/2006 5:43:14 PM

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Dark I totally feel for you and understand. Although my Dom ended it for a different reason, it still hurts either way. If you wanna ever chat and make a new friend or vent or whatever, give me a hollar. I love having new friends. It takes the mind off of issues like this, for a bit anyways.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/20/2006 6:04:07 PM

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Again, I am one who has been in a similar situation. I would say don't rush in to finding a new Dom... because this guy has hurt you it will be difficult to judge a good new potential. I'd just sit back, spend a little time working out things for yourself and then see what the future holds...

...however, don't do a me and jeapordise something which could have potentially been wonderful for fear of being used/hurt in the same way as previous Sir

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/20/2006 8:11:15 PM

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I understand what your saying but it is so hard to put myself out there to someone that has already hurt me. I guess I will just have to wait until that time to find out what I will choose to do. I need to move on though and I would love to find a new/great Dom to fulfill what I am searching for.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/21/2006 4:42:37 PM

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Well, to me it sounds like he's just a player. It's oviouse when he said one thing, than later it was different. To many Dom/Dommies are only in this for the sex and kink, as I would suspect he was.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/21/2006 6:25:25 PM

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I don't think it was for the sex. We had not gotten to that yet and he was the one that made the decision to wait, not me.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/21/2006 10:08:36 PM

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Film maker George Lucas has indicated that the universe is math driven, to be exact, it exists in ones and zeros.

Things either work, or they dont.

Im not sure whether dwelling on things that didnt work is much use for people.

You will find what you are looking for eventually. Keep the faith!

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/22/2006 11:48:44 PM

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My Dom left me 4 weeks ago now and I really thought I was going to fall apart and never recover. He made alot of nonsensical excuses that i could not understand, still don't.

But I know I am better off and get better with each passing day. Painful, OMG, was it ever.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 1:01:55 AM

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thank you tendeergirl for your post. I too have my good days as well as my bad days. Today was a bad one. But the bad ones are getting farther and farther apart so I know I am on the road to recovery. Good luck in your search for a new Dom.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 2:32:17 AM

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You really need to take some time and it sounds like you are. It always sucks when someone leaves, no matter what the reason and no matter what the lifestyle. Allow yourself to hurt. You're very young and have a whole lifetime ahead of you...I know that doesn't help but it's true.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 5:59:00 PM

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thanks bandit. I will keep that in mind. It just kinda sucks, lol.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 8:11:55 PM

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I am sorry for the confusion you are going through but what sounds like to me he might have been married and it his way to break it off. I talked with so many who experience this before only to find out the guy was married. Just be open and honest with what you are looking for in a Master and what you want. If a long term relationship is what you are looking for then say that in your profile. You will find some one who wants the same thing and you will connect with them.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 8:21:05 PM

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oh he wasn't married. I know that for sure. I spent a good portion of my time at his place and he lived with his cousin (who has become a good friend of mine). His landlord actually thought that him and his cousin were gay together until I came on the scene, lol. He is just an old fashioned dude who couldn't tell the difference between two straight guy friends living together and two gay guys living together, lol.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 8:27:49 PM

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First off the scary "c" word is committment
::SHIVER::

Secondly, it sounds to me that your Dom new how to talk and was afraid of actually performing .. no sex, His choice and backing away when things werent' looking like a game any more ... He wanted control but not responsibility, or so it sounds

Of course i could be wrong ... have been before and will be again.

::Sigh::
And i suppose this does not help you at all, either.

i just want to express my sympathy and let you know that i am listening ... there really isn't anything i can do but if i had advice that you ahdn't already gotten i would share it.

Just keep looking forward and some day the glance back won't hurt so much.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 8:33:18 PM

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your thoughts could be very well correct txpet. Thank you for the sympathy and know that knowing someone else understands does really help. It has just simply helped discussing it with people.

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 8:41:39 PM

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i'm glad to hear that talking it out helps. Email me if you ever have a need ... i'm never to busy to listen.
Best of luck!

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 10:35:12 PM

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thank you for the offer. I will keep that in mind. Best of luck to you too!

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 11:02:38 PM

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"my Dom ends it with me, telling me he is not ready."

He's doing you a favor whether you like or not. You obviously don't enjoy it (him stopping the relationship) and I can't blame you but trust me if a dom says he's not ready for what's going on he has your best interests in mind.

Of course that's just my opinion. Results may vary.

D (owner of j).

edit typo fixed. Speellling countz!

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RE: My Dom left me and I feel lost - 5/23/2006 11:10:13 PM

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you're welcome and thank you
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